How to win virgo man's push and pull game?

Hi, im dating a virgo man about a month ago. We used to be on same high school but we never get along together. We met on high school reunion and i noticed he often stare at me but nothing happened. Then, we met by mistake on 1st augt ago ( mass for his grandfather who passed away). He asked my phone number and blackberry messenger pin (in my country this app so popular).
Then he chat me, asked me to hangout with him. At first, i refused coz i still 'struggle' with my work. But then after many times he still asked me, i said okay. At first date, he was very gentle&
sweet. He also talked about him, his dream, his work, his ex who push him away because he often busy with his work (he disappear at that moment and his ex thought he was cheating). The next day he asked me 'is it okay if we get more closer'. I said its fine. Then he suddenly asked what our relationship called?. I said we on getting to know each other, but he said 'only that?Thats too abstract'. So i said you want me to be your gf? He said if you want it. Usually im hard to get, i have to know someone better, but i dont know why... i said okay. But he asked me to keep our relationship as secret until he feels sure about it.
Next day, we go to second date (had a lunch together) and had sex. I dont know why i allow him to sex w/ me because i usually dont take a risk with somebody i dont really know well.
But because we work on different states, we have to deal with long distance relationship. At few days, he chat me first (he still on his vacation with his family). But after he back to work, he act distant. Yep, he still reply me but he dont text me first, no chat, no call, nothing. After few days, i said whats going on? He said nothing he just too busy. So, i made space, only chat him (on blackberry messenger) once everyday, sometimes he only read but he dont reply. I try to be patient coz i dont want to rush our relationship too.
31 augt he back to his hometown (where i live) and suddenly he text me first, tell to me that he at his grandfather now. I want to ask him to meet me but i prefer to keep it myself. At night, i attend to another mass for his grandfather who passed away. He act distant again (he even pretend didnt see me) but i noticed he often staring at me.
The next day before he back to his office, he texted me why i dont greeting him. What can i say? I just said 'sorry but i saw you was so 'busy' talked a lot w/ your brother. We still have next time'. He dont reply but he read

31 augt he back to his hometown (where i live) and suddenly he text me first, tell to me that he at his grandfather now. I want to ask him to meet me but i prefer to keep it myself. At night, i attend to another mass for his grandfather who passed away. He act distant again (he even pretend didnt see me) but i noticed he often staring at me.
The next day before he back to his office, he texted me why i dont greeting him. What can i say? I just said 'sorry but i saw you was so 'busy' talked a lot w/ your brother. We still have next time'. He dont reply but he read it (again, we chat on bbm).
Next day i texted him, asked him it is okay for him if i take slow with our relationship? He said its okay. I also know he lie to me about his religion -actually its dont matter for me, but i tried to ask and he never reply it. So, i gave him some space. 5th sept was his bday, so i texted him happy bday, wish 4 his best, and try to get his heart by saying i will always by his side, support him, pray for him and his family and be loyal with him. He replied my text so fast so i though he must be very happy. But, suddenly after i texted that to him, he's 'gone'. No call, no text, no chat, no email, nothing. But, i realize he still update his pic on bbm. So, i try to search about him on facebook. And i 'found' his ex and surprise! She was her 1st love. They broke up on 2013 after 5 years together. Now, i realize maybe he confused about his feeling. I think he only interested with me but he still have feeling for his ex. And i ever heard virgo man take long time to move from his 1st love.
1 thing i notice he will reply my chat/text quite fast if i care about him. But he will reply quite long even dont reply if he feel burdensome with these.
What should i do? Any advice? Im afraid he only use me to be his one night stand (but, why he accept me to be his friend on facebook?why he dont remove me from his bbm?why he said to me after he sure he will commit with me?). Do i have to wait him for initiate first? Because after 31 augt he dont initiate first. How long i have to suffer with this push and pull game? until now, i never call him because im too shy to do that. He ever called me but only when he chase me, before he asked me to his gf. btw, im capricorn (27 des 1989), he was born on 5 sept 1991. Sorry for my bad english. English isnt my native language. Feel free if you want to correct my english 🙂

Posted by doublekris
Usually im hard to get

Posted by doublekris
but i dont know why... i said okay.

Posted by doublekris
I dont know why i allow him to sex w/ me

Knowledge is power. It will show you the difference between being hard to get and playing hard to get, which is what you were doing.

Posted by doublekris
(he even pretend didnt see me)

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!!!!!

Posted by doublekris
I think he only interested with me

No, it doesn't seem that he is.

Move on - this isn't a game that will work in your favor.

so you met this man august 1st by mistake..

you went out twice

then he went back to his home town and there was no contact until 31 aug

then you meet him again and he ignores you.

wake up from this make believe relationship.

wow doublekris,

well, If I were you in that situation. I maybe just forgive myself and move on. It was not a good idea to have

sex with this guy the fact you knew that he still have feelings for her. Now, he is no longer interested.

You don't need to wait for him. enough that he act distant.

OK, I read this in two different voices a Filipino woman and a Black woman, then back to Filipino.

Posted by Giotto
OK, I read this in two different voices a Filipino woman and a Black woman, then back to Filipino.

LMAOOOOO