Just Friends After One Night Stand—

Hi Everyone

Something that's be kind of going on in my life that I though would make an interesting topic. Essentially,

Can a male and female be "ONLY" friends after a one night stand?

Several months ago, I met a woman, let's call her Aqua/Scorp ... after a bit of flirting and excellent relating, she tells me she wants to "hook up." Well, I tell I don't think it's a good idea since one, I'm not looking for a relationship and two, she's going to get hurt.
(Forgive the glaring arrogance in such a statment but... I know me quite well)

Well, needless to say, she ignores my warning, nature asserted itself and we pretended we were married for one night ... well, we pretended we were married three times that one night, but that's besides the point LOL.

Here's the point. She began to feel MORE... alot more. I still saw her as purely a friend and was determined to keep things that way. Make a long story short, I ended up being right. She got hurt. So much so she did the Aqua aloof thing which is a bit rough to deal with, I took it as disinterest and took my leave. After an adult conversation, all that was being pushed to and fro by undercurrent washed upon the shore and stood there to be admired and scrutinized. In the end WE agreed to be "JUST FRIENDS."

I've been told that this is unfair of me, in that I shouldn't expect friendship in this situation. She's going to be catching hell while I, presently am in...presently in "ditto" with another, am just trying to keep a buddy.

So, is it possible here? Is it possible, period? Can men and women, after a night of lust remain "JUST FRIENDS?" To add another angle to this, should my present LOVE feel edgy about me having a friend like this?

I'm more interested in the females point of view here, but everyone feel free.


VirgoSquared

I think it's possible for men and women to be friends after a night of passion, but highly improbable. The situation between you and Aqua/Scorp is what usually happens...

Boy meets Girl.. they become friends... they do the "mattress mambo".. and now someone wants more...

I think that because the Aqua/Scorp actually wants more than friends, while you don't- this situation will eventually lead to difficulty as the two of you continue to relate. Perhaps she can honestly be your friend after wanting "more" from your relationship, but it is unfair to expect her to put her feelings aside for your need to maintain the friendship.

As for you and your current love.... even though it's common for many women to feel edgy about such a relationship- I think it is possible for some women to detach themselves from your life and your friends, and allow you to work independently. Especially if the friendship is no longer sexual, and particularly if such intimate happened before the you two were ever lovers. Question is, can you do the same?

BTW- Welcome back to dxp VS.

Can men and women, after a night of lust remain "JUST FRIENDS?"
Possible...if both of you view the sexual relationship from the same angle before "nature asserts itself". :-)

But in your case...it's impossible 'cause she wants more.
She had sex with you to cement a relationship while you had sex to cement a friendship.
Did you mention the "friendship" issue beforehand, besides "warning"?

For your sweetheart feeling...
If it never happens again, both of you are purely friends as you said, and your sweetheart is emotionally mature, she will let bygone be bygone.

Hi you two.

Well STD, can I do the same you ask. If my feelings were involved... if I was completely taken; the floor no where to be found; the Dave Matthews "Dance a thousand steps for you..." feeling. All the while she seeing me as "bud." Probably not. Not to mention should the "negative clothing" thing happen again. It would genuinely screw me up.

Maymaid 🙂
Of course I told her the purely friendship thing. I have a tendency to be too honest in situations like this, which is for all intensive purposes what unleashed "Weirdness in Relating" and let him run amuck.

As for my love, my Aries/Scorp. She's actually handling it better than I would so...

VirgoSquared

VirgoSquared - Why go there in the first place—? Sex is too casual and there is no respect anymore. SO if you knew all of these things - why put yourself and her in that position. Hope you both used protection against God knows what..

I am not into casual sex with just anybody - why didn;t you just get one of those girlie mags and pleasure yourself? Women and men sell themselves too short nowadays.

FOr years I was single and not involved with anyone - I bought a girl's best friend - rather risk my health and my emotions to someone like you. And you guys are out there a dime a dozen.

Hi Glee

Hmmmm, one of the WWJD responses lol.

Okay. I'll explain it this way. See Glee, people are individuals. And individuals have their own sense of what's right and wrong, and above all else, make their own decisions. Now, I'm gleeful you're not into casual sex, but for some of us, casual sex isn't a "bad thing." Since it's not a "bad thing," like minded people don't mind getting together for closeness, for the biological imperative of relieving "pent up frustration," even for... dare I say it. Just fun.

*Glee GASPS!!✨

Relax...Glee don't get me wrong, I'm not knocking you if you're into the plastic stallion thing. Hey, by all means, rock on. Mainly because I acknowledge that what YOU do is your business and essentially it's not for me to judge one way or the other.

As for respect... that essentially has nothing to do with it. For YOU not to respsect something has little to no bearing on anyone respects. Again, it goes to the INDIVIDUAL.

I will say this though. If you're the type that'll get too attached. You're absolutely right. The rough rider 3000 with the removable kick stand is probably what's best for you. But recognize the key words there are "FOR YOU." You are not the standard to which everyone's life is measured. You're one person with ideas that relate purely to you. Share those ideas by all means, but to judge with words like "respsect" or "sell themselves too short."

Come on Glee, let VS help you down from horse. Yeah, I know it's high, but the view is much clearer down here. lol


VirgoSquared

Don't worry.

Not trying to have a go at you Glee. Rereading it, it came across a bit too spirted. No offense meant.


VirgoSquared

VirgoSquared - I respect that. I do. But when I come to the boards and I read this stuff about women and men - it kind of sucks you know. I do get attached and I have a healthy sex drive like most - but I just can't meet up with someone I am attracted to - have sex and then the next morning - it's "can we be friends" type of thing. I thought that went out in the 70's. I am in a relationship now - and believe it or not - it's with a Virgo. And he's nothing like you are. But then we are older - so maybe that makes a difference. But how can you just sleep with someone like that and it means nothing? I don't get it. Just for pent up frustration— I don't think so. I am not judging you, just your methods - I mean did you ever think the girl was infected with something? Or if she was already sleeping with someone else? Or just a loose woman? In case you haven't heard - there are some STD's out there now that can't be cured. It's creepy..... I'd hate to think I slept with someone and I'll be paying for it for the rest of my life. Just because of pent up frustrations.

Not on a high horse - I guess I just respect myself a little more. Casual sex not only leads to emotional let-downs - but also believe it or not cancer. Each time you are sexual with someone bacteria is deposited into a woman's area. For each partner this bacteria is deposited. It can mutant into pre-cancer cells in the cervical area. Not to mention other diseases that are tranmitted. So for each person you sleep with - you are also sleeping with whoever they have slept with for the last five to six years.... that's a little scary to me. So maybe you would be better off going to one of those places and maybe put down a little money - that is if you don't want any entanglements..... but always protect yourself too.

Hi Glee,

You're right. There are plenty of vicious, rambucious STD's out there. We have one here that can't be cured :p Check up top, infectious I call her! (kidding seize)

No Glee, I do get your point. I think you're misunderstanding me though. "One night stand" in this instance didn't mean sleeping with someone upon initial meeting. Her and I were friends for a few months before this happened. I'm refferring more to sex one night with a friend. I probably should've made that clearer.

I will say this. We connected quite well, and if you remember, it wasn't me that asked about the "more" part. I literally told her it wasn't a good idea. So much so, she got a bit offended. You know, telling a grown woman what to do doesn't always go over well. And, well...at the end of the day, in the words of Sinatra "...and men, will always be men."

Now, it wasn't that she meant nothing to me, and I may get called a woman here for saying this but for myself; sex is incidental to closeness. Can't separate the two to save my life so under normal circumstances, this type of thing doesn't happen. At the same time, I'm open minded enough to realize that such a thing happening isn't "wrong."

Among careful consenting people, every sexual encounter needn't be like running across a four lane highway in your birthday suit with your hair ablaze.


VirgoSquared

This story should accurately describe my position on this matter...

A very attractive lady goes up to a bar in a quiet rural pub. She
gestures alluringly to the bartender who comes over immediately.

When he arrives, she seductively signals that he should bring his face
closer to hers.

When he does, she begins to gently caress his full beard. "Are you the
manager?" she asks, softly stroking his face with both hands.

"Actually, no" the man replies.

"Can you get him for me? I need to speak to him", she says, running her
hands beyond his beard and into his hair.

"Can't", breathes the bartender. "He's not here. Is there anything I
can do?"

"Yes, there is. I need you to give him a message", she continues,
running her forefinger across the bartender's lips and slyly popping a
couple of her fingers into his mouth and allowing him to suck them gently.

"What should I tell him?" the bartender manages to say.

"Tell him", she whispers, "there is no toilet paper, hand soap, or
paper towels in the ladies room..

Glee.

Glee, glee, glee *sigh*

Not on a high horse - I guess I just respect myself a little more. Casual sex not only leads to emotional let-downs - but also believe it or not cancer.

Not on a high horse ... I guess I just respect myself a little more?

Well, I guess you're a little more narrow minded, a little more deluded if you believe you're not narrow minded, a little more misinformed, a little more... I don't know.

I'm having a little difficulty hearing you Glee, your head being in the clouds and all lol. Refer to my first post above on openmindedness and people being individuals and having their own sense of "respect."

Casual sex leads to Cancer ladies and gentleman. *sigh*

Glee, did you know when you use your "woman's best friend" the plastic molecules collect in the cervix and travel to your brain leading you to post stuff like that?

I don't mean to make fun of you Glee, but this is stupid. I'm not even going to attack the "limp" science. Truth be told, I don't think "cancer" would be the biggest concern if a person was having unprotected sex.

Say you're right though. Don't you get? Don't you get in the least, what people do, is their own business? Not for you to judge. If it doesn't impact you, I'm truly missing your concern in their (meaning people who engage in casual sex) lives. Essentially, it's something you don't like. You don't understand and instead of answering the question that was proposed, you've created an electronic soap box.

BUT. You have spunk though Glee lol. So let me help you out.

Glee: VS, casual sex"...leads to emotional let-downs..."

So I take your answer to be no then Glee?

Glee: Fcking right VS! (slams fist on counter) Friends after sex doesn't work.


Okay Glee 🙂 . I personally disagree. People being INDIVIDUALS and different, I think it depends on the people invovled but people are allowed to disagree. I accept your perspective despite it's cramped bearing.


VirgoSquared

Well VS, I doubt you're going to get much concensus on this hot topic LOL!! The recent FWB thread on the Scorp board sure gives an idea of what most people think about that...

But to keep to the topic... First, the issue between you and the Aqua/Scorp. I think you're going to have to claim much of the responsibility for this one. You knew she was interested in more than a one night stand when you slept with her. And you knew that you weren't going anywhere with it. No judgements here, but you are calling this person a friend and you seem to place value on the friendship or you wouldn't be trying to maintain it. Yet you slept with her knowing how she felt. Honestly, that doesn't really make YOU much of a friend to her. If you do really value the friendship - I think you should acknowledge all that to her and then let HER decide if she wants to continue to be friends or not. I suggest you just leave it alone - she's the injured party and you had some part in that.

Sorry if this seems blunt - but I'm making that call based on what you have said. If there was more to it than that then you and she both know that and you sure don't need to listen to my ramblings. But you asked (and I may be just a teensie bit biased at the moment 😉)...

And to your current love. As this happened before you were seeing her, I'm sure she would be understanding - but must she wonder why it is so important to you to salvage the friendship??

Scorpgal

Comeon VS...

Stop advertising yourself..!

Do someone?actually? loving you for the ?way you are? or the ?way you are pretending to be?..!

Stop staging and be real?. dude

You?ve said

?I'm more interested in the females point of view here, but everyone feel free.?

And your stupid response to the female answer..!!

?Well, I guess you're a little more narrow minded, a little more deluded if you believe you're not narrow minded, a little more misinformed, a little more... I don't know?.



Sure you don?t know? you will never know..

Are you collecting the ideas.. or just answering ?to? the ideas..?

STOP PALYING WITH PEOPLE FEELINGS.............DUDE...!!

NEXT?.!

Hi All

Thanks Scorpgal5, you're right. In the end, it's her decison on whether to be friends or not. But come on, no one likes to lose friends especially ones you connect well with so . . . I mean. Can't force her. I will say that her and I have been cool since it happened but things do get odd at times.

🙂

VirgoSquared

And q

*shakes head*

Oh well, I knew the village idiot would show up sooner or later. 🙂

Do someone?actually? loving you for the ?way you are? or the ?way you are pretending to be?..!

Well q, broken English aside, I'm actually trying to decipher your post. Are you referring to something in particular? Also you really should keep an English translator in hand when writing anything to me. Writing anything to anyone actually.

This pertains more to female point of view which is why I'm curious about their opinion. See, I think men and women can be friends, and I'm betting many guys will think the same hence the post, but since you didn't answer the post. We don't know what your opionion is do we q? Well, I did ask for females opinion and everyone that has responded henceforth has been of the female persuasion, present target included.

I'm not sure what you THINK you know of me, residing all the way in the goat humping captial of the world, Norway and all, but here's the thing kiddo.

I get you were dropped on your head as a child but I'll write slowly so you can try to get this.

This is me dck. No need to act, or advertise, or lie, or make sht up 😉

Like me or don't q, could care less. Personally I don't like you so, I guess it'll only be fair if it's mutual 😉

Now, do your rage and fury thing in the space provided below. You know q, the kind only YOU can do. q the furious, q the misanthrope, q the misinformed, q the hard to understand.

You obviously wanted the stage which is why you didn't post to the topic, SO. You got it. There's the spotlight. Do your lame dance and let the rest of us actually flush through the topic at hand.



VirgoSquared

Rage and fury..??

Naw...

Continue *shaking your head* and do your assumptions Mr. professor, you do know what I meant?

Here, here ScorpGal - If VirgoSquared knew this woman for ahwile and still made the decision to sleep with her - he messed it up. If you knew she had an inclination to want more from this - why go there in the first place. You made it complicated - she didn't. Most women think sex is something closer than most men. The most you can do is to come down off that arrogant horse and offer her an apology. You could have just continued to be friends and then you could have called on someone else for the sexual favor. I think what you did was wrong. And you're trying to make yourself feel better because you told her you just wanted to be friends. The oldest game in the book.

As I posted - you can pay someone for what you want. And yes I do believe you are a rat for doing her that way.

Welcome back Virgosquared....welcome back Mister:-)

For me, I think there is just way to much analysing and way too much deep thinking and thinking oneself into a crisis from yourself and most others here on board - when there's isn't really one!!!

Big swing.....you had hot sex for one nite with Ms. Aquarius (well 3 times for one nite....hey I like your style ):-)!!!!

She got what she wanted for that nite and you got what you wanted.
There were no declarations of undying love on your part or and we will all live happily ever after. It was what it was - a one nite stand, nothing more or nothing less.

You can't manufacture the hots for someone if it just ain't there....and that is the case between you and Ms. Aquarius - she may have felt near and closer to you and wanted more but you have been honest and told her the score and that's all one can do.

Ms. Aquarius will certainly continue to be your friend......hey us aquarians always remain friends with our lovers...whether it be for one nite or ten years....that is our way...well my way!!!!

As for your new lady lovely, why does she have to know about what happened with your Ms. Aquarius—?there's honesty and there's elusive honesty:-)...some things are best left unsaid? You don't have to lay your soul bare to anyone for everything if you don't want!!

As for all the stuff about protected sex etc, I am sure (you being your virgo logical you! were careful in that area) - so you are safe and so is Missy!!!

Enuf said...and on with the jinnet:-)

Alana x

Alana, lovely as always. Thank you.

Glee come on, give me a break LOL.

Okay, I'm an ass for believing women should make up their own minds LOL.

What's funny is many of my female friends have gotten irked that I "make decisions" for them. In the situation I don't and . . .oh well. Can't win for losing.

Glee, you may think I'm a "rat" LOL, but for some reason I really like you lol.

Anyway. This actually leads to another question.

Should the guy take the lead in sex regardless? Take out guy, should one person take the lead in sex regardless?

I could be wrong but it seems as if some of you are saying, regardless of the woman's wishes. If the guy "BELIEVE'S" the female will get hurt. He should disregard her take on the situation and make the choice for them both. Even with roles reversed. If the female believes she'll hurt the guy in question, should she make the choice for both?

Essentially. Should one person in a relationship (be it friendship or otherwise) disregard the other and make a choice for both if they believe their perspective is superior?

For me, the keyword is believe. Just because one BELIEVES something, doesn't mean it's true. Not to mention, how would you get that across to the other, and if they don't agree; then what? Disregard their take? I don't think unilateral decisions are necessarily fair when more than one person is involved but . . . the floor is open.

VirgoSquared

I disagree this situation is a decision you're making for another person.

You decided to have sex.. just like she decided to have sex. The issue was not whether or not to have sex- that act has already happened, and you cannot take it back. The issue is whether or not the 2 of you can remain friends. At this point, it would be her choice, since she is the one who is obviously feeling different.

But.. to answer your question you most recently posed: Should one person in a relationship (be it friendship or otherwise) disregard the other and make a choice for both if they believe their perspective is superior?

Well, IMHO, if you choose to do or NOT do something because you believe it's the right action to take, then what does that decision have to do with other person? Why look at the situation as, "well... she will get hurt..." or I have the superior point of view?

In other words.. rather than looking at the situation as saving the other person from the turmoil which is you.. try to internalize the issue. Perhaps the bigger picture is.. it's more important for you to have this person as a friend, rather than complicate your friendship with sex.

If you don't want the relationship to change, of if you don't want to deal the possible consequences which are resulting from a difference in expectations- then you decide for yourself not to be in such a situation.... Say, "This is something I do/don't want to do.." and then it will be up to that person to accept your decision- or move on.

Glee,

I think that if we as women are taking control of our sexuality, then we should also accept the consequences as well. It takes two to tango, and for whatever reason VS's friend decided to engage with him, and it was consentual.

If in the beginning, she knew that after a night of intimacy- the end result would still be a friendship- then it should have also been up to her to decide to engage (or not engage). If she felt something more later-- then it sounds like it was her mistake... and learning from her mistake would be more productive than calling VS a "rat".

I'll agree that casual sex leads to more problems.. especially among friends, but when situations such as this arise- two individuals must share responsibility.

burp...!!

you guys are staging.. and are the same...nice work...

Village idiot ladies and gentleman. Give a hand for the lonely, the nothing better to do, the deluded playgirl himself. q the Moronic.

Piece of advice moron. Not sure why your Mom didn't tell you this, but next time. Tell the guy you're blowing to pat you on the head before he . . . let's say "arrives."

It'll ward off the indigestion.

To bad you can't get over yourself, can you Kid? Just like I thought, itching to rage out in a fury of thunder and broken english.

Hey, don't let me stop you. Do your thing, you'll give us all a good laugh for today.


VirgoSquared

Perhaps the bigger picture is.. it's more important for you to have this person as a friend, rather than complicate your friendship with sex.

If you don't want the relationship to change, of if you don't want to deal the possible consequences which are resulting from a difference in expectations- then you decide for yourself not to be in such a situation

Well put STD!! I was thinking about writing something more wordy - but that sums it up nicely. I'll just say 'ditto' to that... And of course it applies to both men and women - it really doesn't matter which one is in what role.

Scorpgal

VirgoSquared - You like me because I'm giving you a rough time and you deserve it. LOL. I like you too!!!

I am a Scorpio lady and we will tell it as it is. And will put you in your place when we need to. But will always be loyal to you.

Besides I think you needed it. Coming on this board and saying that. I think you wanted someone to approve of what you had done. And well we gave you our opinions - some good, some not so good.

But you'll be OK. Just don't keep doing women like that - and maybe the woman should have just said NO to you.

SeizeTheDay - You are so right. A woman has the opportunity to say no. With Mr. Virgo, I would have turned him down and said - Hey, bud... I am not into one night stands - and lets just leave things as they are between us.

VS - Why DID you come on the message board and admit to something like that—? I am curious. Where you feeling a little guilty because you hurt her—? Anyway, water under the bridge as they say. What's done is done..... but next time, think before you do something like that and likewise for the woman.

I think I remember a time when men and woman were a little more honorable towards each other.

Now... Mr professor in ENGLISH course.. ?worth to answer once?
You think that I care about your thoughts..??

Ha..

Think again?. BOY?

But hey... it is a liberal message board.. everyone should post their ideas any way.. even it is it sound stupid.

Errr? MR.. sweet talk BS?.. VirgoSq?

You are Bul+ Sh**? and everyone knows is BOY?!

Tell you once more BOY....

Stay with your dignities..(if you ever had)

And cut the BS?!!

q no balls ladies and gents LMAO

There's the "hot wind" and "fury" broken english unincredible idiot I've come to dislike. Rock on q.

I'm a bit disappointed though. Come on Kid, that's all I get. Three post.

Okay, well. At the very least I hope you're saving that Norwegien nickel you got from your performance earlier . . . the "gulp" and "burp" thing. Nickels add to dimes, and dimes to quarters, and so on, and so on.

I know you're not a bright man, but I'll give you the benefit of the doubt and say you probably know math.

Never took you for a swallower though q. A moron, a jack ass, a delusional fibber, but a swallower . . .oh well.

I'm not so judgmental to judge your...let's say extracurricular activities with "johns" and goats wrong though.

Different, but not wrong. Just know that q, okay *sympathetic look* No judgment here Kiddo.

Such a predictable idiot LOL


VirgoSquared

Ahhh...

I see some things just don't change. Good to see you two getting along like you always did...So well! LOL

CL/Cm2

I knew you would come up with those accusations...
I just knew it? what else you can up whit?BOY..??


Anything more..??

🙂

Errr.. professor

Stop staging it?.you are not worth the thought .............

*scratches head*

What accusations are you referring to idiot?

Here's the thing ass.

You CHOSE to post in a topic that doesn't pertain to you. Not only did it not pertain to you, you directed all of your post to moi. This is something YOU started so . . .I'm kind of missing your purpose here.

I mean, I get you're a lonely gristled habitual masturbating old man but, come on. You're pulling a straight drama queen but I'm staging? Sure lol.

Granted, you can post anywhere you want. This is an open forum, BUT, it's no secret I hate you guts. So what was your point in posting to me? Again, I get you're a dumb boy but you can't be this stupid. On second thought . . .


VirgoSquared

q it boils down to this.

You're a lonely guy who lives out his miserable life online. Your personality is such where no one would like you for who you are. Somewhere you recognized that and figured it was better to live your life through messenger, email, and message boards than persist in perpetual rejection. That way, you could hide that part of yourself. You could keep up "the act."

Now, you flatter a few females giving a few hollow compliments in broken english, but that isn't the real you. It's staged. It's an act to try to get people to like you. Even then, it's empty because it's not really you. The guy above. The tactless fool that gets his post deleted for not being able to control himself. That's you.

You're the type of guy that'll call a "car" an "automobile" only to get the chance to argue there's a difference. You're the type of guy that'll do the "GULP" and "BURP!" thing and won't even gargle afterwards before talking to the clerk at the porn shop.

Trust me. You're not liked by most of the people you meet, even on line. I would wager even your mother disliked you, hence the not telling you about getting the gentleman you're servicing to pat you on the head when they're about to . . . you know.

Sad part is, you're delusional enough to think you are. You're delusional enough to think you're an okay guy. Even, persish the thought, a "ladies man." LOL Come on, "be real dude."

Even people who tolerate you. The online buddies who don't know you well enough to dislike you will still describe you as being

LONELY
ANGRY
PARANOID
DELUSIONAL
ARGUMENTATIVE
TACTLESS
A HABITUAL MASTURBATOR

it's just who you are kiddo. A grown boy that has to play with himself in the corner because he can't function in normal society. And a note, people who are paranoid, can't really be trusted. Mainly because they don't trust anyone themselves.

How about this? Try to get a life. Get therapy, an enema, and a new line of work (the blow jobs aren't cutting it). Essentially. Try to be a better person, and guess what? You may start having a REAL life, with REAL people. You may began to meet real people who actually like you. They say hope springs eternal right?

Only trying to help.

You can be yourself in the space provided below. Afterward, I'll let it be so this topic can proceed without your interruption.

Not judging you but at least try to gargle.

VirgoSquared

Now, if we can proceed 🙂

Glee I deserve a rough time lol?

Dearest come on LOL. I wasn't feeling bad. I was actually having a similar conversation with a friend and I just wanted perspectives. I disliked how it ended up, but . . . we were both adults. She has her own mind, and was very capable of making her own decisions.

I understand your opinion though. Essentially, you couldn't engage in something like that so you don't believe it'll work.

And Seize. Lovely, lovely Seize. lol
Kind of agree, except for this part,
In other words.. rather than looking at the situation as saving the other person from the turmoil which is you.. try to internalize the issue.

Here's the rub. One person internalizing an issue and looking at the "wider perspective" leads to many threads on this board dealing with the inability to understand Virgoan behavior. For instance, two people are in a relationship. One person does something that's completely unexpected, but doesn't explain. They essentially internalize the issue and make some decision for both people involved BELIEVING it's best for the both of them. BELIEVING it serves the greater good.

Internalizing can be dumping someone without explanation. Behaving a certain way without given reason. Internalizing leads to suspicious action that if just put on the table, could potentially be understood and hammered out.

For example, Say I'm with someone. Something occurs in my life where I say to myself, "This isn't something the other can nor needs to deal with." I end things without genuine explanation, essentially internalizing the issue and making the decision that I believe is best. The other is hurt to which I would already know, but I'm BELIEVING I'm doing what's in both of our best interest. Would I be correct here? By your opinion, the answer would be yes.

Is this really what you want? Is internalizing really the kind of relationship people should have? Secretely doing what's best for the other. I believe in putting it on the table. Good or bad, and deal with it as a pair. If you're going to respect and listen to what the other has to say about a situation that involves them. You at the very least have to give them their say. Be it sex, friendship, or something else.


VirgoSquared

Okay from another female POV.She wanted to get laid and go there so if shes being whiney about it cut her off.However due to the fact that the two of you seen each other naked and stuff it's not that uncommon to feel odd afterwards so it could just be that too.

To me, internalize the issue doesn't mean you have to make a decision for both parties. It will help make you becoming more sensitive to the other person's feeling.

Of course you are right Mr. Professor VS B/S ass*hole...

Masturbating is something great ?.!

I would rather MASTURBATING with dogs in my mind and have fantasies about, rather than having sex with the apes likes you and your kind for real....!....YUCK?disgusting..!!

So— be free and call me grand masturbator— or what ever fu*k you think about .. does anyone cares?. jerk..??... really?. APE boy..??


Now again? shut the hell up for some times BOY and be HUMAN for a second and see.. if you are able to do something for the better life ?arshole?!

Shut the hell up—. !

All I can say.. you had my answer (sweet talking BOY)—?

English grammatical problem Mr Professor VS..??..??

AHH.. ?tell me about it BOY? err Mr proseffor..!! eh.. sorry ?professor.!

I?ve stoped to fu?ck the aresehole like you? long ago..!

SEE ELSEWHERE.

If you still (ITCHING)—??!

Sweet talkers?.

LMAO

BTW......Mr. Sweet talker?.

But of course you hates me?!!

Or else I would kill myself? APE likes you .........love?s me..??....


Bah—?.NEVER!

Hi I just read page one of this dialogue and skipped the rest (I'm too slow a reader plus I'm pretty hung over right now). D'you know I think there's some kinda fatal attraction that goes on between aquarians and virgos. Well maybe I should say fatal for the aqua party and indifferent for the virgo. I have realised recently that my feelings towards men are related quite a lot on the state of my mind, the what's going on in my life, my menstrual cycle at the time of meeting the guy. I came to thinking this when I was reflecting onhow strongly I felt about my previous virgo boyfriend who left me and then came back and then I instigated the break up and it made me see that a lot of my feelings for him were based on how he had a hold over me and had trumped me when he walked out the last time. It's almost like when a man and a woman meet, this timing gives rise to an astrological guide to how the relationship's gonna go kinda, like will it be a flighty gemini pairing, or will it be an emotional and nurturing cancer relationship. (Are you following me? or am I rambling? I'm nearly losing the train of my thought too!...)Anyway it could be that the mere fact that you have said you just wanna be friend with this Aqua/Scorp girl is making her have the hots for you!

Also VS, are you attracted to her? And why don't you consider her relationship potential? I'm interested to know your take on this for my own man education.

This is a fact mellowdee..

I have one FATAL attraction with Aqua.. and she is so UNFORGETTABLE, I know that her love going to kill me, but she will stay in my heart in to eternity.. One and the only in that front??!

So be it?

my daughter... she is aqua..