need comments

hi all,

i have a virgo, he always have intentions to meet but no action
he is really sweet..talking everynight with me... but still no action
last week he was really busy because his brother was getting married (all relatives were in the house..he is also working while going to collage)
last week he gave me the explanation that he wanted to meet with me but bc of these reasons he couldn't and last thursday we were going to meet ( he arranged a spare time somehow and in the last minute he couldnt make it because of his job)
finally "the marriage" thing is over.. eventhough we are still talking there is no action ( we are planning to meet at the club friday that's all)..he was talking about going to dinner and movies..
so what is this?

Hehe
How clasical?

You see him as an object (I have a Virgo)?

Virgo's hate to be OBJECT?. Can you see him in better "advanced and more accurate according to your feelings" perspective..?

Lol?. Virgo as an OBJECT?. ?? Never heard of it?no matter how lovely you are.. and frankly don?t even waste time on this mentalities?!

Not going to help..!!

I don;t think that is what I read Qbone.
She doesn't see him as an object...she is wanting him to make a move one way or the other.
Granted you have to take it slow with Virgo man...they take their sweet time.
At least he is calling you sweetie...thats huge.
Take your time w/ this one...

It is your point and I respect it?

But?

(I HAVE A VIRGO)?.is it object..?...

Mentalities is very important for the relationship.. see?I love a cancer? do I have a CANCER.. or do I have my lady..??

Think about it for some seconds?.!

It helps? believe me..

In general? you love a person... an individual... right..??

No matter what stupid sing he might be..!!

The point is.. either you adjust "with".. or get him to "adjust" with you..

Right..??

No compromise.. Because when you do it.. You lost your personality. (What ever it is).

qbone,

i do not see him as an object, this is out of question
it didn't even cross my mind..but it is an interesting way of interpreting it.
maybe u r seeing people as an object
besides my english could be insufficient time to time (not my native language)

virgogotme and sophie68,
finally he asked me for a date tonight, so hopefully meeting tomorrow..he also said he was sorry for this delayed date (very kind 😛)
thanks for the comments
i am excited
any advice?

Hi Virgotome...you are a strong woman and I know you have it in you to turn this thing around with your guy. You give such great advice and the one thing you constantly remind us all is to be ourselves and communicate. I l'ya hun!

Miasma...YEAH!! I'm so happy for you! Ok...just as posted above...BE YOURSELF on the date. Don;t get emotional, dont talk feelings, dress casual. Let nature take its course....take it slow and build a friendship. Let us know how it goes!

virgogotme,

i need ur help..here is the situation..tonight he will go to this club with his friends and i will go to the club with mines..but it seems like my friend wont be able to make it (not certain but might be)

last wednesday when we were out he asked me 2 times if it was sure that i'll go to club friday and i said yes (the reason he is asking that last time i couldn't make it)

so now if my friend don't show up..should i call him and ask to stick with them (but i dont even know his friends) or should i tell him again that i won't be able to make it..i can find someone else to go but i'ts like 5o clock and everyone already made plans for tonight

urgent help urgent help pleaseee

Hey DYR...
What great insight. Funny you bring this up because a friend of mine told me he probably thinks I am not into him or that I am a player. Go figure. But dont understand why you can go from having another incredible date (which he slept over) to NOT CALLING AT ALL. Whats a girl to do? Are Virgos that insecure (and boy is my Virgo veryinsecure!) that they honestly think a sucessful, attractive woman wouldn't want them?

I will likely "bump" into him tonight....here we go...

I'm glad your giving Scorp a "go"...she needs lots of attention...and dont play games.

What do you think should be my next step when I see him tonight after no call for a week and a half?

Hi DYR~
To respond to your question...yes...we spent many nights together...each time he would spend the night at my house and not leave until the morning after b'fast and coffee (which he refuses to let me make because he says I make it horrible and also my coffee cups are WAY too big.....critisism at its Vigos best).
And each time the nights we spend together get better and better.
When he was introducing me to his friends he was bragging about me, so your right, I dont think social status makes a difference..I think its more impressive that I am independent and sucessful.
We will see each other next supposedly.
Pls. see my post about seeing him last night.

Ps...Virgo is 39 years old....

hi dyrstr8z
hi sophie

updating now..i already mentioned that we were together wednesday..so also we were together friday at the club (where we met)
actually the initial plan was: he was coming with his friends, i was coming with mines and we were going to meet up there.
i entered the club like midnight with my friends before him..and suddenly he text message asking me if i was in or not..i said yes and after 10 minutes he came alone..he said that his friends will be a little late (they went somewhere else for an hour)..and explained that he prefered coming to the club rather than going there..he was with me all night long... after a while his friends and my friends became a big group..he was really sweet actually but you know no kissing.
he also mentioned that we should get together during the week sometime.
at the end we left the club together he walked with me until i get into the car and told me to text message him when i arrive home.
it was quiet well actually..my friends also think that it was good
but saturday he wasn't online 😢..i didn't heard from him

don't know this is the situation..dystr8z please help
between we are both 23 years old i'm a cancer
we know eachother like a month

Hi Mias!
HOLD ON hunny! You are expecting something way too fast out of this guy....adn they do not like ot move fast at all! He obviously wanted to be with you then go to where he friends wanted to go , he hung with you all night long and even asked you to get together during the week? That seems like a date to me! Calling the very next day is something not too many men do.He may call on Sunday or Moonday to set up the week date.

Slow it down hun....let him court you...this is his process.

dyrstr8z,

i know you are bored but i need ur comment for this for the last time.

i told u that he said to text message when i arrive home from the club..so i did..and he text message me back saying goodnight and sending me kisses etc. and then i didn't reply to him again and that was it.
i already told u that i was concerned about not hearing from him saturday..and as u guys told me sunday night he was online..i thought he was a little distant than usual while talking. after a while he said that "u did'nt send me a second message" suddenly ,out of the blue..well actually i was suprised..since he is always sleepy i told him that i didn't want to bother him from his sleep with a second message and after that explanation he started talking me more releived (thats what i felt)
today (monday)..we just talked like only 10 minutes online(this is unusual)..and he was like a complete stranger.. he never talked to me like that before
what should i think?
i really have problems handling ambiguity
i want to know things one way or another (good or bad)
what did i do? ( i ask this question to myself)..i didn't forced him i didn't scare him..i gave him space/room..i didn't call him..i mean we don't even talk on the phone..i think he prefers chatting online..well actually i would prefer hearing his voice rather than internet.
and today he talks in a very distant and cold way (i just didn't felt the warmth like i felt before (actually how can u feel that through internet? that's another question but i just did)
so what?..are we done
why is this instability?

I know this ? is directed to DY but let me help......SLOW DOWN.
Many of us are goign throught he same situation...your Virgo needs to analyze things about you. Dy will tell you this. At least you arein contact with him...many of them run scared for weeks or months (mine going on 2 weeks other than the "run-in" last Friday night).

Let him be...let him think. You made him wonder/think/analyze when you never returned his TM.

Its just the beginning sweetie. Let it ride out. Here I am (and thank god for the help of virgotome and Dy) doing the same thing.

He IS in contact w/ you, thats great. Thats more than many of us get here.

Also..Communicate my love!

I totally agree with sophie68. Couldn't have said it better myself. Not meaning to say anything mean about Virgos but they can act very strange indeed. They are one of a kind which does have it's good points but sometimes not. Please calm down. Things will get better. Believe me. Time as a way of showing us the light.

Sorry, I wrote too quickly. The last line should say: "Time has a way of showing us the light".

Hi dyrstr8z
I don't think anyone is ganging up on Virgo males. It's just there are so many in the same boat and therefore it's a comfort to know we are not alone. Sometimes we can think we are the only ones going through a rough patch. Doesn't seem like this is the case, though. There must be something about Virgos at this time of the year. I don't know.
You, on the other hand, seem to be very upfront and honest. That is why you have been in popular demand. Enjoy it.
Hope everything is going well with your Scorpion gal. Scorpions are not easy either but tell me what sign is? I don't think any sign is more easier than another.

hey sophie68 and mystical,

thanks!!!, it really helps to hear..i know i have to slown down sophie but it's like torture.. well i'll deal with it
so sophie did u hear from ur virgo so far?i think it was quiet good at the bar friday night..meanwhile where is virgogotme?
and dyrstr8z i am still waiting for ur comment please

dyrstr8z

There must be something with an older Virgo male so there is hope for those who are deeply in love with Virgos. You were very kind in responding to me under I wonder... To dyrstr8z. I also wrote you a response back by thanking you. Hope you had a chance to read it. I had this Virgo male has a friend. I don't know what I would have done if I had fallen for him. Maybe I'd be in a no-win situation.
It must be true a Virgo opens up as they get older. You certain have and that is great. Please be careful regarding going too fast too sooner with this new woman. I've experienced sometimes when something starts to fast it ends even faster. Not saying this is going to happen to you but do take your time (but not be slow) so you get to know this Scorpion gal.
You wrote the easiest sign for you to get along with is a Taurus. That may be true and if you can find great but why would you when you have the sexy Scorpion gal right now? I think all Virgos like challenges. Maybe a Taurus wouldn't challenge you enough. This is something I'm just saying as a suggestion. From what I gather Scorpions are very loyal but do not, and I mean DO NOT get on the bad side of them. I wish you luck and keep us posted.

Mystical

Miasma

Take your time with this Virgo male. Seems like to me they take their time in everything they do. I guess that is a good trait to have but for some who deeply care for a Virgo it can be very infuriating. Don't push him or you might scare him away. I've noticed Virgos work at their own speed and no one is ever going to make them do anything they don't want to do. With your Virgo guy, he seems a little confused but that has more than likely to do with he is young and doesn't know what he wants. Be there as his friend. Virgos are good friends to have. Then you can see what happens. Don't put too much pressure on him. Good luck and keep us posted.

Mystical

Mias~

Yes, listen to everyone and take your time. I know it can be frustrating but he is doing unlike many virgos (except dyr)do which is keep giving you some type of attention.

Me, on the other hand, have not rec'd a call for two weeks. Saw him at the bar last Friday and said he would call me this week, "wants to see me".

Have a not heard a word from him.

UPDATE>>
OK...so Virgo man finally just called.

Virgo "what are you doing?"

me "I'm working"

V- "Good suomeones got to support me"

Me= "So you want me to be your sugar mama huh?"

V-" Yes, thats what I need. I'm going ot New York on Friday so that should be fun. I'm leaving Friday, so what are you doing tonight?"

Me= "Well, I have got a lot of work to do and have an early conference call in the AM...so tonights not good"

V= Well, I have hockey Wed and Thurs so if you want to hook up after let me know. And swing by tonight if you can or call me when you have time available"

Me-" Ok let me see and I'll call u back"

So...tonight I really want in the mood for a "last minute date". So I was thinking of calling him tonight and say "I have dinner plans Thurs but will meet you after that and after your hockey"

What do you think...?