I like a virgo girl

I got this huge crush on this virgo female, we went out once, but the entire time she was super shy, and I felt like she was ignoring me. But on the other hand she would laugh at my jokes, sit close to me, give me these dreamy looks when I least expect it. I'm so confused, I feel like she doesn't like me and likes me at the same time. I got a call from her again tho, were gonna go watch ratatouille together. Are virgo women like this usually giving of confusing signals? Or is it just me not getting a hint at things and I'm a bit slow to notice. please help! I really like this girl.

oh I forgot to mention I'm an aries boy

I can't speak for all virgo women out there, but having just had a date with an aries I can tell you a bit about my perspective.

She likes you. She likes you a lot.

If I'm not interested in someone, there's no way in the world that the other person can't tell. I don't call, I don't return emails, and if that's not enough for them to get the hint, I tell them directly (but politely) that I'm simply not interested.

The biggest sign is that she called you. That's huge. HUGE!!

If she's not interested in your, there's nothing in the world that would get her to call you. I don't know about other women virgos, but it takes a lot for me to call another person. Ordinarily, I'll make myself available for them to call me (read: I pick up the phone when they call), but I only initiate phone calls if I'm both interested in and comfortable with the object of my affection.

From my perspective, she's not consciously being confusing. She's just shy. She might also be thinking she's been incredibly obvious about her feelings - which would explain why she's open and then pulls back.

Good luck with things. I hope it turns out well for you both!

wow thanks a lot, I was so nervous I couldn't sleep. This is the biggest crush I had in awhile. Can you hand me any tips to keep her interested in me? Once it takes off, im sure I can handle it from there, but I've got the nervous butterflies the size of bowling balls. Anything will help, thanks.

I've received this answer before when asking the forums here about my own love life and it's always frustrated me, but, ultimately, it's right on target - be yourself.

That having been said, I think that there are things you can do which would make her more amenable to your advances. The only caveat is that you don't want to pretend to be someone you're not. Don't try and get the poor girl to fall in love with a mirage and have her heart broken if/when she discovers that there's no substance behind the dream.

Again, not speaking for all virgo women out there, but here's what would help me build an interest in a man...

1. Without being invasive and too personal, use good, funny, witty conversation to make her feel like the center of the universe. [Note: I've got my venus in leo, so this might really be that part of me talking.] Aries men generally have enormous amounts of charm. Use that to your advantage.

2. Smell good. Make sure your clothes are clean and quasi-stylish. Smell good. Make sure little things like your fingernails are somewhat together. Did I mention that you should smell good?

3. Ask her for her opinion when making decisions about what to do. If she vacillates or seems to have a problem coming up with something, make the decision. Don't be wishy-washy. Give her a chance to voice her opinion and, if she can't, that might mean that she wants to judge how well you've been paying attention and/or how much you care. Read that as an opportunity to prove to her that you do know what she likes and what she doesn't like.

4. Don't be too desperate. If you've done the first three things on this list (and given what you've already said), she probably likes you. If you pull back a little bit (something simple like don't call her for a day or something like that) that might give her a chance to see that she *really* likes you. Don't disappear, but don't go drooling after her, either. Somewhere there's a balance and I think it's found by making sure you don't put your own life and your own needs on hold while you're smitten with her.

5. Be consistent. Do what you say you're going to do. Don't mess around with her sense of security by being someone she can't trust.

That's all I can come up with at the moment. I hope it helps.

would be interesting to see what both ur planets are.....??
and what year you were both born?
aloha

wow thanks so much this is way more then I could even realize. I just came back from our second date, and IT WAS AMAZING (sorry for caps, didn't know how to express other wise) I have to hand it to you virgo's, you guys are witty and smart conversationalist. I was having a hard time keeping up with her on playful banters and one liners. She opened up a lot more today, and was smiling a whole lot. I had a chance to sieze the moment i think, but sadly I missed it, and took her home. She wants to go out soon tho, I told her ill give her a call. Shes amazing!!! thank you guys for helping out. The way your describing a virgo girl, seems almost on the dot with her, hahaha. Again thank you guys for helping out, never thought people out in the world would be so helpful to a stranger in need of help.

To all virgo females, I am butter to your seduction tactics. hahhahha have a good one guys

hey everyone. Ok so far, this virgo girl has confused me more then I've ever been confused about girls and I'm always confused. I've had past relationships which were much straight forward and to the point. This one is new to me.

We went out on our third date, a group date actually, or me just tagging a long with her group of friends. I get situated pretty fast, I make everyone seem like they known me there whole lives. So things are good. But the whole time she is flirting with the other guys. There hugging and holding each other like they were lovers and she would barely notice me, almost completely ignoring me. I am an aries, and I do get jealous pretty fast. But I didn't let it get to me. I just sucked it in and played it out till the end of the night. The whole time tho, I was getting mixed vibes. Ive heard girls sometimes flirt with other guys to make the guy they like jealous, but this was to the extreme. I was in fact kind of turned off by this. I really felt like she has no interest in me. I would really like your help guys. Do you guys think shes still interested? or maybe shes realized this isn't happening.

stringsattached, I want to thank you for being so open and helpful with my situation. You have been more then enough help then I could ask for. I really appreciate.

I'll go for another go, one more date, see where I also stand in this relationship. As it is early in the game, I don't know here habits and personality just yet so maybe I'm judging things to fast. If things happen again, and I feel uncomfortable, I'll tell her so in a polite manner, and see where that takes me. :/ I really liked this girl, and as an aries I really put my heart on a platter for her. I guess the whole problem is me trying to find out soon as possible if shes not interested or interested so that I can save myself some pain. But I guess you can't gain without pain, ahhahahah. Thanks stringsattached, your time to write me really did help calm and let me rethink my plans through.

Lifesadoodle - another perspective -

When I was younger(and probably a little bit now too) I would do the same things your Virgirl is doing. I would call *ONLY* if I reeeeeaaaalllly liked someone, and then feel embarassed about it and would then feel that I had to prove that I wasn't *that* into them by either a)pulling away -or- b)being friendly with other guys(I don't really know how to flirt). Then I'd feel dumb all over again for having done that and hoped I didn't mess things up completely and call or do something else to show my affection, then have to try to take it back, etc. It was kind of like a cycle until I was in a committed relationship and felt secure. Then - no more pulling away or doing dumb things to prove I wasn't *that* serious because I felt safe to show how serious I really was.

Another thing - I used to(probably still do a little) partially guage how much a guy likes me by whether or not he reacts jealously or possessively. If other guys used to talk to me and the guy I liked didn't respond, I would think he didn't care. Reason for that is the only time I'm jealous is if I have *A LOT* of feelings for a guy. Otherwise he could go do what he wants, I could care less.

Long story short - from my view - she could have been trying to curb her embarassment at reaching out to you and/or testing to see where *YOU* were at with her.

Hope that helps a little.
Good luck. 🙂