Lovers with benefits ?

OK so I'm pretty sure I no longer want to be in a relationship with my virgo of 2+ years but is it wrong that I still want the sex to continue lol? he is said everything under the moon and really wants to get back together. I do love him but i need out of the whole see you everyday thing for awhile. Any suggestions on how to bring this issue up? In the past when i mentioned the words "break" or "space" he took it as "I don't want him anymore" ughh why are some virgo's so insecure. I'm an aries btw.

Hey my virgo guy hates the words space because to him I think it equals im ignoring you or you're not important enough for me right now. i dont think he's insecure I think its just the way he thinks. Also I would give him the "guidelines of the arrangement" in a very straightforward way or as much as possible because if he feels your'e lying or playing games he will cut ties off completely n u might lose him as a friend/person in ur life as well. But I dont think he will be interested in just being friends with benefits. Atleast the typical virgo wont, but atleast he'll respect you for telling him the truth even if he doesnot stick around or maybe he will, who knows.
This is just my opinion from my experience with my guy and also my mom.....personality wise. Hope it helps. Take care.

His mars and venus are both in leo
his moon is in gemini

complicated combination for second decan virgo eh?

oh and 2-3 times a week would be ideal... He just doesn't get it.
He's always soooo serious which is ironic me saying that considering my rising sign is Capricorn and my moon is Virgo but he just needs to chill out instead of assuming the worse and being jealous, possessive and self proclaimed as controlling.

I think i just need something less serious between us right now all the fighting is getting to me, but dayum the loving is good, I don't think i could live without it : $ :p

Posted by ariesbabie
OK so I'm pretty sure I no longer want to be in a relationship with my virgo of 2+ years but is it wrong that I still want the sex to continue lol? he is said everything under the moon and really wants to get back together. I do love him but i need out of the whole see you everyday thing for awhile. Any suggestions on how to bring this issue up? In the past when i mentioned the words "break" or "space" he took it as "I don't want him anymore" ughh why are some virgo's so insecure. I'm an aries btw.

When you break up with someone you give up the sex too. Sounds like you need some alone time. Perhaps take a trip somewhere for a week without him?

While not crazy about casual sex, I wouldn't say earth signs hate it either. Seems that virgo guy is crazy about her so I wouldn't be surprised if he'd accept that option. It really depends how long a virgo has been kept frustrated, lol. If one of my exes proposed that, I'd most likely say 'yes'.

Posted by ariesbabie

OK so I'm pretty sure I no longer want to be in a relationship with my virgo of 2+ years but is it wrong that I still want the sex to continue lol? he is said everything under the moon and really wants to get back together. I do love him but i need out of the whole see you everyday thing for awhile. Any suggestions on how to bring this issue up? In the past when i mentioned the words "break" or "space" he took it as "I don't want him anymore" ughh why are some virgo's so insecure. I'm an aries btw.

I think it very selfish of you to only think of yourself. For the fact that now you think you may not want the commitment any longer doesn't mean that 6 months down the road, you won't want him back as a boyfriend, and I think it extremely selfish to have a desire in stringing him along .... because that is exactly what it is.

You may say, as with anybody can run their mouth and say anything ... that you want to keep him around for sex, but, then there's the truth of it, which is ... you want to keep him on a string by using sexuality, just in case you change your mind.

And that is a terrible thing to do to a man, considering YOU KNOW he loves you ... and makes you out to be cunt.

Secondly, a true, honest and respectful woman who loved this man would let him go. For the fact that you want to keep him tied to you is clear evidence that you don't really love him.


My hope is that he leaves you, so that you can no longer hurt him, even if this hurting is only in your thoughts of wanting to and never comes to fruit on your end because just because you never act on it, doesn't mean that you aren't really like that, since you are here expressing your desire to trick him.

I agree w/ PAngel 110%

With all due respect to the female posters in this thread, a guy's perspective on sex is not the same.

I'm not referencing the guys perspective on sex.

I'm referencing the Aries girl being a cunt and hanging onto a person who she should let go if she loves him.

Get with the program.

Posted by harry99
Hey SV What is a guy's perspective on sex? Your answer may make or break my future sex life lol ijs. No but seriously I wanna know I'm always confused about this issue. See cuz men claim they're all different blah blah, it's always altering stories from guys *scratching head*. And yeah P-Angel you're right.

I thought you were a guy, per your name.
For this guy, if a girl I truly "fancy" offers me just sex and we're both single (and frustrated) - I'd certainly go with it. Given that I've known her for a while and it's not some "fuck a stranger" situation. Life is short, after all.

But guys ARE different, as are girls - there is no single gender stereotype. There are plenty of guys out there who'd do it with a random stranger without any questions asked.