Question for virgo men...

I am new here & when I have time I'm going back & reading old posts, etc.

I know there are some Virgo men here - and I just want to ask a question. I know everyone is different, but is it normal for Virgo men to pull away from someone they are attracted to? Meaning, 1 minute you tell someone you're attracted to them, want to spend time with them, etc. The next minute, you're distant & don't want to talk with this person?

The Virgo man I know has someone he's been seeing on & off for about 1 year but the lady has commitment problems & leaves him hanging most of the time. I know he likes her & he told me he mulls over what to do with their relationship in his head daily.

Please Virgo men- help me out here LOL.
Thanks a bunch,

Virgoluver 39,
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Hi again VL...there you are again and here I am! Your posts (thoughts) are actually bringing out in me some questions for you and hopefully you won't mind me asking them. I had an aquarian male friend who pulled away from me and I thought we were great friends...I really did not understand this behaviour myself, so my question to you is...is it normal for an aquarian to pull away from someone they are attracted to and if so, why? I actually have heard of many of them doing this....maybe in truth, there is no way to understand anothers behaviour, it is - just because?

I do understand your frustrations...been there, done that.

Maybe Mr. Q will come on board or perhaps some other Virgos...come on guys, help this lady out!

Well, speaking for myself, a female aquarian, I have never pulled away from anyone I was attracted to. If anything, I am pretty clear with people letting them know how I feel (which is why I sort of wonder if I scared away the virgo man lol). I have pulled away from men I was not attracted to that's for sure, I have a hard time telling men that I don't want to see them anymore.

Hope that helps, clear as mud, right? lol.

Thanks Free, your words are encouraging - I'm just so confused here. Just when I think the Virgo man is going to pull away - he calls, acting like everything is peach keen, like I saw him yesterday. Go figure.

Virgoluver
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Hello there you "new one".

Virgos are difficult to understand.. aren?t they..??

Why would you want to understand us..?? will you try to accept us as we are.. or the way we are..??.... you are going to get mad and insane? if you ever try to understand us?.

Keep your love and spirit up and go ahead with courage and wisdom? its all you need

Well I find myself learning just as you say - that understanding Virgos is hard, an under statement actually lol.

Thanks Q - I do accept my Virgo as he is - he is ever changing & that may be a good thing!

Virgoluver 39
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Thank you lady.. for your confirmation and aknwoledgements...

good luck to you and your love adventures..🙂

Well, I think Qbone knows my history - I've been seeing a Virgo for over three years and I have known him for 8...

Accept him as he is. Men in general feel a need to pull away from someone if they are 1. Not sure of you. 2. Not sure of themselves. 3. Wants no responsibilities of having a relationship and/or marriage. 4. Fear

Take your pick.
Virgo men take time to analyze things - at some given point he maynot know what he's feeling. The only thing you can do is to stand back and allow him space. Don't try to force his hand or start that relationship crap with him. I would think you would want him to come on his own and he should if he's ready to commit himself to you. Some have a time making up their minds - so it's up to you if you want to deal with it.

Oh I very much want him to come to me on his own, that's why I have backed off completely. However, if 2 days go by without a phone call from me, or an e mail, I get 1 from him asking "is everything ok, why haven't you contacted me?" which again confuses me, because I am trying to give him space to think. So then I go back to contacting him like I used to, only to sometimes feel I'm bugging him. I still don't know what to do except be patient.

I've also stopped asking him to go places with me, I told him if he wanted to he could do the asking!! I just said that a few days ago after not seeing him for 2 weeks & I have yet to get an invite anywhere lol.

Thanks guys,
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I don't know glee , and I cant speak of others? "call em virgo" or what ever

When I am in love? I'll putt 200% of my efforts to get the attentions of my lady that I love no matter what or cost? I think many men will do the same "no matter star sign".

But?.

I also aware of betrayal and fake/illusion stuff?.

Depending on my moods?I can play or fight against..

Men are not stupid you know?.. they just fall in love?.. but not drowned?..

Hi
There is a lot of wisdom in what Q says.I would say you either understand a person without knowing what sign s/he belongs to or you dont. What we need to know in a relationship is an inner understanding of ourselves. What pushes us towards a relationship and how we allow our fears/insecurities to guide us through.

Though the knowledge of sun signs gives a a better perpective of understanding a person..but...in the heat of an arguement or soem extreme emotion do we actually cautoiusly react accordign to anothers sun sign?

My numerous ups and downs with my virgo love for instance. When i am feeling deeply about him ...for me he is just my love. I reciprocate his love the best wya that i can. If he is in bad mood...agian my thought that he is a virgo flies outside the window...i just think there is a problem which needsa to be taken care of in best possible manner. Sometimes i can provide comfort..soemtimes we both need to take a breather and then get back agian feeling cozy and more in love than before. In solitude i reaLISE THAT AS A VIRGO HE MAYBE JSUT EXPRESSING HIMSELF IN FORHTRIGHT WAY. He still loves me.

Come to think of it the difference that i would find between my virgo love and my ex Aries BF is that ..this virgo one is steadfast. (sorry Ariens). He thinks deeply ..is very sensitive and is not a bit afraid to show it. If he is in love...he is in love for good.

Depends on who say it, and how to say it, and when!.....

Everyone get scared?Virgos or not, this is a serious business..!

Thank you looney for your wisdom lady?. I am speechless?? really?.!

Why would you want to understand us..?? will you try to accept us as we are.. or the way we are..??.... you are going to get mad and insane? if you ever try to understand us?.

Ain't that the truth. LOL. With the Virgo that I see, I take it as it comes. No need to try to change him - too much work to do that. He's how he is - and as "Q" said. Take them as they are or leave it alone.

"Do NOT expect any immediacy from this man, it just ain't gonna happen. Patience is truly a virtue with Virgos! Good luck!"
I have always thought that us Bulls (Taureans) have lots of patience. I think I have met my match. *LOL* We'll see...

This may be a little late in the is conversation but......

I am dating a virgo man. He is moody, sometimes detached, sometimes he ignores me.....etc. But like said before, you either accept him for him or you don't. One big thing that I have learned is that when my virgo has alot of stress, or just a lot on his mind, he is completely consumed with just that. I will make a comment that he is ignoring me, he of course denies this, but then I can see him making an effort to pay some attention to me. I think you need to give him time and space. But don't assume you are the problem. But don't nag him!!!! My brother is also a virgo, he cannot stand to be yelled at, nagged at, whatever. Don't do that. I simply in a nice voice say "Honey I'm feeling a little ignored". Don't yell, start a fight. He will run from that. Sometime my honey will be so grouchy! And me being the scorpio that I am will say something. He usually apologizes, and tries to make consessions for his attitude. But it is all in the way that I approached him too. If I have an attitude, his is bigger. But if I just express myself without all the emotion, he reacts much better. Don't know if this helps, just thought I would add my 2 cents. Good Luck!! And remember, LOVE SUCKS!!

Same here - I am a Scorpio involved with a Virgo male also. Just keep cool with him - no scenes - Mr. Virgo hates drama and will tuck his tail and run. They are moody - mine is anyway. But they soon come back around. Give him space

These postings have been really useful... I am a female pisces - very pisces! - and have started dating a virgo man just over a month ago and find it really difficult to work out if he's interested in me. When we see each other he seems very attracted to me, we can't keep our hands off each other and seem to really get on really well, but then it may be up to 8-10 days before I see him next, although he will make a phone call after 3-4 days to catch up, asking me all the right questions, showing that he remembers quite a lot about my life and what's been happening with me. He works really hard and long hours so I know I can't expect to see him all the time, but can't help thinking that if he felt something for me he would make the time to see me more often...Now that I have read all these messages I have realised he may just be very different from me and I may have to be patient...we'll see!

what are Virgo's afraid of—?why must you control feelings and everything I don't get it— I guess like whats his name said DON'T TRY but it all kinda seems like a game in a way, but maybe it's more protection?Dunno I still love my Virgo we have our moments and at the begginning he was exactly how "Virgoluver" described he virgo man but me being who I am, who knows if my sign has to do with it, I like to move slow anyways all i did was show my interest and stuck with him in the end or i guess when he opened up he admitted he was afraid of "his feelings" and tried to control them but he adored how i showed my complete interest I think of it as a test to see if "You think he is worth the wait" and i can say it was

what are Virgo's afraid of—?why must you control feelings and everything I don't get it— I guess like whats his name said DON'T TRY but it all kinda seems like a game in a way, but maybe it's more protection?Dunno I still love my Virgo we have our moments and at the begginning he was exactly how "Virgoluver" described he virgo man but me being who I am, who knows if my sign has to do with it, I like to move slow anyways all i did was show my interest and stuck with him in the end or i guess when he opened up he admitted he was afraid of "his feelings" and tried to control them but he adored how i showed my complete interest I think of it as a test to see if "You think he is worth the wait" and i can say it was

"When I am in love? I'll putt 200% of my efforts to get the attentions of my lady that I love no matter what or cost? I think many men will do the same "no matter star sign"."


I had a very long and deep relationship with Virgo male. Obone said it best, when Virgos are in love they put in 200% . My Virgo made up his mind very quickly that he was in love and to this day, the love between us is still there. Even though the relationship is over for now. Virgogotme's post up above is very true to life. My Virgo and I have been in and out of each others lives for 20yrs and I cant say for sure that we wont be again. When my Virgo loved...he truely loved, there was absolutely no question about it. Virgos know their own mind, at least my Virgo was never wishy washy on anything, especially what he wanted. Hope this helps...oh, BTW I am a Libra female..

Sunshine...

Heaven knows that I tried my best to avoid this?star sign? things?!

Nobody is special or born special under any circumstances unless someone else taken notice!

You guys talking about VIRGO thing and it is cool to hear that the face of this board for once has changed from constant negative to some positive aspects and response.. I personally thank you all for these lovely inputs and the best of all sharing your good experiences with your lovers publicly? even its not blooming the way you wanted or wished..!

What hell? that?s life?! Equal for everyone and anyone under any star sign..!

I believe when we are in love we do our best to achieve our goal (no mater star sign).. some people are verbally expressive and some not, some show their affections in a special way that need a special mind to discover it..

Some of us boldly expressing our mind and heart, some are scared to death to say a word? some even freaking out when they hear the words of feelings.

When we first came up with ideas, we didn't regard them as anything to be taken to heart. In fact, they were more of a fantasy. Over time, however, we?ve begun to take these more seriously, so much so that it's becoming important for us to think carefully about whether we've pretending they're for real.

That?s the key?. First is a game.. always?when it get serious losers freaking out Virgo or not.. its equal for everyone of us (more or less),the magic is to accept the challenge for what is coming.. not running from it.

Only unsecured heart and rigid mind will back off

A special personal prayer for these situations would be like:

"I rely on security and support for peace of mind; I surround myself with love. I release worry and move into new emotional and spiritual challenges."

Everything in this life and this planet is a challenge. You want to quit..?? Choice is yours.. But beware of you have no right to complain about the upcoming consequences of your decisions.

Good luck everyone and thanks again for nice posts about Virgos..

Hi Qbone,

Well said. I agree with you in that we are all different and have the ability to choose our own destiny. I do think that there are some basic traits that are universal with star/moon signs. I would like to say for the record, that I love Virgo's. All that I have known are very patient, kind and have a quiet calmness about them. I have always been very busy and at times chaotic. Virgo's have a way of making me feel completely at peace. Your posts are very informative..thanks

Sunshine...