Is there any point in trying with a Virgo once bit

Hi y'all. Nearly 7 weeks ago I fell head over heels for a lovely guy who turns out to be a Virgo. Now, I first discovered this site after I had very tubulently broken up with my ex boyfriend of a year and a half. He was a Virgo and as most astrology sites tend to agree, Virgos and Aquarians are not supposed to get on too well romantically. I also remember hearing somewhere that sometimes one sign can be very attracted to the signs adjacent on either side to thier complimentary opposite. Like, for example, I'm "supposed" to go for Leos and yet I tend to wind up fancying either a Virgo or a Cancerian.

ANYWAY the thing is that things have started going a bit skewed with this guy. So far I think it's just me noticing glitches and feeling reservations about us as a couple. And I do have to critcise myself for the way I really fall hook line and sinker for somebody without considering the reality of them as being a human with faults. This only starts to kick in, possibly about 7 weeks later, I dunno!

He does not fit the classic Virgo desciption in that he is not a neat freak whatsoever but that doesn't bother me at all. However he drinks alcohol every nigth without fail. He has become accustomed to using it as a sleep aid since a long time and now it is part of his nightly routine. This has only started to bug me because I am feeling the effects of drinking and staying up late the next day in work, whereas he doesn't have a conventional 9-5 job so he can sleep on.

I have also started noticing how he doesn't seem that interested in how my day is going but quickly get back to what's going on with him.

Obviously I need to discuss my problems with him but it's hard for me to find the time and the composure to do this but I must try.

Anyway I'm just wondering if any of you have firm oppinions one way or the other about the virgo-aquarius union. The situation reminds me quite a lot of how things were between my previous ex although in different ways.

Thanks

Welcome to the club. I have been with a Virgo for almost 4 years now. It's been a ride believe me.
You are getting warning signal which is a good thing. The drinking, the self-centered attitude......
First off if you like him - that's fine. Virgos are hard to get to know sometimes, and the love well, I don't think it's going to be like you expect. Trust me. I have known the one I see for eight years. And we have been seeing each now for almost four years. ANd it's crazy as hell.

I am a Scorpio and we are suppose to be a great match - and for the most part we get on very well together. He's just crazy. But I guess my patience is long. Oh, didn't I say, patience? Yes, the more the better.

But in all honesty - the drinking part is not good

Yep thanks glee for that. I know the drinking every night is the top most undesirable habit he has. It's the next day now and I spoke to him last night when he stayed over. He's a bit sensitive as he hasn't been in a relationship in a while and I didn't want to sound like I was attacking him. He basically agreed with everything I said and said he would try to cut down.

But glee, the thing is, I would not describe myself as being that patient. I have a lot of passion when I which helps carry me through frustration and conflicts between me and the other person but I am not in possession of much good old fashioned patience. So based on that piece of information, can we get on with eachother long term?

Ok, and also, and I'm not sure whether this is connected to his drinking, but he is not that interested in making love to me. Well sometimes he is able to go through the motions but rarely does he get anywhere himself. That sounded very coded but hopefully I got the idea across.

I have read that Aquarian and Virgo are not good for the long haul myself. Aquarian is a free thinker.... and Virgo likes things clear and concise. They are not big on a lot of theories and the like. They are just basic down to earth people. It's been my experience with the Virgo I see, that yes patience is required with them. They do a lot of analyzing and so they are slow to move on some things. I know also that they don't like pressure, and the thought of someone controlling them - things have to be their idea. They are insecure and it will manifest - even though you may not see it for a while. Mine is a little skittish about a lot of things and I find that you have to gently lead them into things. Virgo maybe attracted to an Aquarian for a time, but I think in the long run, Aquarian may tire of Virgos antics. And they are many, trust me.
Sexually, Virgo is a slow burn. Meaning their passions do heat up but it takes a long time. Mine is very passionate, but then I am a Scorpio - "wink - wink". But he pulls away sometimes - and that is maddening. They like being friends first - that way - it gives them a chance to analyze the situation. Once committed they are faithful and very good people. It's just getting them their, and that takes work. I have known the Virgo I see going on 8 years now. We started seeing each other after 4 years of just being friends. What a damn ride it's been. They are ultra sensitive and you can hurt them very easily. They like their degree of space and it's not to be taken personally. They can love you one moment and the next moment - it's like you don't exist. My advice is to take him as he is --- that's about as good as it gets.

hi i am a leo female i just recently broke up with my boyfriend of 2 yrs a pisces.but I have had a unique relationship with a virgo we met over 2 years ago . we became good friends instantly.We became sexually close as well but started to drift apart but every now and then we would call and see how each other were doing i started dating another guy the pisces and still kept in contact with the virgo. we have had a few intimate days together and a few casual days together.

my issue is that i care for him and he has told me he cares for me he even tells me thati have good traits as a woman almost as if he's measuring me up to his scale or something. He even says things like if i were to date you........ and when we hand out he's always holding my hand or trying to cuddle me.he tells me he isn't seeing any women so basically i am the closest to him, but it seems like either depending on the timiming one of us is scared of moving to the next level. we have a strange friendship if thats what you call it. we are both into each other. he has told me that he likes me and often shows it but then other times he acts as if he forgot or doesn't want to show or that he is shy to show that he really feels for me, but i can feel it most of the time. sometimes he'll practically beg me to hang out with him or with him and his friens other days he won't call.i don't know what to do.I feel like he doesn't really know what he wants. he says that he doesn't have time for a relationship he's kind of a workaholic.I think he's just seeing if im serious or if i'm good enough girlfriend material but i'm not sure what do you think his feelings what should i do?

OHMYGOD, I just happened upon this site, and I'm/was in love with a Virgo too. I can't believe the similarities with the other Virgos mentioned. Drinking problem, all the analyzing they do, their critical nature, the way they kind of lose interest in sex...! Things go so well for a time, and then if they feel any kind of pressure to discuss anything with any emotional content, they dissappear. SOmetimes come back and pretend no seperation ever happened. Won't even discuss it --at all!! Why is it so hard to give up on these guys? I think maybe because when the caring part of them comes out, it is touchingly sweet. I'm getting hardened now though, because I'm 7 months pregnant with his child, and he decided three months ago that he couldn't talk to me about any furture things because he "had nothing to say" and left. Hasn't contacted me since except about payinf the stupid phone bill. He really makes me feel like I am the crazy one..!!!

hi camarie,

my suggestion is to show him your inependance, act it or mean it🙂 but give him space and reson to think and want harder🙂 I'm a virgo and it works, if it's real love between you two he'll probably realise it when he thinks you will not be there forever waiting for him... try...don't abandon his side totally, be there but almoust as a shadow🙂 and do your own stuff, I think u'll get some answers. all the best...

The Virgo I know - has not lost interest in sex as long as I've known him. We've been seeing each other going on the fourth year - and it's gets better all the time. I didn't know Virgos were so passionate.... at least this one is.

No man or woman loses interest in sex unless the person involved doesn't "turn" him/her on, one of the persons is involved and getting it else where....or is not the sexual type and just "not into it". Simple.

I'm afraid I have to differ with you there Freebird and suggest that's it's NOT that simple. Sex is tied up (forgive the pun) a lot with the emotions and therefore your emotional state will have a big part to play in how you perform sexually. And emotions are not generally clear cut. So there, I feel I have proved you wrong on that one. Q.E.D.

In my case, I don't think it's that he's not interested in me since I have asked him that a few times. He's not getting it elsewhere because I have been seeing him whenever he is not in work. Thirdly, and here you may have a point, he might possibly not be that sexual, or alternatively a slow burner as glee suggested. On thinking back I do recognise that he was probably more "interested" when he hadn't been drinking which was mainly during the day.

This is making me think of creating another post actually.....

Consuming alcohol in long run makes one sexually inactive and emotionally depressive...

I am not talking about beers or wines... But heavy stuff with % 30+ alcohol?

But?. Hey? what is a sexual activity mean to you? as a task or a joyful moment?

Imagination is essential for the sexual act, powered by the mind, if mind is not available then sexual power and desires will be off line.

The man you described above might have/had an intense anxiety that use alcohol to calm him down?. And now got use to it because he does not know the better way, consuming alcohol on everyday basis has nothing to do with the start sign.


If you want to save him from his habit and your personal relationship then you should get wise up and find the core of the problem, what you see is just a surface lady

Sometimes a little devotion and understanding will do the real magic

MellowDee

?Anyway I'm just wondering if any of you have firm opinions one way or the other about the Virgo-Aquarius union. The situation reminds me quite a lot of how things were between my previous ex although in different ways.?


There is no problem with it lady.. stop seeing humans as animal please.. will cat get along with dogs..?? or cows can have a relationship with mouse..??

Understanding and behaving?.!.. is the key for a successful relationship? no matter who or what or when or where?!

They call it challenge...

MellowDee, you are absolutely correct...life can be what you choose for it to be. I truly am sorry for what your friend is going through and maybe you can help him...but then again, he must be willing to help himself - as the wise MR.Q has voiced, drinking is just masking the problem.

Sex for me is simple but I choose for it to be that way. I either have a connection with someone or I don't and yes again...emotions do play a huge part in how we perform- I agree with you most definately. Truthfully, we can justify the actions of anyone if we choose to or allow ourselves to see things as they are - it is what it is. Simple.

On the foot note

Everyone looking for a prefect and problem free relationship?.. HOW BORING?

If you like the man... then grab him and get along with it... what you need is to stop asking yourself or others about how and what?.

Things happen and developing in their own pace? patience needed?
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Hi Mr Q! How are you doing? Good to see you back 🙂 and I do hope you are doing well.

Ya know that word, "perfect" what does it REALLY mean? Let's get some opinions on that one!

Again, you brought up a great point...we each must listen to our own inner voice - that is where the real answer is. Thanks.

Thank you my lady for the welcome?.everything is fine. lot of travelling and moving, I had never visited so many countries in 4 days.. lol?

Still some remain—

Thanks for asking?

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Fair play to you Q-Bone! You are a shining light for your star sign. Yes I agree that his drinking is masking some underlying anxiety. I was actually talking to out mutual friend and his very much a long time ago pisces ex about this very thing and learned that he has been drinking and progressively more heavily over a 10 year period. I'm not sure how to broach the subject.

What I see in sex is the intimacy of being close, in both people feeling free to physically and sensually express themselves while at the same time being fully aware and tuned into their partner and what things he or she is communicating to them with their bodies and their touch.

For me, good sex is when my partner is fully taking part, is not shy or inhibited but is still sensitive to me and my body and makes me in turn feel totally relaxed to concentrate on what he is doing to me and for us then to gradually make our way hand in hand together, at our own unique rhythym, to a warm hot exquisite climax.

Wow, am in work now. Had to keep looking over my shoulder while I was typing this!

Ohh.. ohhh so damn sexy?! You should cover your monitor?. Heheh

Damn sexy..

But again.. you haven?t answered my question?

?what is a sexual activity mean to you? as a task or a joyful moment??

I thought my description there might have given a hint but ...sexual activity for me is definitely a joyful experience obviously when I am doing it of my own volition and not being coe-erced into it in any way - then it is (sorry another pun) a bit of a pain in the a $ $ !