In need of advice

I'm new to this website. & im so desperately in need of advice . I'm dating a VIRGO MAN & it's about to be 5 months & idk what I'm doing to cause all these arguements if we are compatible according to astrology. I'm a Capricorn btw, but lately we've been arguing then we have sex & everything is back to normal but after a day or two we go back to the same shit. We both come from a hard past. I got cheated on & he got hurt bad in his past too. We both started talking when I believe we were both not over our exes. I think that because we would both bring them up when we weren't even together we would just mess around. When things got serious some things would still pop up then we'd argue about them especially me because I hate bringing up exes or getting treated like them. So that kind of stopped. Then I made a mistake of messaging my ex just because I wanted revenge because he had cheated on me so he found those messages & forgave me. Recently he found other text messages & I only mentioned this guy I messed around with about a year ago & how he was the one that took our order at wing stop & my current BF or ex(idk) took it the wrong way because he found out by reading my messages he went through my phone. He always does & that pisses me off & I honestly don't think he has nothing to be mad about he doesn't have to call me a slut or treat me how he treated me when he found out. I have never cheated in my life & never would. He just doesn't trust me & he moved in a month ago & idk if I should break it off since he leaves it up to me or if I should keep trying. He doesn't have anybody he was once living in his truck & then moved in with a friend but now that he's here I don't want to think he's leaving the break up , up to me because he has no where to go or anyone to suck his dick. Help? ¢

Ikr!! that's what I'm saying, I just want to know wtf!! It's so annoying!

I'm gonna be real and say you both sound immature.

You messaged your ex because you wanted revenge? And Virgo got mad when he saw those messages - and I personally think he had every right to be. But what's up with the name calling - what kind of a dude does that?

It sounds like neither of you are over your exes if you keep bringing them up and have strong enough feelings to want "revenge."

If he doesn't have anyone to help him out that's his problem. Both of you need to drop this relationship. Sounds like a mess.

You are both feeding the drama and tension in the relationship in a bad way. It's triggering a lot of tension and pain in you both.

If you don't love him don't be with him.

Thank you guys ! & im honestly thinking of ending it . I'm over my ex he was a Scorpio just the fact that he cheated on me scarred me & now I have these trust issues knowing he lied to me for over a year. & this Virgo dude he's sweet when he wants to be but to tell you guys that when we listen to songs he has to change it or I have to change it because idk if either memories come to mind or if they were just dedicated to him but in my case I don't like to hear them because they make me cry.(some) it's super complicated because I said ILY & so did he & he tells me he meant it &I we both dropped fb , ig & snap simply because we didn't want drama or jealousy problems but I'm kind of suspicious whether he chose to drop it because his ex or other girls would still hit him up. Idk what I should say after he gets home . Most likely I have to much pride I wait for him to start the conversation is that bad ?

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Thank you guys ! & im honestly thinking of ending it . I'm over my ex he was a Scorpio just the fact that he cheated on me scarred me & now I have these trust issues knowing he lied to me for over a year. & this Virgo dude he's sweet when he wants to be but to tell you guys that when we listen to songs he has to change it or I have to change it because idk if either memories come to mind or if they were just dedicated to him but in my case I don't like to hear them because they make me cry.(some) it's super complicated because I said ILY & so did he & he tells me he meant it &I we both dropped fb , ig & snap simply because we didn't want drama or jealousy problems but I'm kind of suspicious whether he chose to drop it because his ex or other girls would still hit him up. Idk what I should say after he gets home . Most likely I have to much pride I wait for him to start the conversation is that bad ?

It's not bad. It's difficult though. I understand you have to defer to what you feel. It won't feel right to do what does not feel right to do.

I would try to separate your feelings about the ex that are negative from this relationship when you decide what you do.

Also if you have reason to doubt his worthiness of you then I would try and forget him. If you are certain of that worth...then and only then consider proceeding.

Try and be understanding of each other while at the same time neither of you dwelling on drama. And cherish each other. Create fun new memories and distract yourselves from jealous and drama when you are together by doing fun stuff together in new enviroments. If you are getting into a fight ...go for a walk together.

Again this is only if you are sure of his worthiness. And no one knows that but you.

You think so? I think it takes two to make things work & this would be the 2nd chance we try to be a normal couple but believe me when that 3rd chance comes(if it does) I will not give him a 4th one. I'm similar to a cancer were kind of emotional, ‘‘‘

Do what is right for you. If you don't want to be with a person who treats you like he does you don't have to be. You don't have to justify how you want to be treated. It is not an argument you can win.

If he is not going to treat you how you need and want then no. I can't say though not knowing you guys.

You have given him a lot of chances.

Blonde Ambition: your words are awesome! & I repeat I'm new to this website & my phone is kind of slow so I'm replying kind of late to your response. Trust me, I love the guy because of the way he holds me talks to me & makes me laugh but his words can also break me down easily & vice Versa . We're so much alike I think that's what's been keeping us together & that's what's annoying sometimes. -.-

😆... You had me rolling with that last.part. I know you're serious though...

Fellow Cap here.... so HE cheated on YOU, and you took him back, and then starts with the texts to the ex... the relationship is fuelled with insecurity now by both of you. I, honestly don't know, with the short amount of time you've been together and so much drama going on already... not sure how it can bounce back. If I were you, I'd been out.

If you are concerned about his welfare, perhaps you can give him some time to find a stable place to stay. You sucking his D is a.privilege, not a right to him. He can go find someone else to do that, while he finds somewhere else to stay.

Sorry you're going through this, seems unhealthy though.

GreenTea I never cheated on anybody & he never cheated on Me. He just found some messages on my phone that, let's just say I'd break up with him if I were to read them & I saw they were to his ex. But I apologized & gave him the choice to either leave me or still be with me if he was willing to start over & let go. So he agreed but almost everytime we drink & get high he brings it up so which means he's not over it & it hurts because he accuses me of being a cheater & blah, blah , blah but I never cheated. When I love someone I love em hard & that's where I fuck up because idk what to do now.

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Posted by elii_belly11
You think so? I think it takes two to make things work & this would be the 2nd chance we try to be a normal couple but believe me when that 3rd chance comes(if it does) I will not give him a 4th one. I'm similar to a cancer were kind of emotional, ‘‘‘

idk if i love someone i don't count the chances just the improvements

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True. So do you suggest I give him one last chance?

Posted by elii_belly11
Blonde Ambition: your words are awesome! & I repeat I'm new to this website & my phone is kind of slow so I'm replying kind of late to your response. Trust me, I love the guy because of the way he holds me talks to me & makes me laugh but his words can also break me down easily & vice Versa . We're so much alike I think that's what's been keeping us together & that's what's annoying sometimes. -.-

Thank you. That's really sweet. I hope whatever happens you are happy anyway. :-)

Posted by elii_belly11
GreenTea I never cheated on anybody & he never cheated on Me. He just found some messages on my phone that, let's just say I'd break up with him if I were to read them & I saw they were to his ex. But I apologized & gave him the choice to either leave me or still be with me if he was willing to start over & let go. So he agreed but almost everytime we drink & get high he brings it up so which means he's not over it & it hurts because he accuses me of being a cheater & blah, blah , blah but I never cheated. When I love someone I love em hard & that's where I fuck up because idk what to do now.

I don't like how he leaves it up to you whether you want to stay or not, shows no accountability for how things got here, and where he wants them to go. If you decide to give it another shot, everything needs to be talked about, and left behind. No more.talking or mentioning exes, communicating with them. It's you two together now, if there's anything that needs to be resolved with any of them, both of you should step away. Hopefully it's not a relationship based on convenience.
Good luck to you honey

GreenTea: I'm starting to think is based on convenience too but I'll give it another shot & if by the end of this week things don't get better. He's getting the boot! •

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Posted by elii_belly11
Blonde Ambition: your words are awesome! & I repeat I'm new to this website & my phone is kind of slow so I'm replying kind of late to your response. Trust me, I love the guy because of the way he holds me talks to me & makes me laugh but his words can also break me down easily & vice Versa . We're so much alike I think that's what's been keeping us together & that's what's annoying sometimes. -.-

Thank you. That's really sweet. I hope whatever happens you are happy anyway. :-)

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Thank you honey,Š

a month is too much time. I get sexually frustrated ok!ðŸ'🻠everyone gets impatient sometimes, but I have to admit I do get impatient most of the time, can't help it!‘