surlefil
@surlefil
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push/pull
Posted by Scorporella
Personally, I would send him a message saying, "I know you are having a rough week, if there is anything I can do to help, let me know. I'm thinking about you and looking forward to spending more time with you." And then I'd leave it be. It lets him know that you enjoy his company, are thinking about him and are looking forward to sharing more time together.
Ugh, the only problem is that he was having a bad week a little over a week ago. Also, when we last spoke, I told him that ^^... so that's where we left things. Maybe I should still message him just saying, "what's up? thinking about you... let's get together sometime?!" I just don't want to seem silly-- like I didn't get the hint
Posted by surlefil
My Virgo and I were getting really close and then he just up and disappeared. Things happened so fast between us and then... gone. I've read up a lot on here about this happening and that Virgo's disappear when they feel a relationship isn't worth while, but this confuses me, because it seemed to me that things were going great! I'm a little rusty on romance, my last relationship was sooooooo cold. He understood that and I was dropping hints about how much I enjoyed his company and spending time with him. When I didn't hear from him for a few days, I straight up asked him if I did something wrong and he insisted that I didn't do anything wrong, he had a terrible week, and he'd call me in a fews days. It's been a week and nothing. So do I leave him be or should I contact him? I don't want him to think that I don't like him and I don't him to hate me for being so persistent.
This is making me so sad. I feel like I may be slowly moving on, too. Which I don't really want to do...
surlefil,
Reach out to him once and keep it light (something along the lines of what Scorporella said) as I don't think there is any harm in that. It is not unlike a Virgo to disappear or pull away from someone (lover or not) should he/she be experiencing some personal problems with work, home, school, family, etc. Try not to personalize it and let him come around in his own time. Letting him know that you have a shoulder (or ear) for him if he needs support while still maintaining your own life and independence, is the way to go with a Virgo. I know it may hurt but don't put your life on hold for him and don't always make yourself too available to him. Let things flow naturally and if the two of you are to be, then you will be.
How long have you two been seeing eachother?
Are you a Cancer btw?
Posted by VirgoVixxxenPosted by surlefil
My Virgo and I were getting really close and then he just up and disappeared. Things happened so fast between us and then... gone. I've read up a lot on here about this happening and that Virgo's disappear when they feel a relationship isn't worth while, but this confuses me, because it seemed to me that things were going great! I'm a little rusty on romance, my last relationship was sooooooo cold. He understood that and I was dropping hints about how much I enjoyed his company and spending time with him. When I didn't hear from him for a few days, I straight up asked him if I did something wrong and he insisted that I didn't do anything wrong, he had a terrible week, and he'd call me in a fews days. It's been a week and nothing. So do I leave him be or should I contact him? I don't want him to think that I don't like him and I don't him to hate me for being so persistent.
This is making me so sad. I feel like I may be slowly moving on, too. Which I don't really want to do...
surlefil,
Reach out to him once and keep it light (something along the lines of what Scorporella said) as I don't think there is any harm in that. It is not unlike a Virgo to disappear or pull away from someone (lover or not) should he/she be experiencing some personal problems with work, home, school, family, etc. Try not to personalize it and let him come around in his own time. Letting him know that you have a shoulder (or ear) for him if he needs support while still maintaining your own life and independence, is the way to go with a Virgo. I know it may hurt but don't put your life on hold for him and don't always make yourself too available to him. Let things flow naturally and if the two of you are to be, then you will be.
How long have you two been seeing eachother?
Are you a Cancer btw?click to expand
Thank you for your two cents. I am just scared of being too overbearing because I have been putting all the efforts (lately) in trying to keep in contact with him. I will try one more time and I'll be lighthearted but caring, like you said. I am just getting frustrated and overly emotional. We've only been together for a couple months, so not very long, but we were friends before for 3 years.
I'm a Gemini.
If you do get back in regular contact here's my thoughts on further establishing the ralationship purely based on my experience as a Virgo and what I know about a Gem. A virgo will weigh his decisions of the heart based on facts and logic. If you're putting off qualities that force him to think, "Well how much can I stand of this quality" then those are adding up in his head. It's like when you take that list of the pros and cons and line them up and see which one has more in the column. From my experience chatteriness and indecisiveness are my biggest Gem turn-offs and if you possess those traits you might look to work on them. Lead your conversations. Don't mindlessly chatter. Even better appealing to a Virgo would be to engage in a more stimulating form of conversation that really gets the two of you thinking. If you can change an outlook or two of his life you just earned tremendous respect. And if you think you're sexy, nothing works better than dressing sexy (not slutty) and only that sexy in front of your Virgo, not out in public. Hope any of this helps.
Posted by surlefilPosted by VirgoVixxxenPosted by surlefil
Thank you for your two cents. I am just scared of being too overbearing because I have been putting all the efforts (lately) in trying to keep in contact with him. I will try one more time and I'll be lighthearted but caring, like you said. I am just getting frustrated and overly emotional. We've only been together for a couple months, so not very long, but we were friends before for 3 years.
I'm a Gemini.click to expand
LOL @ "two cents". The frustration and being emotional is def understandable and now that you say "I have been putting all the efforts (lately) in trying to keep in contact with him", I almost want to tell you not to contact him again. The next time that you two do speak, let it be by his effort and not yours. However, the decision is up to you. Good luck.
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