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One step forward, two steps back...
Posted by lbk
ok...so I've been browsing this forum for A WHILE 😉, and I have to say - as everyone else does, that it's given me a lot of insight and a lot of help in understanding HIS behaviour. What I am having trouble understanding though are his women stories... I work with him, but he also works as a bartender where he has LOTS of women/girls/bimbo's admiring him and passing him all kinds of sleazy notes. He shows these to me...wtf?? What does he expect me to do with this information? Is he testing me?
Why yes... yes he is.
He's pushing your buttons to see your reaction. Then he will evaluate your reaction to determine your interest.
If he is born August 24th through 27th, then he's probably a liar who exaggerates a great deal
If he is born through August 28th to September 15th then he is just trying to feel you out.
I'm a Virgo who used to work in a bar, sure there were lots of women. But I never entertained them beyond casual conversation.
I have the impression we're making progress because he has really opened up to me - actually we have really opened up to each other; I find myself telling him things I have never told anyone else; and he invited me to his place and when I got there he had candles lit, but I bailed after 20minutes because it became too confrontational for me.
Any thoughts/insights would be helpful!click to expand
What was he confronting?
What's your sign?
wow...you guys really hit the nail on the head here. He's born on the 31st, and I'm a leo.
It was confronting for me because he has an unnerving effect on me, mostly because of his very typical "virgo stare". I feel like he can see right through me and that makes me nervous. Like I said, we have a great texting relationship :-)
It was confronting for me because he has an unnerving effect on me, mostly because of his very typical "virgo stare". I feel like he can see right through me and that makes me nervous. Like I said, we have a great texting relationship :-)
Posted by CajunspiritPosted by lbk
ok...so I've been browsing this forum for A WHILE 😉, and I have to say - as everyone else does, that it's given me a lot of insight and a lot of help in understanding HIS behaviour. What I am having trouble understanding though are his women stories... I work with him, but he also works as a bartender where he has LOTS of women/girls/bimbo's admiring him and passing him all kinds of sleazy notes. He shows these to me...wtf?? What does he expect me to do with this information? Is he testing me?
Why yes... yes he is.
He's pushing your buttons to see your reaction. Then he will evaluate your reaction to determine your interest.
If he is born August 24th through 27th, then he's probably a liar who exaggerates a great deal
If he is born through August 28th to September 15th then he is just trying to feel you out.
I'm a Virgo who used to work in a bar, sure there were lots of women. But I never entertained them beyond casual conversation.
I have the impression we're making progress because he has really opened up to me - actually we have really opened up to each other; I find myself telling him things I have never told anyone else; and he invited me to his place and when I got there he had candles lit, but I bailed after 20minutes because it became too confrontational for me.
Any thoughts/insights would be helpful!
What was he confronting?
What's your sign?click to expand
hey cajun its tha 29 thru tha 15 get it rite homie owwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww lmfao
Posted by LeGendary ViRGo
hey cajun its tha 29 thru tha 15 get it rite homie owwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww lmfao
Aaaah forgive me, it's still new knowledge sinking in.
lbk, hang in there girl. Be patient.
Virgos like to take there time...
Cajunspirit, are you sure you're only 21? I've been reading some of your posts on this forum, and your level of insight and self-reflection far transcends your chronologocal age - am seriously impressed!
Have taken all of your (thank you Belle and let it be) good advices to heart and have decided to just let him know that I am here and let him take his time. I feel a serious connection with him, I've told him things I have never told anyone else, and he knows that. My concern is that he split up with his girlfriend 10 months ago, but still seems very hung up on her. She was manipulative and bipolar, and he found out she was cheating on him; yet he still feels an overwhelming sense of responsability for the relationship breaking down. They were only together for a year, and I guess I am wondering if he will ever really be ready to take things further with me. One on hand I sense that he does, but his reluctance is ever present...
And another question for the virgo males out there: he is considered very good looking (obviously I find him very attractive) and he has always had very attractive model-type girlfriends. Im not considered unattractive, far from it, but I was on medication for many years which messed up my body and as a result am 20 pounds overweight... I'm working hard on shifting it; working out three times a week and have a nutritionist, but its taking a loooong time to see results - side effects of the medication. My question is, how important is the physical appearance for a virgo to feel attracted to a woman? I know that they require nothing but the best from themselves, and have equally high standards for other people. So... am I wasting my time with him until I lose the 20 pounds—
Have taken all of your (thank you Belle and let it be) good advices to heart and have decided to just let him know that I am here and let him take his time. I feel a serious connection with him, I've told him things I have never told anyone else, and he knows that. My concern is that he split up with his girlfriend 10 months ago, but still seems very hung up on her. She was manipulative and bipolar, and he found out she was cheating on him; yet he still feels an overwhelming sense of responsability for the relationship breaking down. They were only together for a year, and I guess I am wondering if he will ever really be ready to take things further with me. One on hand I sense that he does, but his reluctance is ever present...
And another question for the virgo males out there: he is considered very good looking (obviously I find him very attractive) and he has always had very attractive model-type girlfriends. Im not considered unattractive, far from it, but I was on medication for many years which messed up my body and as a result am 20 pounds overweight... I'm working hard on shifting it; working out three times a week and have a nutritionist, but its taking a loooong time to see results - side effects of the medication. My question is, how important is the physical appearance for a virgo to feel attracted to a woman? I know that they require nothing but the best from themselves, and have equally high standards for other people. So... am I wasting my time with him until I lose the 20 pounds—
Posted by lbk
Cajunspirit, are you sure you're only 21? I've been reading some of your posts on this forum, and your level of insight and self-reflection far transcends your chronologocal age - am seriously impressed!
Thanks a lot! 🙂
Have taken all of your (thank you Belle and let it be) good advices to heart and have decided to just let him know that I am here and let him take his time. I feel a serious connection with him, I've told him things I have never told anyone else, and he knows that. My concern is that he split up with his girlfriend 10 months ago, but still seems very hung up on her. She was manipulative and bipolar, and he found out she was cheating on him; yet he still feels an overwhelming sense of responsability for the relationship breaking down. They were only together for a year, and I guess I am wondering if he will ever really be ready to take things further with me. One on hand I sense that he does, but his reluctance is ever present...
I don't know about other Virgos, but once I let someone into my heart, they can't come out.
I will always love them.
The responsibility aspect has to do with him believing he failed... if she cheated on him, he's going to beat himself up about it.
It all comes down to how much emotion, time and energy he invested and seemingly wasted. That's what angers him the most.
And another question for the virgo males out there: he is considered very good looking (obviously I find him very attractive) and he has always had very attractive model-type girlfriends. Im not considered unattractive, far from it, but I was on medication for many years which messed up my body and as a result am 20 pounds overweight... I'm working hard on shifting it; working out three times a week and have a nutritionist, but its taking a loooong time to see results - side effects of the medication. My question is, how important is the physical appearance for a virgo to feel attracted to a woman? I know that they require nothing but the best from themselves, and have equally high standards for other people. So... am I wasting my time with him until I lose the 20 pounds—click to expand
20lbs won't make a difference to me. So no, I don't think that is a problem.
he probably wants to make sure that you know what a good catch you've got, so you don't blow it...and more importantly so you don't dump him and break his heart.
especially if his ex cheated. of course his gonna make damn sure you don't.
if he likes you overweight, again, that means that once you get into shape (or even if you don't), you're more likely to stick around. the average virgo tends to like girls with a bit more meat on them. they like pretty faces and good proportions. obesity would be a problem. but extra weight because of medication probably isn't. while he may have dated thin girls in the past, it probably wasn't because they were thin. unless he's got a lot of libra in his chart. that'll make him more into the skinnies. but if he's aug 31, i'm gonna assume he doesn't.
of course, sluts are sluts and they'll be sluts no matter what. nice girls are nice and they'll be nice no matter what. but most guys don't realize this.
so just be patient with him.
especially if his ex cheated. of course his gonna make damn sure you don't.
if he likes you overweight, again, that means that once you get into shape (or even if you don't), you're more likely to stick around. the average virgo tends to like girls with a bit more meat on them. they like pretty faces and good proportions. obesity would be a problem. but extra weight because of medication probably isn't. while he may have dated thin girls in the past, it probably wasn't because they were thin. unless he's got a lot of libra in his chart. that'll make him more into the skinnies. but if he's aug 31, i'm gonna assume he doesn't.
of course, sluts are sluts and they'll be sluts no matter what. nice girls are nice and they'll be nice no matter what. but most guys don't realize this.
so just be patient with him.
Thanks again you guys, much appreciated!! This Virgo makes me feel like I'm 13 years old again, which is unnerving, but I like it. I like the fact that he takes his time in getting to know me properly. I am a typical leo in that I have had some overly emotional moments with him, crying on the phone over traumas in the past etc; and although it makes him pull back into his head to mull it over, he has never judged me for it. In fact he says that he says he's honoured that I trust him enough to tell him these things....
And he makes me laugh so hard my stomach hurts, great sense of humour :-))))
am sure I will think of other questions and will revert!
And he makes me laugh so hard my stomach hurts, great sense of humour :-))))
am sure I will think of other questions and will revert!
OK! Got another one!!! (trust me...there will be many, many more 😉)
I wrote him a letter a couple of months back. He has a typical virgoan tendency of beating himself up and being hard on himself, and he had told me something that happened to him when he was a child and my heart reached out to him. I wrote him what a wonderful person I think he is and how he needs to belive in himself and all his accomplishments and ignore the haters. I gave it to him the next day, and he told me it was the sweetest letter he had ever received and that he wanted to return the gesture. I told him it wasn't necessary, but he insisted that he wanted to do it, but...nothing.
Also for his birthday I got him a special present which took me a lot of effort to get and I knew would mean a lot to me. He told me he wanted to get me something too for my b-day which had been, but...nothing.
We've talked about opening a bar together, he was really enthousiastic about it, we would talk about it all the time. Then he told me he was going to check out a location one day, and that he would call me to see it as well, but he never called; and he hasn't mentioned anything about our plans since...
WHAT"S UP—————————————————————————————————————————??
I wrote him a letter a couple of months back. He has a typical virgoan tendency of beating himself up and being hard on himself, and he had told me something that happened to him when he was a child and my heart reached out to him. I wrote him what a wonderful person I think he is and how he needs to belive in himself and all his accomplishments and ignore the haters. I gave it to him the next day, and he told me it was the sweetest letter he had ever received and that he wanted to return the gesture. I told him it wasn't necessary, but he insisted that he wanted to do it, but...nothing.
Also for his birthday I got him a special present which took me a lot of effort to get and I knew would mean a lot to me. He told me he wanted to get me something too for my b-day which had been, but...nothing.
We've talked about opening a bar together, he was really enthousiastic about it, we would talk about it all the time. Then he told me he was going to check out a location one day, and that he would call me to see it as well, but he never called; and he hasn't mentioned anything about our plans since...
WHAT"S UP—————————————————————————————————————————??
Posted by lbk
WHAT"S UP—————————————————————————————————————————??
His enthusiasm is a fantastic sign... just be a little patient... 🙂
WHAT"S UP—————————————————————————————————————————??
ummm....that's me asking you guys to help me de-code his behaviour :-))
ummm....that's me asking you guys to help me de-code his behaviour :-))
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I have the impression we're making progress because he has really opened up to me - actually we have really opened up to each other; I find myself telling him things I have never told anyone else; and he invited me to his place and when I got there he had candles lit, but I bailed after 20minutes because it became too confrontational for me. We have a great texting relationship, but I'm afraid that the reality won't be as good; and to be honest, he makes me feel insecure when he tells me about all these girls. My tactic at the moment, after having read many posts, is to see what happens, take it as it comes. If I could just understand why he tells me about other women... I know he's not the type to have a one-night stand with any of them.
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