How do Virgos deal with heartbreak?

The guy I'm talking to is a Virgo/Libra cusp and just wants to be alone all the time. He says he replays what happened with his ex over and over again in his head like a videotape and wishes he never met him. When I ask to hang out with him, he says he needs to be alone and that he doesn't want me to see him not at his best.

(I wrote a longer post about this on this forum too)

I'm not a boy, but as a virgo I know that breakups can be very, VERY hard on a virgo. When a virgo throws him or herself into something like a relationship, there is always a reason; virgos are picky, so if they pick someone to actually pursue something with, that person is "perfect" for the virgo. Imagine having the person you deem to be perfect turn out not to be. All of the standards, hope, ect, is all gone, and the virgo feels liek he or she was wrong the entire time. This can all be devastating for a virgo, and it takes some time to build that trust again. Also, virgos do not like to be seen at their worst or when they are vulnerable. Virgos take their breakups and their heartbreak seriously.

Yeah, I guess I just need to be patient. I care a LOT about this guy and he's told me he cares about me too. I just need to stop thinking that he's going to drop me all of a sudden and not want to talk to me anymore. That's an asshole-y gemini thing to do, not a virgo thing to do. Especially since he's felt comfortable enough with me to talk about some dark stuff that's happened in his past.

I think the fact that he trusts me enough to talk about bad stuff from his past says a lot about his comfort level with me. I could very much see him as a boyfriend.

^^^

Exactly. The best thing you can do is show your virgo that you aren't planning on leaving HIM anytime soon. If you continue to push him, he'll just distance himself further. He cares about you and he doesn't want to drop you, but he needs time to heal to be able to give you his all. It wouldn't be fair to him nor you if he immediately jumped into something new. Give him his space, but remind him that you are there if he needs you. Your virgo will reward you greatly for your care. Also, take time to focus on yourself as he focuses on himself. Waiting for a virgo does require patience, so as long as you remind him that you do like him, he'll be around in one way or another.