MY VIRGO: THE GREAT ACTOR. Advice plz!

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ariesbabie
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Ok so I was on facebook yesterday and saw this female from my area with a picture of my mans t-shirt taking a picture of herself in her washroom. OK I know what your thinking anyone could have that shirt. NO, He takes pride in getting originals. This is where my suspicion started because I used to see this girl around a couple years ago, we had mutual friends, she is known around my area as pretty much "loose" "slutty" (has a child and doesnt know who the father is) I also saw her occasionally in my school. We had our civil "hi" "byes". I really dont beleive she knew who my man was. Anyways so I asked him if he knew this girl, showed him a few pictures and he looked at me seriously and lied through his teeth (great actor i must say)and said no. Then asked "what the hell, that's pretty random. So some girl is asking about me who is she, how do you know her?" I then showed him the picture of her wearing the t-shirt he seemed surprised and said "thats weird no one ever has the same clothes i have) I said ok, whatever and we continued on with our day.

We had to make a few stops then we went out for dinner. He was unusually possesive and freaking out at everything or everyone who happend to look my way.

Anyways so last night i looked through his phone entirally for the first time and I see pictures of that girl in his phone, she sent him partially naked photos(bottom half) and a few of just her face. I also saw a 2 second video of her wearing lo and behold his shirt!!! and a video of her posted up against a bridge bubbling back towards the camera with him in the background saying that looks good etc etc.

I read the text messages between them nothing vulgar just hi, whats up etc. I talked to a mutual friend of mine and his(more his) and asked him about her... He said they just chill out sometimes when they run into eachother or have a couple drinks and that he knew nothing of the pictures (figures)

My man is not around today so i havent got a chance to bring it up He got into some issues yesterday he had to deal with so i went home alone with his phone, stuff etc.

So he point blank lied to me about knowing this female. Anyways the reason why i am writing about this is because it's so out of the blue. All he's been talking about for the longest time is about building a future, how much he loves me, he introduced me to his family formally. Time to end this relationship in your opinion? Talk it out, see what's going on.
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ariesbabie
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Sun Virgo 14.24 Ascendant Taurus 4.57
Moon Gemini 9.42 II Gemini 5.01
Mercury Virgo 0.29 III Cancer 0.51
Venus Leo 11.51 IV Cancer 26.11
Mars Leo 28.07 V Leo 24.22
Jupiter Aquarius 8.14 R VI Virgo 27.48
Saturn Scorpio 22.57 VII Scorpio 4.57
Uranus Sagittarius 14.04 VIII Sagittarius 5.01
Neptune Capricorn 0.52 R IX Capricorn 0.51
Pluto Scorpio 2.49 Midheaven Capricorn 26.11
Lilith Taurus 10.47 XI Aquarius 24.22
Asc node Taurus 10.33 XII Pisces 27.48


Planets in the houses

Sun in V
Moon in II
Mercury in V
Venus in IV
Mars in V
Jupiter in Midheaven
Saturn in VII
Uranus in VIII
Neptune in IX
Pluto in VI
Lilith in Ascendant
Asc node in Ascendant
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ariesbabie
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This girl is just some slutty girl who runs around the area who has a horrible reputation. Which my man usually hates in a woman yet they somehow intrigue him I guess. I thought they discusted him, He always talks about how he'd never want his woman to be like that. YET when it comes to me the mere thought of me around other men drive him crazy. I thought we were finally at a point where we both knew what we felt towards eachother and wanted to built something (which he brings up all the time, marriage,kids, future, finances, building a life) and now this what the hellllll!

This is bullshit.

So virgo men, in your opinion from what I have wrote and his chart, What do you think this man is reaaaallly about? Is he just stringing me along and giving a steller performance. Or do you beleive there is truth to what he's saying?
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ariesbabie
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UGHHHHH I'm gonna kill him, You virgos can drive a person crazy. I want to tell him what I saw and confront him about lying right to my face when i asked about her before i even say the pictures, and see what he says and how he reacts when he's about to lose me.

I really dont think he had sex with her. She's young, has a kid, baaad reputation, same area i think he's just being retarted and never thought i'd see them. Which is still wrong in itself but LETS SEE, when i bring it up. This is just crazy to me i think i'm in shock. I'm really not a stupid person this is just really out of the blue.

Is there ever a good reason to take a person back after this? Or do you guys beleive if i do hear him out ill probably cave into his good acting skills and it'll happen again. If you let a mouse have a cookie he's gonna want a glass of milk too right...
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*Hands you a fork* It's done.

1)If those t-shirts are his pride and joy,he's not going to give her one just for shaking hands with him.

2)Usually if someone is yelling too much about a subject,they either know too much about it or have done it.(Talking badly about her type of girl).

3)If he's sleeping with her,you are too.(Whatever she has you'll catch it too).

4)He's friend confirmed that they know each other.(It's the guy code,the friend has HIS back not your).

5)He may talk about a future with you, but has he done anything to actually make it happen??(Instead of having a "thing" to take care of,making solid plans with you,ring,apartment?)

6)You're gonna do what you're gonna do.(Not listening to anyone who has a different option than what you want to hear).

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Posted by ariesbabie
UGHHHHH I'm gonna kill him, You virgos can drive a person crazy. I want to tell him what I saw and confront him about lying right to my face when i asked about her before i even say the pictures, and see what he says and how he reacts when he's about to lose me.

I really dont think he had sex with her. She's young, has a kid, baaad reputation, same area i think he's just being retarted and never thought i'd see them. Which is still wrong in itself but LETS SEE, when i bring it up. This is just crazy to me i think i'm in shock. I'm really not a stupid person this is just really out of the blue.

Is there ever a good reason to take a person back after this? Or do you guys beleive if i do hear him out ill probably cave into his good acting skills and it'll happen again. If you let a mouse have a cookie he's gonna want a glass of milk too right...




In case you didnt know....
you are the Aries girl who should be fooling around with other men behind HIS Virgo back, not the other way around.
dont u know anything? Have you looked at yourself in the mirror, go ahead take a look and come back, okay, did you see what I saw?---a fine ass Aries girl, desired like no other.

God, know your place RAM-GIRL!!!! For pete's sake. Even if Pete's a prick.
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ariesbabie
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ok, thanks you guys.
and i havent confronted him about the pictures yet. Just the picture on facebook where she was wearing the same top.
In my area everyone knows everybody so it isnt a surprise that they know eachother, the lake and bridge in my area seem to be the "hangout, have a couple drinks spot" EW i really hope he didnt sleep with her.
And yes We live together, He was going to get me a car soon to go to school, we were talking about getting engadged( \this is all his doing btw i didnt rush into things as aries usually do with this one) the pictures date back to the second week of june, anyways whatever i'm confronting him then ending it. If I forgive once I'll do it again, It's much easier for me to cut someone out completly because if i dont i'll get over whatever the issue was fast.

This blows😢
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ariesbabie
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LOL wgamador I was trying to do good for once 😢
That blew up in my face. I should do what i know best and be the sign of self. Back to not giving a shit about men? and more ME TIME.
Virgos can be so contradictory sometimes.
Why cant you say what you mean and mean what you say 😢
Aries are so straightforward, no head games.

This is gonna be an ugly conversation with me and him. I can just picture him going crazy.
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Posted by ariesbabie
LOL wgamador I was trying to do good for once 😢
That blew up in my face. I should do what i know best and be the sign of self. Back to not giving a shit about men? and more ME TIME.
Virgos can be so contradictory sometimes.
Why cant you say what you mean and mean what you say 😢
Aries are so straightforward, no head games.

This is gonna be an ugly conversation with me and him. I can just picture him going crazy.




You were supposed to be bored with him months ago. What happened?
Well all his sneaky behavoir that kept you on edge, made you feel alive, it was almost a challenge for you.
Trying to figure out what he was really up to made it exciting and you didnt even realize that until now.

We are all idiots, thinking someone TRULY loves us. hahahaha. Join the club. I'm a member since 1994.
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ariesbabie
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LOLL an aries screwed you over and a virgo screwed me over. How ironic. Maybe astrology has nothign to do with it, We're all humans who get caught up in the moment and don't realize consequences or how our action'S will affect ppl. I guess it's karma i've probably pissed off some people in the past not really realizing i have the ability to affect them, and now when im serious it just happens to be a joke on me.
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ariesbabie
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LOL^

Anyways, I just found out about another woman.
I really dont understand how men can want to build a future with one woman, introduce her to his family, live together yet want to do this side shit..for what exactly? Do you guys really believe we'll never find out?

I remember him saying a bit ago, If you tell someone you cheated on them, its kind of building trust. IN A VERY TWISTED WAY.

Do you guys agree? Or think this is absolutely absurd?

(This has nothign to do with my situation thought, because he's not gonna be the one initially admiting anything i'm the one who found out by a phone i never should have been looking through)
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I said i'm done. BUT

Me and him had a long ass talk about this. He never had sex with the girl in the pictures but admits to hanging out with her and 2 of his friends 8-9 times. He said she got his number from one of his friends and they have been conversing. She did send him pictures partially nude and others of just her. He fessed up to it and was begging me for a new start, saying that i'm the only one he wants to be with, nobody means anything to him etc i have no idea how much he actually loves me and appreciated me, that im right about the company that he's been keeping is wrong (guys in mid-late twenties having done nothing really with their life except drinking/smoking weed) he told them never to bring her around again, he wants to do anything to move past this and he's changing his number/phone etc.

I said i just need to process, know the full truth, and be alone right now.

In order to maintain my dignity I should just cut ties right, but do you think theres a point in a second chance?
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If there's smoke there's fire.

While the sheering pain of the break up in the beginning can be brutal there is nothing like the taste of pride when you are able to look back and say to yourself, "What this person did to me was wrong. I stood up for myself. I walked away. Gooooooo me.".

I think many people stay after cheating because it is easier than all the thoughts that come after... It's normal to want to internalize, try to decide how you could have done better, blah blah blah. But then one day you brush yourself off and think... Wait a sec, no way, eff that sorry twit. I'm going to advocate for me!

Or you can be a gluten for punishment. Go ahead take him back, but I'd lean towards his bad behvior resurfacing in the future... when you're even more invested. Or perhaps you could be one of the few that work it out. Although... I think to many people get caught up thinking they and their relationships are the exception to the rule. "I'm different, we're different. All the other people's experiences are very different from my super unique experience."

I'm just a little more realistic than that. I know I fall into the larger percentages. 😉

Regardless of what you decide to do I wish you well and I hope this guy doesn't rob you of anything else. Trust is such a delicate thing. Have it stolen enough and you'll begin to change deep inside where it takes a lot of work to fix.
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Posted by ariesbabie
I said i'm done. BUT

Me and him had a long ass talk about this. He never had sex with the girl in the pictures but admits to hanging out with her and 2 of his friends 8-9 times. He said she got his number from one of his friends and they have been conversing. She did send him pictures partially nude and others of just her. He fessed up to it and was begging me for a new start, saying that i'm the only one he wants to be with, nobody means anything to him etc i have no idea how much he actually loves me and appreciated me, that im right about the company that he's been keeping is wrong (guys in mid-late twenties having done nothing really with their life except drinking/smoking weed) he told them never to bring her around again, he wants to do anything to move past this and he's changing his number/phone etc.

I said i just need to process, know the full truth, and be alone right now.

In order to maintain my dignity I should just cut ties right, but do you think theres a point in a second chance?




this was so my virgo when his girls (yes with an S) called and sms my phone (ugh long story how they even got my number) and did the dramatic thing he almost became a heartbroken pisces . Do wgamador suggested forgive and leave then keep him on speed dial im sure he will pick in a second haha.
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Posted by GemsRaGalsBestPal
If there's smoke there's fire.

While the sheering pain of the break up in the beginning can be brutal there is nothing like the taste of pride when you are able to look back and say to yourself, "What this person did to me was wrong. I stood up for myself. I walked away. Gooooooo me.".

I think many people stay after cheating because it is easier than all the thoughts that come after... It's normal to want to internalize, try to decide how you could have done better, blah blah blah. But then one day you brush yourself off and think... Wait a sec, no way, eff that sorry twit. I'm going to advocate for me!

Or you can be a gluten for punishment. Go ahead take him back, but I'd lean towards his bad behvior resurfacing in the future... when you're even more invested. Or perhaps you could be one of the few that work it out. Although... I think to many people get caught up thinking they and their relationships are the exception to the rule. "I'm different, we're different. All the other people's experiences are very different from my super unique experience."

I'm just a little more realistic than that. I know I fall into the larger percentages. 😉

Regardless of what you decide to do I wish you well and I hope this guy doesn't rob you of anything else. Trust is such a delicate thing. Have it stolen enough and you'll begin to change deep inside where it takes a lot of work to fix.



What she said....