Picky virguy rant!

So my virguy friend is extremely sensitive to just about any kind of 'product'. Shampoo, hair stuff in general, any kind of perfume or health & beauty type product with added fragrance, fabric softeners, etc. To the point where he was going somewhere with his mom & had to get out and walk because of something she was wearing. Or if we're out for coffee and someone comes in with 'product' we have to leave immediately.

I've already changed a brand of hairspray I use to one he could cope with, but just recently he's having issues with something I'm wearing to the point where we couldn't really hang out the past couple times I've been over.

I can't figure out what it is, since I'm using all the same brands etc. Of course he's like 'how about weaning yourself off that stuff?' with a smirky little grin. Never mind that his idea of dressing for company is pajamas, slippers, and some beat up hat. He doesn't have my hair (or vanity) to accommodate.

Anyway, i just had to rant about the issue because I actually agreed to go visit tomorrow without WITHOUT any freakin product in my hair. Seriously, that's so not on my list of approved behavior for leaving the house. But I'm so busy the next few weekends, something has to give.

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Sounds more like panic attack symptoms, not physical. Breathing issues though....eyes watering I think.

He's pretty distressed about it, and embarassed that it interferes with our time together. Normally I wouldn't be so flexible about it, but I've already been pondering lightening up on the 'products'. I've been high maintenance for 20 years now, and sometimes it's a pain. So accommodating my friend is a good excuse to start weaning myself, as he put it. I just don't want him to think he influenced me 😉

It really does seem to handicap him though. Yesterday he said that was one reason why he 'gets lubricated' when he's out at his friend's shows, because it helps him cope with all the 'perfumed' people. And he's had to have changes made at work with the way his work area is ventilated.

I think he expects me to get tired of the fussiness and blow him off. He always seems so grateful when I take all that in stride. Of all the friends and activites I spend time on, he's the most fun in the most convenient 'package', so I'm ok with being flexible to a point. He pays it back in his own way.

Seriously though, sometimes I just want to yell 'grow a pair!'

I gotta ask, is this a virgo thing or just an individual thing?

I had emailed Mr. Sensitive about visiting today, specifically saying let me know so I can schedule my day depending. I knew he wouldn't reply. He almost never does when I mention something about committing to a time and replying, via email or voice mail. This has been the case for years now.

Normally I would figure that no answer means the answer is no, and go about my business. We usually have a standing arangement that I'll call when I'm running Saturday errands, but sometimes he's busy or I'm running late or whatever. I used to assume it would be equally not a big deal if I didn't call. But one time, on our Friday coffee thing, I said my usual 'call you tomorrow' & got the usual 'sure, if I'm home'. I was late leaving home, running behind, and when I called his phone was busy (he doesn't have call-waiting) I figured oh good he's busy anyway, so I won't feel bad about skipping out. But he calls me like an hour later saying he just got off the phone and was worried I tried to call etc etc. and was bummed that i had gone on with my day.

Me being me, I have repeated the sequence of events with a few variations, and it never fails that no matter if he doesn't reply to my messages or emails about getting together, he still assumes I will call and is sort of hurt if I don't.

So today the same thing. No reply to my email, and I just had too much to do, so I called to let him know I was busy, and to see the reaction. He answered on the first ring and we chatted about project progress(we're both working on a lot this weekend) and he mentioned it was time for a coffee break. LOL Not hey, are you coming over I'm taking a break, or I got your email, but I'm kind of too busy today. So I said that I'm in the middle of hilling my potatoes (just got the only sun break in weeks of rain, so I have to get this done asap) and it looks like not a good day to visit after all. He sounded a little resigned and said that's how it goes sometimes....

Being a cancer, I hate even a hint of rejection. I'd never bother with any of this if it wasn't rather evident that he looks forward to hanging out, feels bummed if we can't, etc. But Saturday when I stopped by, I was walking up to his porch, and he gave me a big startle, standing in his front window watching for me like a kid watching for the ice cream man. wtf? It's funny, but kind of baffling.

And that's what he does time after time after time...

And I'm asking if a virgo person's behavior is related to being a virgo or not, not looking for opinions on my friendship with this guy, so Tubby & P-Angel can shut up about sex or any other of their usually rabid comments 😛

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