virgo breaking heart

Hello all,

I am friend before with virgo very close. We have relationship, that I not want but he yes. Then when i am comfortable with he says no more. We am before close but not speaking for a few month. Then we start to speak, I telling him how I feel contact him much. I say give him time to think and now he not speak to me again. It breaking heart of me because he am before very good friend. How to be his good friend again? Is possible? I sad because I am feelings like its overs and not going to my friend again. 😢

Posted by BelleTheScorpio
Kim, just be patient. I feel with a virgo, patience is key to developing a long lasting friendship or relationship with them. They need time to analyze their feelings, to analyze the attraction they may feel, analyze the best way to approach that attraction, analyze the outcomes of each approach, analyze which outcome is the one they desire the most, analyze why they desire that outcome, analyze where they want to go after that. And it continues. My virgo friend use to back away quite a bit, we'd go a few weeks without talking before he'd be right there, talking again, as if no time had passed whatsoever. After quite a few years, he's finally stopped backing away, and is there everyday, without fail. Virgos are fantastic individuals, and I absolutely adore them. But it really does require patience. They have to know that you are loyal to them, no matter what. Once they see you are loyal, the relationship takes on a deeper, more meaningful pattern, and they begin to let you into their world, into their minds, into their hearts. Your virgo may just need some time to think things through, to analyze what was said, and how he feels about it, before he'll contact you again. Just be patient, be there for him when he does come back, and give him the freedom he needs to figure out whatever it is he needs to figure out.

Amen. 😄

*Give BelletheScorpio her Virgo PhD Diploma* 🙂

*and a little tap from behind* jk 😄

Posted by BelleTheScorpio
Kim, just be patient. I feel with a virgo, patience is key to developing a long lasting friendship or relationship with them. They need time to analyze their feelings, to analyze the attraction they may feel, analyze the best way to approach that attraction, analyze the outcomes of each approach, analyze which outcome is the one they desire the most, analyze why they desire that outcome, analyze where they want to go after that. And it continues. My virgo friend use to back away quite a bit, we'd go a few weeks without talking before he'd be right there, talking again, as if no time had passed whatsoever. After quite a few years, he's finally stopped backing away, and is there everyday, without fail. Virgos are fantastic individuals, and I absolutely adore them. But it really does require patience. They have to know that you are loyal to them, no matter what. Once they see you are loyal, the relationship takes on a deeper, more meaningful pattern, and they begin to let you into their world, into their minds, into their hearts. Your virgo may just need some time to think things through, to analyze what was said, and how he feels about it, before he'll contact you again. Just be patient, be there for him when he does come back, and give him the freedom he needs to figure out whatever it is he needs to figure out.

Thanks yous Bella Scorpio. You give the good advices. I am give him freedom then, I know in the heart I am there for him when he is needing me. I am with so much scare. He says he trying to moving on, and I am hope in my heart he not meaning like many mens to never see me again or be close again. He before is more than the relations he is friend. I hurt him when angry and says he is not my friend before. So he says "oh we is not before friends? Am correct? That is what you says." It not is mine intentions. I am with scare he not figure out or analysis and just forgetting me as another person passes by in life. I hoping he understanding that I care, I giving up and sometimes think he do not caring. I before talk with him of everything now I no having person to talk with. Only yous persons heh 🙂. Times I thinking that I am maybe cu-cu, only in my brain, and we maybe no close and he not caring. He says he caring before but maybe its not true. Ha I am confused too! Thank you so much Bella and Beergo. You gives me strength Bella, I

appreciate much.~ :0)

Posted by BelleTheScorpio
Kim, just be patient. I feel with a virgo, patience is key to developing a long lasting friendship or relationship with them. They need time to analyze their feelings, to analyze the attraction they may feel, analyze the best way to approach that attraction, analyze the outcomes of each approach, analyze which outcome is the one they desire the most, analyze why they desire that outcome, analyze where they want to go after that. And it continues. My virgo friend use to back away quite a bit, we'd go a few weeks without talking before he'd be right there, talking again, as if no time had passed whatsoever. After quite a few years, he's finally stopped backing away, and is there everyday, without fail. Virgos are fantastic individuals, and I absolutely adore them. But it really does require patience. They have to know that you are loyal to them, no matter what. Once they see you are loyal, the relationship takes on a deeper, more meaningful pattern, and they begin to let you into their world, into their minds, into their hearts. Your virgo may just need some time to think things through, to analyze what was said, and how he feels about it, before he'll contact you again. Just be patient, be there for him when he does come back, and give him the freedom he needs to figure out whatever it is he needs to figure out.

wow very nice put.

Posted by kim_star*55

I hurt him when angry and says he is not my friend before. So he says "oh we is not before friends? Am correct? That is what you says." It not is mine intentions.

Virgo takes things serious. if you tell them "dont talk with me anymore" when you are angry. they will not talk to you anymore. even though you didn't really mean it. you just said that because you were angry.
so let him know you said that because you were angry, and that you are sorry and you didnt mean it.

Posted by kim_star*55

Times I thinking that I am maybe cu-cu, only in my brain, and we maybe no close and he not caring. He says he caring before but maybe its not true. Ha I am confused too!

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it's normal to think a virgo doesn't care for you.
you may think they dont, but they do care, its just that they show it differently.

good luck

I agree with what TheScorpio said .. however, a huge problem arises with this.

People, other than the Virgo, also have needs. It would be counseled that all of us should be patient and let the Virgo back off into thier little cove for analyzation of all aspects of the situation before proceeding .... however, there is another person in this scenerio, and this other person might actually need constant reasurance.

To be in a union .. it isn't all about one person .. there are two. And how is it fair for the Virgo to deserve the right to left alone for his "thinking" of a partnership, while leaving the other feeling abandoned?

That's not right .. not at all. How can it be fair to the other person to just deal with it because this is what the Virgo needs, while what the other person needs is support?

It's not ..... it's not fair .... and is the #1 reason why Virgos revert to assholeism.

Posted by kim_star*55

Times I thinking that I am maybe cu-cu, only in my brain, and we maybe no close and he not caring. He says he caring before but maybe its not true. Ha I am confused too!

it's normal to think a virgo doesn't care for you.
you may think they dont, but they do care, its just that they show it differently.

good luck

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Like that ^^^^^^ for example. This lady is (((((((((((feeling))))))))))) unloved by her Virgo, and she is just supposed to accept that he cares without any emotional nurturing from him, rather just empty words from a stranger telling her so on the internet.

That's sad .. seriously .. you Virgos need to realize how badly you actually hurt people. People do feel, you know.

That's sad .. seriously .. you Virgos need to realize how badly you actually hurt people. People do feel, you know.

Feelings should be mutual; you cannot force someone to like you, if it is not there then it is not there you cannot create something out of nothing!

Posted by P-Angel

Like that ^^^^^^ for example. This lady is (((((((((((feeling))))))))))) unloved by her Virgo, and she is just supposed to accept that he cares without any emotional nurturing from him, rather just empty words from a stranger telling her so on the internet.

That's sad .. seriously .. you Virgos need to realize how badly you actually hurt people. People do feel, you know.

Exactly, but there's no other way around. They are born like this, so I guess people either has to face it the way they are or just leave them.

and that is why many virgos finds themselves lovely in life.

Lovely? Or lonely? 😉

I love Virgos, make no mistake. Absolutely lovely people. But yeah, a lot of them revert to asshole-ism, as P said. Inflexibility and refusal to consider others' needs and wants (even when they directly conflict with your own!) is the surest path to ending up alone.

lol yeah mistake. I meant lonely*
thx Nefer.

Posted by moon_eyes
its true, let them brew they will figure out what they want. Just make sure that you and him are on the same page. Dont get too attached, because if he goes poof permanently you will be hurt. And I mean not just simple hurt but seriously hurt. Virgos have this ability to get under your skin and stay there.
Asshole is an ok term douchebag is a better one🙂 imo. They are great but some can be serious douchebags

Posted by moon_eyes
And there is no bashing so dont go try and imply something that isnt there. There are douches in every sign 🙂

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Posted by moon_eyes
And there is no bashing so dont go try and imply something that isnt there. There are douches in every sign 🙂

just not in virgo we are all inocent angels 😉 its all a miss understanding lol

rotf. I need to breathe, youre killing me here lol.

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Posted by moon_eyes
I think virgo breaking hearts is programmed into virgo dna 🙂 thats just my personal opinion. And its not that they cant help it its that they refuse to see and admit that their actions and words bruise people pretty damn bad. It is an ugly cycle.

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Posted by P-Angel
I agree with what TheScorpio said .. however, a huge problem arises with this. People, other than the Virgo, also have needs. It would be counseled that all of us should be patient and let the Virgo back off into thier little cove for analyzation of all aspects of the situation before proceeding .... however, there is another person in this scenerio, and this other person might actually need constant reasurance. To be in a union .. it isn't all about one person .. there are two. And how is it fair for the Virgo to deserve the right to left alone for his "thinking" of a partnership, while leaving the other feeling abandoned? That's not right .. not at all. How can it be fair to the other person to just deal with it because this is what the Virgo needs, while what the other person needs is support? It's not ..... it's not fair .... and is the #1 reason why Virgos revert to assholeism.

Thats why many of us learn that we are, so we stay single because we rather have our partner be happy with somebody who can actually give them their emotional support and comfort. We DON'T care for relationships.

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Posted by P-Angel
I agree with what TheScorpio said .. however, a huge problem arises with this. People, other than the Virgo, also have needs. It would be counseled that all of us should be patient and let the Virgo back off into thier little cove for analyzation of all aspects of the situation before proceeding .... however, there is another person in this scenerio, and this other person might actually need constant reasurance. To be in a union .. it isn't all about one person .. there are two. And how is it fair for the Virgo to deserve the right to left alone for his "thinking" of a partnership, while leaving the other feeling abandoned? That's not right .. not at all. How can it be fair to the other person to just deal with it because this is what the Virgo needs, while what the other person needs is support? It's not ..... it's not fair .... and is the #1 reason why Virgos revert to assholeism.

Thats why many of us learn that we are, so we stay single because we rather have our partner be happy with somebody who can actually give them their emotional support and comfort. We DON'T care for relationships.

u are like my twin i believe in the same thing.. i think for us virgos we look at a relationship as a luxury not a must like i notice in other signs.

Yup, a choice not a requirement.

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we break hearts w/o even honestly knowing it. although other times we do and its just out of selfishness.

while we're on the subject, heres a song...

You could be happy and I won't know
But you weren't happy the day I watched you go

And all the things that I wished I had not said
Are played in loops 'till it's madness in my head

Is it too late to remind you how we were
But not our last days of silence, screaming, blur

Most of what I remember makes me sure
I should have stopped you from walking out the door

You could be happy, I hope you are
You made me happier than I'd been by far

Somehow everything I own smells of you
And for the tiniest moment it's all not true

Do the things that you always wanted to
Without me there to hold you back, don't think, just do

More than anything I want to see you, girl
Take a glorious bite out of the whole world

Posted by Jason2213

The love of those who hold scars in their hearts is a hundred times stronger than the love of those who have only ever been loved and adored.

nice lines. did you just write that out your own?

what is joy?

Posted by Virgo07
what is joy?

Wow I not knowing that the chat went on! hehe. :0) JOY? Blaaaaj. I look back to before, I see two friends so happy and complimenting. I am liking attention before, he says sweet words, always surprise me, sharing the jokes, says he care blaj blaj. Take me every place with all his friend watch movie talk about the personal. When I am busying he annoying me some of time with cellular message. Now after "argue" "think" "not talk" is nothing. The relationship is like a person

it is too confuse. He says friends , he says I say no friends before so no friends, then says friends, then says he is getting over, then says he not knowing, then says friends. Make up the mind.

It is ok to give him time, Kim, if you care for him a lot .... however, just make sure you don't put your life on hold.

If you are going to decide to wait it out, then you have to be told up front .... your whole life with him will involve you having to make this same sacrifice over and again = the waiting for him to make a decision, for you to then live accordingly.

If you can't do that ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ then it is best to move on right now because you will never have in a Virgo a person who will initiate that he cares, he'll have to be forced/guilted into it .. then the waiting game on your part, again and again.