I still never figured out....

...how I went from being a 'back off your intensity a bit' kind of friend with VG, to the kind of friends we are now...

I talked to my partner a bit about it, since she shares so many virgo traits. She says she keeps people pretty distant until they either do/say something wrong and get stuck on the acquaintance list, or they eventually prove themselves to be 'true' friend quality.

I think I tend to go with my intuition (which can be inaccurate sometimes) and give people a limited friend pass to a certain level of shell. If my intuition plays out and the person demonstrates mutual 'like' they get to have progressively more access. Needless to say, there are a lot of people I'm pretty social with, and very very few that I'm completely open with.

A couple times I've tried mentioning the before/after thing to VG, but he acts almost embarassed about the times he 'scolded' me. Now that I know the crap he's going through with the stalker-gal, I wonder if I'm a paragon of reserve in comparison 😛

Anyway, do you virguys & gals have a certain 'procedure' in assessing potential friends, or is it more fluid? Is there some point where you realize a new person in your life has made the jump to someone you look forward to spending time with? Or that you know they will just stay 'someone you know'?

when you mentioned "partner" as being a "she" ... it made me think in certain terms ... then you talk about "he" ...




I think it all boils down to whether or not the person is ................................ intrusive.


Whether it's a potential friend or lover .. the Virgo requires a certain amount of personal space, and s/he will measure the potential person gauging on how this space is being regarded. And if the potential person intrudes upon it without the proper thought/respect ... then this is a sure sign, Virgo looks for exit.

Posted by P-Angel
when you mentioned "partner" as being a "she" ... it made me think in certain terms ... then you talk about "he" ...




I think it all boils down to whether or not the person is ................................ intrusive.


Whether it's a potential friend or lover .. the Virgo requires a certain amount of personal space, and s/he will measure the potential person gauging on how this space is being regarded. And if the potential person intrudes upon it without the proper thought/respect ... then this is a sure sign, Virgo looks for exit.

Interesting perspective....

If I click with someone, I don't worry so much about space, since i figure I can always tell them when I need them to give me some room. But I can see where a virgo might need to start off with the space consideration up front, given their reserve and lack of shell.

I'll have to think about that more...it's hard to think from someone else's perspective when it involves something as integral as interpersonal relationships.

You could always stop thinking and over-analyzing the situation, invite him over, get naked and just tell him "Come to bed"!

Works great.

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If I click with someone, I don't worry so much about space, since i figure I can always tell them when I need them to give me some room. But I can see where a virgo might need to start off with the space consideration up front, given their reserve and lack of shell.

I'll have to think about that more...it's hard to think from someone else's perspective when it involves something as integral as interpersonal relationships.

Yeah, no matter how much you can get close to a virgo, they need their privacy...it's the independence that resides from within them that can make you wonder, but you shouldn't over analyze this because they work alone in order to recharge their batteries.

Another virguy friend (sept 3rd) is all up in my business enough to make even me pause. Very touch-feely and full of verbal 'touchy' like my dear this and sweetie that. I walked by his table once at a club and he pulled me on to his lap to give me a hug. Today he made some comment about my appearance that was atrociously flirty. He says stuff on my facebook that gets my partner's hackles up, drops by the house unannounced, etc.

Is that the different decan thing? Or maybe just his guy's personal style ?

Posted by sorti-fantastic poney


Yeah, no matter how much you can get close to a virgo, they need their privacy...it's the independence that resides from within them that can make you wonder, but you shouldn't over analyze this because they work alone in order to recharge their batteries.

Just curious....
I think maybe me being a cancer makes me able to adapt a little to other people, if it doesn't cross my lines. A little fluidity. So I can cope with someone's space issues. Certain signs wig me out more than others though. I like emotions just fine, as long as there is some tie to logic in there somewhere. And too much 'fluidity' or inconsistency feels like lying....

Posted by P-Angel
when you mentioned "partner" as being a "she" ... it made me think in certain terms ... then you talk about "he" ...




I think it all boils down to whether or not the person is ................................ intrusive.


Whether it's a potential friend or lover .. the Virgo requires a certain amount of personal space, and s/he will measure the potential person gauging on how this space is being regarded. And if the potential person intrudes upon it without the proper thought/respect ... then this is a sure sign, Virgo looks for exit.

Im dreming, P angel said something that made sense. nobody pinch me

It seems for virgos, everything boils down to the concept of 'space'.

I wonder what it is for all the other signs....

Would it be 'feelings' for cancers?

Posted by valeria25
^^

Monks. I think of Monks when I think of wholesomeness and their need for santuary. 🙂

As for Aquarius and space.

OOPS!

....got lost in space:

😉

Different kinds of space? My mom is an aqua, but i don't really think of her as needing space. She does like to roam a lot though...

LOL Monk is what came to mind first time I talked with my virguy friend.
But monks were also known for being debauched at times 😉

Posted by sandyclaws
It seems for virgos, everything boils down to the concept of 'space'.

I wonder what it is for all the other signs....

Would it be 'feelings' for cancers?

for insight into this i recommend looking to the zodiacal tarot cards or "major arcana". it goes roughly as follows:

aries = the fool. they act before they think
taurus = the hierophant. they are rigid and spend a lot of time preaching to the choir
gemini = the lovers. they always need someone by their side.
cancer = the chariot. swiftly moving through all walks of life, like the moon through the signs. they can fit in anywhere.
leo = strength. strong, courageous, and full of heart
virgo = the hermit. does anymore need to be said?
libra = justice. they will fight for what is right
scorpio = death. with death comes rebirth, a highly valued scorpio concept
sagittarius = wheel of fortune. through philosophy, they attempt to understand fate and it's natural patterns
capricorn = the devil. not sure where they're going with this one.. but i agree completely
aquarius = the star. a distant guide, its shine brings hope and comfort to humanity, but is still so very far away
pisces = the moon. mysterious and magical, it's always there watching us, yet we know so little about it

hope this helped :]

Posted by zen

for insight into this i recommend looking to the zodiacal tarot cards or "major arcana". it goes roughly as follows:

hope this helped :]

Way cool!!! Very interesting 🙂

The fitting in anywhere aspect of cancer seems accurate in my case. In terms of being able to 'read' people and intuit the best way to be in a situation. My empathy thing gets in the way sometimes, as I always want to 'help' my loved ones emotionally if they're having a hard time. Looking at this 'cheat sheet' of traits, I can try to filter that reaction a bit and 'fit in' by responding in ways that best suit the person I am dealing with. Attempt to speak the same language I guess...