Pisces has a crush on very shy Virgo boss

Ok, so I am a pisces and have a crush on my virgo boss. We are actually both the same age though - early thirties.

Firstly, I know it's wrong and complicated to crush on your boss, but such is life and he's only my boss for six months.

I thought he really liked me, cause even though he's my boss, he would email me about 50+ times per day (no exaggeration) about silly things like - hello - how are you - what did you do yesterday - are you watching olympics - do you have a boyfriend - do you have pets - etc etc. Then we would catch the work bus home together. He would never sit next to me, but would spend the whole bus ride texting me (flirting!) so that whoever I was talking to on the bus, he would say - is that your boyfriend? - why are you talking to them? - all these flirtatious things. Then he would text me more at night. This has been going on for about 2 months.

Then we started to see each other around town and would stop and talk for a while. He's just so shy, whenever we are in person, he blushes all the time.

Then I sent him an email, as that is the only way he feels comfortable talking to me and said that I had a crush on him and wanted to date him, but wished we could actually talk in real life.

Then he sends me this email saying he's sorry if he overstepped the boundary and that due to a recent bad episode in his life, it's very important for him to have clear separations between work/friends/lovers and he can't mix those up and that he doesn't want to change the nature of our relationship.

I don't know what to do now. What do you think is going on? Does he like me or not? I figured all that non work contact was because he liked me.

I forgot to add:

Like I would really like to date this guy longer than just a fling - more long term, but I just don't know what to do from here. We are in a foreign country on assignment, so I can't really wait until he is no longer my boss and then date him, because we will both have to go home. I want to find out now if we would be compatible.

It's funny that he gives me so much contact, but then when he comes to my office he will pretend we haven't just been emailing each other all morning. Very weird.

I feel so upset after he rejected my email, because he said while he's flattered, he doesn't want to change the relationship. I hate when people say they are flattered and then he went on about how we both have a lot of work coming up over the next few months and we need to focus on that. How boring! How can work be the most important thing. Is that just an excuse because he doesn't like me.

Everyone at my work is asking me out and he's the only one I actually like, but he suddenly rejects my offer to date. aghg.....

Pisces is the opposite of Virgo, and in my case as a second decan September 3rd through 14th, there are great difficulties.

He "pretends" as though you were not e-mailing each other all morning, to keep his composure and a "calm demeanor".

He clearly likes you and is cautious about how to go around charming you. Give him the encouragement and reassurance and he will pursue you more seriously.

that's not shy. like cajun said, virgos like to appear calm. and for that matter to feel calm. which is much easier when you communicate with someone strictly via words without having to bring in factors like body language and looking into somebody's eyes. but if he were actually shy you wouldn't be getting so many emails or texts. he's just selectively bold. plus, he's got time to think up the right way to say things instead of being put on the spot to say them in real time. even a quick texting session provides more time to maneuver than a face-to-face convo.

which can and would lead to some serious trouble if things progressed into a relationship. if they do, i'd recommend dealing with any issues through notes rather than face to face talks. especially for a pisces, since you guys mostly hate words and logical conversations and totally love all the feeling stuff. it sounds like he's completely incapable (or perhaps simply unwilling) to give you that.

my concern is that if he's acting this way and staying cool in public, you might not be the only one getting emails and texts. it sounds like you probably are, but you never know.

if you're interested, be more flirty in your written exchanges, but stay the same in person. maybe add in an occasional grin or extra glance. but keep most of the flirting written. at some point, if he really likes you, you might be able to get some flirting and emotional type stuff from him in private (possibly quite a lot of it, since they do have a lot there once they finally open up), but i'd still hold back in public. he's clearly uncomfortable with public displays.

why would u wanna ruin ur relationship with ur boss and you guys work at the same work force its not a good idea den it rise a bar with all the other employers then rumors start spreading maybe he doesnt wanna risk it because he can look bad in the end and virgos do not like that.


personally i wouldnt mix my personal life with work life end of story.

Posted by Prince_Pisces
omg you should go for him! If you two are together, than chances are, he could give you some kind of raise 🙂 LOL!

wow u have no standards will pisces people really dont have anyway lmfao.