Male Scorpios - Fair Weather Friends only?

My best friend, who is a Scorpio seems to only be a fair weather friend when it comes to me. It's not that he doesn't like me - we are the best of friends. It just seems like his philosophy when it comes to friends is to be uncaring. I am a very loyal and helpful friend who will do just about anything if you need it, but he rarely returns the favor. Also, when I am in trouble, he never sticks up for me or helps me. Yet, I stick up for him constantly and I don't even get anything for it. I just do it because I assume that is what friends do. Again, this isn't just with me - he does this to everyone. It could just be him, but do other Scorpios act this way? I ask because I thought they were loyal people.

They are as loyal as they are conceited.

""My best friend, who is a Scorpio seems to only be a fair weather friend when it comes to me. ""


- Uhhh, then why is he your friend, let alone "best" friend?

Well, you see, he wasn't always this way. And now that I have been friends with him for years, I'm not too eager to sever my friendship.

Posted by American Virgo
My best friend, who is a Scorpio seems to only be a fair weather friend when it comes to me. It's not that he doesn't like me - we are the best of friends. It just seems like his philosophy when it comes to friends is to be uncaring. I am a very loyal and helpful friend who will do just about anything if you need it, but he rarely returns the favor. Also, when I am in trouble, he never sticks up for me or helps me. Yet, I stick up for him constantly and I don't even get anything for it. I just do it because I assume that is what friends do. Again, this isn't just with me - he does this to everyone. It could just be him, but do other Scorpios act this way? I ask because I thought they were loyal people.

ur a virgo u should noe better to how u chose people unless ur people picker is not working rite u have to be around positive people dats gonna be around the good and tha bad tha trials.

i suggest that u let dis person go and find friends that are friends for life and dat care for u as a person and respect as a person as well.

im not being harsh either i been thru tha same things with friends i have to make a choice stress myself out or let these people go and find people dats worth the time.

""Well, you see, he wasn't always this way. And now that I have been friends with him for years, I'm not too eager to sever my friendship.""

Oh, I see. Yea, that can be tough. Ending a friendship after so many years. I guess you'll have to distance yourself though, to some extent. For your own sake...

ScorpSuperior, that sounds like a good idea. I've tried to "reform" him - sometimes it works, other times not. Sometimes I think that he just acts that way normally, and it has nothing to do with me personally. I say this because he backstabs others in my prescence (i.e. saying things about others behind their backs).

BelleTheScorpio, thanks for your comment. It was very informative and helpful. Yes, he is going through some family problems, as am I. However, I keep my problems to myself and don't bother others with my personal issues. Although I probably shouldn't, I have a permanently happy public facade that I use in the company of non-friends. Of course, not everyone can pull that off, and my friend is one of those people. He has to make his dissatisfaction known to the world - in one way or another. He does the typical "huffing and puffing" routine where he is mad at everyone and lashes out at anyone who tries to talk to him. That really angers me, because I have more problems than he does, but I don't act that way. I sort of expect him to be able to control his volatile emotions like I do. I don't tell him this, but I certainly think it. And yes, I've talked to him about it and he just denies it and gets real defensive.

Thanks for the words. You're very intelligent, and you obviously have some experience with these kind of people, seeing as your son is one. The problem with what you said is if I threaten him like that, he'll just go to his other friends and forget about me. So I can't change him that way.

Well, I think he is, because I simply will not sever a friendship that I've had for 5 or so years. If it is because of some emotional problem he's having, as you said, eventually it should go away. Also, in true Virgo fashion, I only have a few close friends. He's one of them and I don't want to lose one of them.