Hot/Cold attributes of Virgos?

Ok...I'm use to playing the game with men (hey...I'm a Scorpio). However, at 37 I'm trying to let my guard/wall down a bit. After 5 hot and heavy dates w/ Virgo...he has gone completely cold.

Was with Virgo Wed. night into Thursday AM, saw him Friday night while he was at his bar working (he was a bit distant and aloof, I was with friends... then at midnight he vanished)...he has not called me.

So instead of waiting around,letting it eat me up I called him last night and Left a short "Hey, was just thinking about you, give me a buzz". No word yet. Thats the only call I will make, and that one was hard for me. My ego.

How long till these guys come out of their "analyzing mode" if thats what he is doing (thanks virgogotme). Girlfriends say I am too much for him, I scare him.

Should I be honest with him or maybe play hard to get? He is so insecure thats why I wanted to call him to give him warm and fuzzy. Maybe an ego boost? What do these guys want?

Any other feedback?

Woah.

I play with men...lalalala....I dont play this game by it's rule...lalala

20 years later...

Ugh ohh...it doesn't work....ah ah ah ah...help me now I need to continue my game as smoother as I can...ah ah ah.

No man for you...

Get lost..

Please.

Haffo~~

Don't know where you are going with your response. What I meant by the game is I have been hurt so many times in the past that I have built a wall around me to protect myself . Since my divorce, I have pretected myself this way, (not calling men, acting busy when I'm not...many woman are tought this way)...but I don't want to play a game w/ this Virgo. I want to be able to be myself.

That email was harsh...and uncalled for.

Those men with whom you play cannot be treated like that because someone has hurt you before. Dont be prejudice with people, or you will always lose.

I don't want to play this game haffo...period

Well I think NOT playing games with Virgos is a bright idea. Once they sense that is going on, they're normally gone.

I'd suggest what I do with mine. If I want to know what has gotten him into a snit, I simply call him & ask.

The most amt of time he's ever gone without contacting me is 2 days. If they like you, sooner or later they'll call once they settle down & figure things out. They're very analytical.

Help 🙂

Okay I need to slow down.

You actions against people are obviously wrong. Any person with whom you newly met will never be same to anyone. It is not fair to treat someone in particular way just because you felt hurt with someone before. Why should new people be treated badly as a consequences of others. This is not fair. Bad story ends with bad people.

And I'm sorry for my brashness. I just felt pissed off by your telling "playing with men" since there are so many feminist stories around. I thought you are one of them.

Sorry again.

Thanks help!...I really like him and decided to let my wall down.
I have not played a game with him...that why I called him.

Haffo...I guess you misunderstood me. Its not the game so much as it is I dont let anyone into my life easily. I have a major wall and I am very protective of myself. This is my problem and has nothing to do with how I treat someone else...its my own insecurities of being hurt. What I meant by the game is...we spent these great nights together and now he has not called, I was asking (since I rarely call men) if I should call him or not call him?

I'm not one of them and really like Virgo guy.

If you want to call him then call him. If not then not. This is who you are, and just because this is who you are you cant be wrong to yourself when you do something. As for how he will perceive it, well let him figure it out.

Aprilbaby

When you will stop sitting on that vibrator, talk to me again.

"Men need to be hit over the head (i.e. haffo being an example) to get it."

Swings back like in Matrix movie and shows middle finger.

Thanks for the support all. I didn't mean what Haffo is saying.

I left the message last night saying "was thinking about him" I think thats pretty direct.

On the other hand...my friend said something to him in front of all of us that may have scared him. Before I left for overseas, I got a major whisker burn on my chin (I was VERY upset and he knew it) All my friends saw and only 2 knew what really happened. Well, I was with the girls who knew it was form him and they brought it up laughing about it. Although he was laughing as well, I think he was mortified as we were at his bar and he is a very private person and shy. The girl who brought it up knows him so they are friendly, but still.

Could this have put the nail in the coffin or is there recovery here with the Virgo?

PS...when I told him what he did to my chin he said "Oh...just tell everyone your dating a hairy Italian guy and you needed a good exfoliant" so he made light of it as well...

That what usually happens with Aries and me. They always up for laughts. Nothing serious cant stay for long in them.

Actually sophine and me has solved the problem. You just jumped on the situation out of nowhere. That why.

Thanks for your feedback Shaka...I made no mention of any relationship or anything..its all been just "fun" but comfortable for both of us.

As a Virgo male...would you consider what my friend said to him a nail inthe coffin?

Also...not answering my call or not calling me back means he's into me? Huh? Don't get that one.

Hi Shaka...
I never made any impresion on him I wanted anything more. He is the one who had asked how he going to tell other guys in the bar (that had wanted to date me) about "us". And asked if an ex of mine (whom he knows) and called me while I was overseas had said anything about him. I said "no...why would he ask about you?".

So he's assuming I'm telling people but I think he is. His bartender (a friend of his and wants to be my realtor)whom came over my house Friday was drilling me about my "story...a few people want to know if I am single" and he kept mentioning Virgo guys name...waiting for me to say something about him...I didn't. I told him I was very single and looking for a nice guy who is not a game player. Maybe bartender went back and told him that I made no mention of him.

The minute I went over to him at the bar he immediately asked "Are you behaving tonight?" hmmmmm

Virgo trait is to come right out and say "I'm not interested anymore?" WOW...thats news to me when it comes to men in general...and I hope its true.

Well...I have over reacted once again!
VIRGO JUST CALLED.
Said he said Goodbye to me 4x Friday night and I really wasn't listening (too busy laughing with the girls...and a little buzzed) or not paying attention.
Asked what my schedule was like this week and he said "Well How about tomorrow night, because I'm not working"
I asked him "So you're taking me on an actual date?" (only been drinks and at my house)and he said absolutely.
So there ya go my Virgo friends....Scorp freaks once again

HE IS SEXY....

Lol sophie68.

Good luck!

Haffo...thanks ;-p
I'll let y'all know how the date goes...any suggestions?

" I'll let y'all know how the date goes...any suggestions?"

Great. I hope to hear funny and "crazy" things. I just know from my last experiences that Scorpio women are crazy, funny and probably little dirty. Lol

haffo...yes Scopio's are Dirty, fun and crazy , very sensual, sexual ..I'll admit that!! Maybe thats why he called back...hehehehehe
;-p