My Virgo boyfriend really confused me

Hello for everyone i really have a problem with my Virgo boyfriend and i really want some advise from somebody to know what to do forward and how to behave.
I met him in octomber in my work he was my coworker and we spent a lot of time of tacking to each other of fun and etc after this we started to see each other and we formed a relationship and we see each other on the work we tack on the phone less 3 times a day and sent sms so many times on day and we were together well committed but one day he told me that he would go to Australia to visit his sister and this really hurt to me but i could understand him and when he was there he call me almost every day he sent me a messeges almost every day we tack by internet (skype) every day and when he come back he gave to me so many gifts and i want to dated him in the evening but he didint want and tomorrow i called him again to ask him about date ... and after one hour he called me and told me that he want to tell me something he comes to my home and told me that he want to be alone some time expacaly in this period and this really confused me. I asked him did he have another girl he told me no and told to me that he really dont know do you like to be with me in this way to see me only few times as we saw each other before and he didnt say how like to see me. After this he called to me he write me a sms and i want to him to saw him and to tack with him but he told me the same and he didnt tell me about the future what plans have it with me only to wait. I really dont know how to react we are still in contact he sent to me for one or two sms on day some time he called to me but he never told to me that want to see me i really dont know what to do. Maybe i did some mistake because this day when he come back from australia i was on my work place i didnt have time to see him and i told to him that we were together in the night and in the night he didnt want to see me. I really dont know how to react furder please a need some advise imidatly 🙂 this man make me crazy 🙂 Thanks

Give him exactly what he wants...cut all contact, when he contacts you don't be rude, treat him the way you would anyone else...if he is going to come back to you, he will and if he doesn't well you saved yourself a lifetime of heartache. Don't start trying to convince him by calling all the time or continuing to ask him why or doing thing to win his affection, it will only push him away. Something happened and it doesn't necesarily have to be with someone else, but within himself, which has NOTHING to do with you. So give him what he wants, and as hard as it may be, move on...he'll come back around and then you will have to decide at that time if he is worth giving another shot.

Hope this helps....

Thanks for advice i hope that this will help 🙂 today he called me in the morning and we tacked a little be more only to see what am doing maybe he will call me someday and tell me that he want to see me 🙂 i hope that this will be some day only to have patience what you will say....

"we see each other on the work we tack on the phone less 3 times a day and sent sms so many times on day and we were together well committed"

"and when he come back he gave to me so many gifts"


From my experiences in life when a person starts giving "so many gifts", while attempting to ignore actual contact .. lol, that is pretty much the word "guilty" written across the wall, isn't it?

If he's not wanting to talk to you, where he phoned you all the time and spent a tremendous amount of time with you before .. now, he doesn't want to face you and is sending you a bunch of gifts, then he's done something that he's feeling guilty about.

Every person does this in life, so, you should take at look at this trait for future reference .. husband's, children .. why even my dog will act differently when he's piddled on the floor. If your man is behaving "out of character" from his normal persona, then stop being crazy and and look at "what" this means, instead of "that" he's doing it. Only thinking about "that" he's different will, indeed drive you crazy if you aren't comprehending "what" is making him act different all of a sudden.

In simplier words, jazzmina .. in some way, he betrayed you, did you wrong. Only he knows what he did.

I hope you were able to understand that 🙂

Oh, I thought you were saying he didn't want to talk to you.

So, he is in contact with you ..

"maybe he will call me someday and tell me that he want to see me"


Maybe, but what is your desire?

Something has happened to cause him to treat you differently, does that not matter?

You will just desperately await his decision on whether he wants to see you or not?

Do you not want to know WHY he is suddenly treating you differently .. your ONLY want is to just be with him, no matter how your treated?

Off topic...

jazzmina, I love your broken English accent! I could read you all day. Some folks with English as their first language, who jack it down in all kinds of ways, big & small - that gets on my nerves to read though. Just saying.

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I agree Ocean .. and when I was reading her testimony, the voice in my head was trying to hear the words how she would say them, lol

Me too, P-Angel! And like the words were coming from a James Bond Girl, or some such...lol.

(sorry I have to repost this here)

Jazzmina. You have to consider the fact that you were talking to this guy almost every day...and usually if you are in a relationship with someone talking to them 24/7..just being human, you need a break sometimes. A lot of people need breaks..periods of time to themself. So I'm assuming that he doesn't have someone else, he just needs to take a break from you and breathe.

I am that way too. If I've been talking to you forever and ever..I don't mind doing that, it's just every now and then I have to have time to myself personally..

honestly, just reading your post...I could feel the exhaustion...he's probably just exhausted and you should give him his space. I think that's why he's still calling you just not as often because he needs to breathe and get re-energized.

I would suggest collecting your own thoughts and taking a vacation. Just relax.