Plz help - Chance of Virgo woman leaving her BF in this situation?

How come there aren’t any post about Virgo women on here? I can’t decide what’s going on. So there’s this girl I know, and she lives with her boyfriend, she’s also going on holiday with her boyfriend.

We’ve been spending time together, and it’s been going well. She flirts and the body language is good, and people think we are going out, but we aren’t because she has a boyfriend already. On a couple of occasions, she’s asked me out and I’ve gone along thinking some of her other friends are out, but then we meet and it’s just been the two of us. She’s also told me she’s arguing with her boyfriend a lot because he wants different things. He doesn’t hang out with her or her friends (except the holiday they have planned!). She’s also told me a couple of times, that she doesn’t see her boyfriend at weekends, because he stays at his friend’s house. She doesn’t seem the type to cheat on anyone. The questions are:

Likelihood of Virgo woman cheating on her boyfriend in this situation?

Likelihood Virgo woman would leave her boyfriend in this situation?

Chances of Virgo woman just doing this because she’s bored at home at weekends when her bf goes out, or maybe trying to get payback/of make bf jealous for not spending weekend time with her?

I can wait now till after the holiday now, maybe she will patch things up with her BF, maybe not. But would I have to make a move? My original plan was that it’s kinda messy, so I was going to wait and see if she leaves her BF first, but now I’m thinking I should make a move and say I’m interested, then maybe she could leave her BF? I’ve heard Virgo women don’t leave their BF very easily?

Stay out of it you prick

It doesn't sound like any of your business

Sounds like you're hoping she leaves the bf for you and you want dxp to validate you

Have a look at yourself in the mirror

Find a woman who is actually available and stop wasting your time chasing after someone who is already in a relationship. There is literally no upside to this situation. 9 times out of 10 she sees you as just a friend and is probably confiding in you as a result. You knew she had a boyfriend already. If you make a move on her, don't be surprised when she gets upset.

If she does cheat on her boyfriend, you'll be dealing with someone who is comfortable with infidelity. Just remember if she's willing to cheat on him, there's not reason to think that she won't cheat on you too.

yeah I do agree with all this, it's just now her friends are asking us out as couple. It's just a bit confusing. What am I suppose to be doing exactly. But I don't want anything messy, so I think you're right. Honestly would never make a move on a girl already with a BF, but this has been going on a while and now it's at this level it's a bit weird. Just have to keep telling people we aren't going out, my friends ask me how she is when she's not with me. Just weird, that's all.

Posted by AriesJo
yeah I do agree with all this, it's just now her friends are asking us out as couple. It's just a bit confusing. What am I suppose to be doing exactly. But I don't want anything messy, so I think you're right. Honestly would never make a move on a girl already with a BF, but this has been going on a while and now it's at this level it's a bit weird. Just have to keep telling people we aren't going out, my friends ask me how she is when she's not with me. Just weird, that's all.

You sound like an absolute weasel man

In your OP you clearly ask if you should make your intentions known, before/hoping they break up

But, oh no, I'm a great person, I could never make move with girl already wth BF

Horseshit

You've weaselled your way into this and you know it

People on this site see things as black or white and it pisses me off lmao. If you are single you can chase after whoever the fu.ck you want. The person in a relationship will stay commited and tell you to back off if they love their partner. Please love yourselves a bit and acknowledge that if your significant other cheats on you is because he/she fu.cking wanted to.

See, I don't know this girl but she hasn't talked about breaking up with his boyfriend. I have male friends, we meet alone, and I'm not attracted to them. We hug or something and people may think we are dating: but the hurtful truth here my friend is, we are not dating. And you and her are not dating. Virgos are straight forward, if she was planning on leaving his boyfriend you would know.

So yeah I'll answer your questions but only from my perspective:

We don't tend to cheat on, doesn't matter the situation. She may have issues with his boyfriend but they're going on vacation together so c'mon. And I don't think we are likely to try to make our partner jelous. Tadaaaa.

Not really, my original post was asking more about how likely a Virgo is to dump a guy that doesn’t spend time with her. She’s told me that in the past she went on holiday with a guy she had broken up with, because she’d already paid for it. I obviously care for her because I’ve spent too much time with her, and I’ve seen it where friends have asked me about another women in front of her, and I can definitely read the body language, it’s something other people have picked up on and said there’s definitely a connection. Honestly, when I saw her face when it looked like I might want to go out with someone else, I really thought then that I should be doing something I’m not. Otherwise I wouldn’t have come on here and asked about it.

But really what am I doing wrong? Don’t you think it’s a bit extreme to call me a weasel? She has a BF, she’s asking me out, I’m hanging out with her because I like hanging out with her, I’m not doing it to force it to go anywhere, but if I’m meant to be doing something then I would like to know about it. The other thing is, I know for a fact, if a guy wants to stay with his GF, he doesn’t stay away from home at weekends and avoids his GF. I am willing to accept that maybe I misread her expressions and body language, and everyone else has too. But it’s actually like last weekend, when I didn’t invite her out, and then we all saw each other the next day and she was disappointed I didn’t ask her out, like we’re a couple anyway, but I just don’t get the sex part. Anyway I think you’ve helped me, even if you have been rude about it.

Posted by AriesJo
But really what am I doing wrong?

Yes it is. She isn't available.

Posted by AriesJo
Don’t you think it’s a bit extreme to call me a weasel? She has a BF, she’s asking me out, I’m hanging out with her because I like hanging out with her, I’m not doing it to force it to go anywhere, but if I’m meant to be doing something then I would like to know about it.

Excuse to minimize your moral culpability . These are the same excuses I hear from women on here.

Posted by AriesJo
The other thing is, I know for a fact, if a guy wants to stay with his GF, he doesn’t stay away from home at weekends and avoids his GF. I am willing to accept that maybe I misread her expressions and body language, and everyone else has too. But it’s actually like last weekend, when I didn’t invite her out, and then we all saw each other the next day and she was disappointed I didn’t ask her out, like we’re a couple anyway, but I just don’t get the sex part. Anyway I think you’ve helped me, even if you have been rude about it.

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You are an outsider to their relationship, so the fact that you are making judgments about what happens without knowing the full story, is shitty. Did you expect people to sit by and say "oh heyz itz okayz for you to be an interloper in a relationship!" and offer you cookies? No. Most people dislike this type of a behavior from men or women.

At the end of the day, she is not available for dating, and won't be until she is actually single. You lose them how you get them.

1% chance

I'm a Virgo woman and i have been in her situation. I was with someone for 10 years, 5 of which were miserable. We are slow to get in a relationship and slow to get out. When we find someone who we feel is the one we would definately leave a dying relationship. My ex knew for years as i didnt hide what was making me unhappy, but he never thought i would have the courage to leave. I did! I met someone and saw him twice a month for months and fell in love. He said the right things to make me sure of us...i sold my house and left my bf for him.