Why be so mean, women?

I talked to a couple Virgo women in my life and I found that, they like to tell you everything that's wrong with you in an angry tone, even when I want to be polite to them. Everything I do for them has a flaw, and they rub it in my face until I do something else. Even when It's not called for, like they try to embarrass you.

I can talk to them about anything, though. They have no problem giving me the raw truth about anything I ask them, even if I ask something like "Do you like this person" and they'll tell me the truth even if it may piss me off. They also are up for anything I ask for, which confuses me about their feelings towards me.

Is this a dating strategy, or do I have to look foward to this type of attitude for years to come?

I mean, I LIKE a chic that smiles when I do something polite for her, that just shows me at least she's polite, but maybe this is the truth and realness of the virgo women...If she doesn't like it, she will act like it; and if she does, she'll find something else to complain about...JUST SMILE! PLEEEAAASE!!!

P.S.

You virgo women are some fine piece of work, maybe that's why tyou act so stuck-up...

Hey pluto, am I correct about these women and their attitudes being virgo like? I don't know too much about virgo women...

"on the inside they want to tell u that in their eyes n according to their perception u have much more potential than u r showing...therefore u need to improve..."

Ahh...maybe that's why she's still talking to me LOL!

I talked to VE about that...I want to do the right thing too, but I tend to sugarcoat, which has their NEGATIVES and POSITIVES. VE feels as though the raw truth needs to be said for a better result, which also has it's POSITIVES and NEGATIVES...

So I guess the problem was me, I failed to see that they only wanted the best for me, but I took it the wrong way...

dont try to change me,cos i dont like it'

Do you think that sometime, change is needed for a relationship to work? I'm sure that no one's flawless, but if one thing continues to be a problem in a relationship, do you break it off or try to fix the situation and continue life togeather?

Not out of desparation though, more for the sake that you really do like this person and you're willing to sacrifice to stay with the person. I honestly do think that this is a pathetic way of thinking, but lately it's the only thing that can keep you with the woman you've been looking for...

"Is this a dating strategy, or do I have to look foward to this type of attitude for years to come?"

BigD56 .. until you die or leave her for someone else.

P-Angel, you're right on that one. I've been friends with this Virgo woman for years now, and actually her 'need to tell the truth' has worsened...but that's what I like about her tho

Oh...ok Pluto. I never thought of it that way. I took them for more complaining than commanding, but it's not something BIG. It's little stuff, like "You should've wore this" or complaining that my shoes are untied out in public type stuff. It's funny kinda, but I grew to realize that their standard are pretty high, or that's how they function.

Sometimes pluto, I think that sometimes that's just how they are. I heard that they're PERFECTIONISTS of some sort, and I was thinking that maybe the virgo woman needs their man to be totally flawless which is impossible, so complaining just comes with the territory.

"the virgo woman needs their man to be totally flawless which is impossible, so complaining just comes with the territory."


Yep .. there's no point in hashing this over BigD .. the Virgo DEMANDS for you to put up with it .. or leave .. there's no inbetween, no settling, no comprimises.

Deal or Die

LOL! It's things like that, that make me feel like she cares for me, no one else really does that much except for some of the virgo women I know.

"she cares...otherwise she wont be bothered about even ur laces...lol"

Very true.
I could careless about that if I weren't interested in that person.
BECAUSE she cares, she would say things like that...
But intentions are never, almost never bad.
It's just a trait of Virgo. Get over it. LOL

"It's just a trait of Virgo. Get over it"


See, BigD .. no comprimises .. Get over it, or leave .. no inbetween.

Tie up your laces and shut the hell up .. what do you know? You're an Aqua.

lol

Maybe that's why I like it P-Angel...I just wasn't sure of their intentions...I smile in the inside when she tells me these things, but me being a man won't show it. You virgos really ARE great from the inside out LOL!

Another question in which I'm not sure of and a good dig in the virgo board can answer this question but I'll ask anyway...does an Aqua and a Virgo even match?

does an Aqua and a Virgo even match?

Usually don't, but there's definitely some kind of chemistry going on.
I fall for Aqua guys...ALL THE TIME.
Since I have a moon in Aquarius, it's easier for me to understand
and communicate with Aquas better than other Virgos.
But usually when you're looking for compatibility, Sun signs don't mean anything.
You would have to look at your compatibility (or synastry) chart carefully.

And what if you and your Virgo girl is not a good match? Astrologically?
It wouldn't make any difference if you love her and she loves you.
Astrology shows how things WOULD be, it is never definite.

"Is this a dating strategy, or do I have to look foward to this type of attitude for years to come?"

It's just how they are...love it or leave it, because you WILL be dealing with it if you are with one of them...

"there's no inbetween, no settling, no comprimises."

WOW what a great foundation for a relationship! EXACTLY what you want to come home to every day...lol

EXACTLY what you want to come home to every day...lol


What a typical Cancer comment
See, exactly my point.
If you don't like that about us, leave.
virgos love people who would accept them as they are.
People like you have no chance with any Virgo.
And Virgos are not stubborn. Virgo is a mutable sign.
AFTER we are accepted as who we are, we change for our partner.
Probably more than any other signs.

Well, BigD .. you can listen to these self-inflated ego's all you want about changing for love and accepting other's qualities, blah, blah, blah ..

Here's the cold hard facts .. after two decades of marriage to a Virgo

HE HASN'T BUDGED ONE INCH OFF HIS THRONE OF SELF-RIGHTEOUSNESS .. any and all changes, comprimises .. have been from me. The constant critisizing continues as much today as it was 24 years ago ..

Tie your damn shoe laces and shut up .. or leave .. that's it, no other option.

"What a typical Cancer comment
See, exactly my point.
If you don't like that about us, leave.
virgos love people who would accept them as they are.
People like you have no chance with any Virgo.
And Virgos are not stubborn. Virgo is a mutable sign.
AFTER we are accepted as who we are, we change for our partner.
Probably more than any other signs. "

wow vacullo, sounds like you're shadowboxing some cancer other than me because CLEARLY we don't know each other.

I was making a humorous comment about a QUOTE from someone else, but may as well bring some balance to your malinformed comments lol....

1) "If you don't like that about us, leave."

For starters I never put all everyone in any sign the same boat. There are trends that apply to many but never to all. There are virgos in my life that I love to death and then there are those that I can't stand, just like any other sign. And as far as leaving a virgo who acted in a manner that I did not like, I've already done that lol.

2) "virgos love people who would accept them as they are"

doen't anybody? I beg of you to point out what is so special or unique about this. Besides, anybody likes someone who is willing to put up with them....especially someone who knows they are hell to put up with. Unfortunately, I've attracted several people are thus difficult to put up with because of my easy going nature and long fuse. And, true enough, if I do like the person and see a good individual deep down I just might put up with them---and have...as long as they know how to reel it in every now and then. So what's your real point?

3) "People like you have no chance with any Virgo."

LOL...you are SO wrong. Romantically I can't get rid of virgos....but that's no surprise. We both like many traits about each other (I'm talking about me personally)----its just that I tend to like them much better as great friends than lovers. At any rate, you don't know what you are talking about---another moot point.

Everything you had to say about that was pretty much defensive dribble except lol....

4) "AFTER we are accepted as who we are, we change for our partner.
Probably more than any other signs. "

I don't think ANYbody can outdo a cancer on willingness to make changes for a partner. But I digress....as this relates to most virgos, most that I've know change the things THEY don't mind changing, not necessarily what the other person is sick of dealing with or would like to have more of.

to v

To virgos' credit, they are tenaciously loyal, which makes them good people to keep around for the long haul. This is another reason why I get along with most of them so well....but no one's perfect.....and there's nothing wrong with me or anyone else for pointing those things out...ESPECIALLY when you consider how quick most virgo's are to point out everyone else's weaknesses ....so get over it----just like you expect everyone else to do with your own criticisms.

"Well, BigD .. you can listen to these self-inflated ego's all you want about changing for love and accepting other's qualities, , , ..

Here's the cold hard facts .. after two decades of marriage to a Virgo

HE HASN'T BUDGED ONE INCH OFF HIS THRONE OF SELF-RIGHTEOUSNESS .. any and all changes, comprimises .. have been from me. The constant critisizing continues as much today as it was 24 years ago .."
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lol...be careful P-Angel b/c pfacullo or some similar personality is liable to say that DESPITE 24 yrs of marriage that somehow "you must not really have the heart" of your husband rotf....or someone will say "well he's still using his test to possibly weed you out.....you'll know for SURE after 25 years.....then he'll make his decision of whether or not you're worthy"....

lol...so watch out P-Angel because ANY FLAW you mention about your husband is CLEARLY just an indication that you really aren't special and he doesn't really "care" lol...because when that MAGICAL thing happens----he'll be perfect and you'll have NO complaints! Keep us all posted!!!!

2.) What I meant was as perfectionist Virgos, we know OUR OWN FLAWS more than anybody else. And we DO criticize ourselves more than we do to others. Having said that, Virgos care are very very self-conscious people because we are so sensitive to "flaws" in general especially to our own.
Virgos therefore would appreciate it MORE than any signs for their lovers to accept them as who they are. Get it? If not, whatever.

And for the rest of your point,
I agree to some extent...but not completely.
Because I do not know you, and you don't know me.
True, I was mostly upset because you were being sarcastic (almost insulting) toward my fellow Virgos.

You win! WOOT! Happy now?

"Virgos therefore would appreciate it MORE than any signs for their lovers to accept them as who they are. Get it? If not, whatever."

UMM...duh, I specifically said "anybody likes someone who is willing to put up with them....especially someone who knows they are hell to put up with.", thus it is OBVIOUS that many virgos would appreciate the understanding more than most because they also need it most. And I know the virgos who are in my life are always harping on appreciating being "understood" by those of us who are close to them. So AGAIN, your point is moot.

"And for the rest of your point,
I agree to some extent...but not completely."

well of course you don't....no surprises there...lol


"Because I do not know you, and you don't know me."

Yet you put your foot in your mouth with comments that were said as if you DID know me....interesting.

"True, I was mostly upset because you were being sarcastic (almost insulting) toward my fellow Virgos."

umm, no surprise there either...but once again....its your own medicine virgo....take it with the same aloofness you expect everyone else to take it with =). SMILE!



"You win! WOOT! Happy now?"

This was never compeition...I was merely making a point...not to mention that I was never talking to you in the first place....it was YOU who began the debate between us....and now that you've been backed up you're pretending to be aloof AFTER your confession of allowing your emotions to get the best of you...isn't that what you virgos are always criticizing everyone else about? lol....

compeition = a competition.....d@mn that one was too egregious to let go lol....

CancerLA,
take this and you'll be fine.

Yes Virgotme that WAS true, but this is NOW, and I've arrived; so there lol

Don't worry, I'll heat it up reel good! heheheheheee 😛 lol

but careful sometimes I don't know my own strength!

"What a crock of shlt this is......do you people read what it is you are writing?"

wow that was just what I was about to ask you virgotome. I never adressed vfacunnilingus until I was addressed.


"...and if ya did..you probably got dumped by her too!"

nope, never happened...I dumped her..it was a long time ago....she's now one of my best friends.

And as far as the "chill pill".....who needs one of those when you've dumped a virgo?!? lol.....even vicatin isn't so relaxing.

If you think Virgo women are nasty, go and piss off a Pisces on Prozac, or tell a Sag woman that she can't go out with her friends!

I will take a Virgo tongue lashing anyd ay over a Pisces with a knife or a Sag with a big truck aimed at you.

lol....well to her credit my virgo woman wasn't nasty at all plus we were young people have all sorts of stupid reasons for breaking up at that age we laugh about it now.

And regarding pisces......I don't deal with the ones and prozac and even then I know how to treat them so I tend to get a much better result that others....and as far as sags...well I would never tell anyone not to out with their friends...that's crazy....I'll probably encourage it so I can stay home and enjoy having the run of the place......and as the sag re-enters the house their energized and renewed cancer will pounce with a sexual advance lol....besides...I don't really date sags anyway they generally aren't serious enough about what they want to get my attention past sex or a few really fun and interesting dates. I tend to stick to scorps, pisces, taureans, leos, and have actually had a really great experience with an aqua.

And as far as the virgo tongue lashing goes....mine are much worse....and the very few times I've ever gotten into a major confrontation with a virgo it was an interesting experience.....typical to cancers I tend to just let things ride if its not a major offense but if it keeps happening I will begin to tally up the damage...so when I finally do blow its for everything....this have left my one or two virgo adversaries bewildered because the suddenly the quiet guy who generally tolerates them and doesn't make a big deal is ripping 3 new arseholes....meanwhile since they've complained all along their entire wad is shot and I easily win and shut down the situation.

so apparently, the critisism never stops huh? It's never a bad thing, it's just where and what the critisism is about.

"so apparently, the critisism never stops huh?"


Never, BigD .. if the choice is made to stay .. then there's two choices one can make. Either let your sense of self-worth and self-esteem suffer by remaining silent, which only serves to add fuel to the Virgo because they convince themselves that your silence is an acceptance that you are wrong. Or, fight back, put them in their place by pointing out their flaws, in which case, only serves to make you as bitter and strident as they are.

Lose/lose .. the only win .. is to walk away with dignity still in tact.

"the only win .. is to walk away with dignity still in tact."

ummm....aren't you MARRIED to one of these people P-A? And if so why haven't you already divorced him or AT LEAST be already screwing a scorpio on the side?

"ummm....aren't you MARRIED to one of these people P-A? And if so why haven't you already divorced him or AT LEAST be already screwing a scorpio on the side?"


Pleeeaaase .. a Scorpio can't contain all this fire I have inside of me .. they'd start flinging an out-of-control stinger around the first time this fearless fish stood her ground (which would be often) .. no match.

Divorce? Why? It's funner to tortue by giving small does of own medicine, than to outright give him a cure .. divorce. Maybe next time (if I allow him to live that long), he'll think twice (knowing him, he'll think a million times and still get it) about expecting a woman to live her life as him (un-emotional) and consider herself to be damn lucky to have him.

Some people just run .. and justify it as "pride in the self" .. to me that's being a coward .. if someone fucks you up-fuck 'em back .. to run and call it dignity when your integrity has been persecuted is cowardice and only serves to allow the person to "prey" on another victim .. my aim is to "stop" it, not ignore it.

Not to worry, though, divorce is in the works .. in the meantime .. he's gonna know, as well as all the other Virgo's in here .. that a woman IS a woman .. NOT a man.

Why be so mean, women?

Most of these carps around here are from hell? they are not woman..

Don't even think a second that they are woman.. let alone be female..

"P" is their general...!!

Ha Qbone...I think you're right. Some women do act like they came fresh from kickin satan's ass.

lol...Why let it affect you bigD? lol the way people get on virgos....sheesh, I wonder who's really the critics 'round here?! lol.....pickin' other signs apart trying to make themselves look better; selfish people don't criticize, and generous people do; they want to give you the best things possible, and bring problems to your attention; I personally am selfish; I don't care to fix your problems becuase I've got my own sh1t to keep up with....but there is not a more generous soul than Virgirls; but this criticism thing isn't common (although It seems everyone BUT virgos seem to do this but we get caught if we do it 😛) lol just a funny thing I noticed all over dxp.....anywho, she's got the detached thing goin, and soon afterwards if she piles on expectations she has faith in you; that's one thing that virgirls are usually notorious for.....those expectaions...

talk about getting caught with you're hand in the cookie jar.....suxxx really....

"It's funner to tortue by giving small does of own medicine, than to outright give him a cure .. divorce."

it doesn't sound too smart to prefer mere vaccination over a true cure. I guess that's where pisces and cancers (love you guys) part ways...if the end result is unhappiness why stay? Are you competing for a medal of matyrdom? And should you get it, how much time was wasted with some cold man that doesn't make you happy?


"to run and call it dignity when your integrity has been persecuted is cowardice and only serves to allow the person to "prey" on another victim .. my aim is to "stop" it, not ignore it."

...but you HAVEN'T stopped it....you keep taking it them coming to DXP to vent and beat up on the virgos. And knowing when a situation is bad for you is neither "running" or "cowardice". More like "common sense" and "the pursuit of happiness" or how about "self preservation"...but you're grown woman and I respect your choices...very puzzling though. Maybe you get somethnig you like out of that situation of unhappiness...

"Not to worry, though, divorce is in the works "

Ok, that's what I'm talking about...RESTORE MY FAITH! sh1t lol...

" I wonder who's really the critics 'round here?! lol ".....pickin' other signs apart trying to make themselves look better;"

its still virgos lol....although yes ALL signs get picked apart at DXP...it comes with

"selfish people don't criticize, and generous people do; they want to give you the best things possible, and bring problems to your attention;"

actually generous people don't sit sideline and spew criticisms they propose solutions and offer assistance. Running off at the mouth with complaints is not impressive. Being in action to make a positive change is...

cla:actually generous people don't sit sideline and spew criticisms they propose solutions and offer assistance. Running off at the mouth with complaints is not impressive. Being in action to make a positive change is...


Depends upon you tolerance, and your bredth of vision; are you seeing something in a hue that suits you, or are you being open minded? How far can you go cLA? If a person didn't criticize you, you wouldn't care, and probably wouldn't be buring to improve yourself, including your defensive side....

"If a person didn't criticize you, you wouldn't care, and probably wouldn't be buring to improve yourself, including your defensive side...."

1) You are completely underestimating the other person's ability to criticize themselves, as if only virgos do that and the rest of us are waiting on your assistance to do it for us lol

2) Re-read the post you you will see that I never said that criticism should never happen, just that it was worthless bullshit without a results-oriented solution. Its like a great idea that you never get a patent for and put into production...regardless of the brilliant idea as far as the world is concerned it never happened.

VE: "If a person didn't criticize you, you wouldn't care, and probably wouldn't be buring to improve yourself, including your defensive side...."

I feel that this is very true for everyone. What you may believe may not be correct, so someone that cares will come to you and let you know something not for their benefit, but for yours. There are such things as constructive critisizm, but most women take this a little too far...

women and virgos.....