How do I handle this?

Posted by airfive
and she is an absolute manipulating freak and doesn't stop.

^^Whenever I see something like this, it always strikes me as funny how people are suckers and give into others' demands then turn around and go "omg this person manipulated me", so they won't have to face the reality of their enabling.

Posted by airfive
She comes to America with nothing to work here. and a lot of people at work helped her out. Even me. My friend Vanessa a Taurus lent her 5.000 $ for a car.

^^Ungrateful? Yes. Manipulative? No way.

Posted by airfive
two years have passed she's on her feet never paid Vanessa back.

^^You'd ask the money back if you gave them to a beggar on the street? You wouldn't..so I'm not sure what this is about.

Posted by airfive
Treated me and MANY others at work like sh----t

Yeah, she probably walked all over people because she didn't and still doesn't care.

Posted by airfive
and spread a lot of crap about me to Vanessa and almost severed me and Vanessa's friendship all together.

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No words on the outside can sever a bond between people so maybe this friendship isn't all that you thought out to be. Especially if that person has a questionable integrity, why would either of you listen to her?

Ok, read everything.

This isn't about her coming to America and having no money or talking shit about you people at work.

This is about you being overly possessive of Vanessa and getting pissed off that she gets along with Nal on some levels. That's selfish.

I know how much Libras care for friends but if Vanessa won't give you the time of day, that's not out of manipulation from Nal..that's probably because she doesn't want to get stuck in the middle of this rivalry you have with the Virgo chick. High school stuff.

To sum it up: Ungrateful? To high heavens probably. Manipulative? Not at all.

Not trying to offend you Libra, just adding my perspective. Other Virgos will chime in 🙂

You sound very young, immature and petty.

You are at work, you are suppose to be focusing on your job - not dramatically flapping around like a child crying because you don't have all/control off of the toys.

Posted by P-Angel

You are at work, you are suppose to be focusing on your job - not dramatically flapping around like a child crying because you don't have all/control off of the toys.

ummm exactly that's my question...I am doing my job...and hers...as she doesn't do her job..she focuses on MY where abouts WHO I m talking to and Vanessa is just the problem I had mentioned as shes more close in my circle of friends and thus makes Nal closer to my personal life...but off the personal note and lets take Vanessa out of the equation...Nal STILL monitors everything I do...and who I talk too..even the freaking boss...if I talk to the boss out of casual chit chat...she BUYS the boss something and want s to take a smoke break with them..she will very clearly state to me in a disrespectful voice "don't help me ive got it" so I wont help her...only to hear from other coworkers that she bitches how I don't help her...I finally cleared that up today with the 2nd boss up...who also has had issues with her but cant do anything about it at the moment..i am very good at my job and am a top employee...shes not on top shes just average..but shes in a different section so whydoes it freaking matter? plus she seems to be in love with disorganization...she keeps everything disorganised and makes things hectic when im not around...in my opinion she makes the job APPEAR harder that it is so that others feel they need her...then I come into work and I simplify everything and put it all on track in a matter of seconds..luckily the right people have been noticing...but that's not why I was on here...my question was WHY is SHE TARGETING ME? Job and education wise I AM fine...but I am talking about HER...it even gets as petty as she dyed her hair the same color as mine because everyone made a fuss about my hair..and if I talk to ANYONE she jumps in and interrupts...soo can someone please enlighten me on this situation if you can? not just a smart remark to make yourself sound in the right because you don't want to answer the question.

I guess what I was wanting is a way to deal with her...what could I possibly be doing to make her like this? I am always polite though now I completely ignore her...not when its work related I am very much there...which then she gets all nice and starts pulling shit again...I avoid chit chat and personal shit with her...I cant joke with her as she twists everything i sat so I don't have casual contact with her...that's the ignoring I do...especially since the last few instances...I have a LOT of Capricorn placements..so maybe forgiveness is hard for me but still how can I stop or at least calm this behavior down...im looking for a nicer alternative than just get her fired..as I kind of don't believe in that...maybe im trying to understand her better...someone cant possibly be just a bitch...there has to be something i can look at...my boss asked me if I had a problem with her I said I was handling it..and then my boss said "ok as long as your handling it"...

I know that Story airfive... but hey, come on, you don't OWN that person. Regardless of your feelings to

Vanessa. If the attitude of Nal affects you then, then you should deal your feelings about her and not

how much you helped her before and few to do that to help people. If she didn't even recognized all what

she owed from others... then PRAY for her. She is blind.

It needs to have coffee for that to talk. Invite Nal. You will see how you feel about when you

learn to forgive people and let go of that Jealous Feelings.

If she have a Scorpio rising...Scorpio people are very friendly.

Vanessa Taurus and Nal with a Scorpio rising. They are matched. They just mirroring each other.

Posted by M143

I know that Story airfive... but hey, come on, you don't OWN that person. Regardless of your feelings to

Vanessa. If the attitude of Nal affects you then, then you should deal your feelings about her and not

how much you helped her before and few to do that to help people. If she didn't even recognized all what

she owed from others... then PRAY for her. She is blind.

It needs to have coffee for that to talk. Invite Nal. You will see how you feel about when you

learn to forgive people and let go of that Jealous Feelings.

I read that a virgo sun sign with scorpio rising causes a difficult personality...I wasn't talking about scorpios...scorpios in my opinion have never been "dark" they almost always have a live everyday like your last attitude that's admirable...ive seen when they get angry ok its dark but anyone is...but again this is NOT about jealousy...if you could read my last two posts w/out Vanessa attached to situation it runs the same...I have backed off of Vanessa but it didn't help as this girl STILL is on my ass...that's what im trying to figure out...WHY...

airfive,

Ok. I read it. I think she is just teasing you. Really.

I have lots of Virgo males & females friends. They are nice by the way.

Try to talk with her and tell her what's wrong with her and her intentions. Spit it out.

Posted by airfive

Posted by P-Angel

You are at work, you are suppose to be focusing on your job - not dramatically flapping around like a child crying because you don't have all/control off of the toys.

ummm exactly that's my question...I am doing my job...and hers...as she doesn't do her job..she focuses on MY where abouts WHO I m talking to and Vanessa is just the problem I had mentioned as shes more close in my circle of friends and thus makes Nal closer to my personal life...but off the personal note and lets take Vanessa out of the equation...Nal STILL monitors everything I do...and who I talk too..even the freaking boss...if I talk to the boss out of casual chit chat...she BUYS the boss something and want s to take a smoke break with them..she will very clearly state to me in a disrespectful voice "don't help me ive got it" so I wont help her...only to hear from other coworkers that she bitches how I don't help her...I finally cleared that up today with the 2nd boss up...who also has had issues with her but cant do anything about it at the moment..i am very good at my job and am a top employee...shes not on top shes just average..but shes in a different section so whydoes it freaking matter? plus she seems to be in love with disorganization...she keeps everything disorganised and makes things hectic when im not around...in my opinion she makes the job APPEAR harder that it is so that others feel they need her...then I come into work and I simplify everything and put it all on track in a matter of seconds..luckily the right people have been noticing...but that's not why I was on here...my question was WHY is SHE TARGETING ME? Job and education wise I AM fine...but I am talking about HER...it even gets as petty as she dyed her hair the same color as mine because everyone made a fuss about my hair..and if I talk to ANYONE she jumps in and interrupts...soo can someone please enlighten me on this situation if you can? not just a smart remark to make yourself sound in the right because you don't want to answer the question.

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You present yourself as an idiot. She targets you because you're easy to fuck with because you're an idiot.

If you actually did your job, and left all your dramatic bullshit at the door ... then perhaps, you'd have merit at work.

It was an

..... obvious lie what you said about your boss.


In answering me ... it looks like you spent another full post focusing on your dramatic bullshit.


It's obvious that you start most of your bullshit .... because just look here, you can't stop yourself from babbling on and on about drama you're completely engrossed in.


If you had integrity ... you'd just do your job, and stop harboring all of your drama.

How do you handle this? You can't handle things that it out of your control. The libra in you wants things to go back to the balance and harmony that you used to enjoy before. The leo in you suffer as others take the spotlight from you. First of all, you can't turn back the time no matter what you do. So your friend finds a new friend. Big deal. Stop letting things bother you. Maybe you should take this as an opportunity to find yourself a new friend.

Posted by VirgoDragirl
How do you handle this? You can't handle things that it out of your control. The libra in you wants things to go back to the balance and harmony that you used to enjoy before. The leo in you suffer as others take the spotlight from you. First of all, you can't turn back the time no matter what you do. So your friend finds a new friend. Big deal. Stop letting things bother you. Maybe you should take this as an opportunity to find yourself a new friend.

This was the most helpful, logical and unbiased response yet..and frankly what I needed....it got me thinking and away from my clouded emotion...the Libra part was spot on...Leo rising part almost...I started reading back through my posts...when I really thought about it yea I did want things the way they were...but conflict is inevitable and as with most things circumstances change.. throughout my life I have always been able to just go with the flow and not let things like this bother me...that's why this whole Vanessa thing was confusing for me..i ended up overthinking the situation and had TOO much emotion with it...I didn't want to have to lose her in my life...the thought was and still kind of is unbearable.. she s irreplaceable...and something I treasured...it reminded me though that Vanessa and I are now on a friend level I have to back off and treat it as so...the closeness we had will not be like that as friends..

As for the other girl at my job..she's on everyone's shit list at work..I think her being a total disorganized person emotionally and work wise was rubbing off and adding to my grief...

Anyway thank you so much!