Short tempered / moods

It's a gamble!
I never know if he will be in a sweet mood, bad mood, funny mood, dismissive mood, loving mood.
This is insane. We've been on and off for 8 months. I feel im being constantly tested.
And when he is great he is amazing, but when he is upset he gets so hurtful with his words it is scary.

Seems like everytime we get really close emotionally, he finds a way to ruin it and pushes me away. And I have been really patience. I mean, REALLY.

He is a loner. He likes to go out by himself and take pictures. It is his hobby. Today I went with him, for the first time. I was happy he was sharing something I know is very personal with me. However, for some reason today I got the short tempered, agressive and critic mood! He was being so critic of everything I was saying I swear I had tears almost running. Thank god for sunglasses! He appologised but still...

End of the day I appoligised for ruining his photo day by speaking too much, he appoligised for having a short temper and snapping at me.
Got home texted him saying I was feeling bad for how the day went but that I still enjoyed being with him. He said he was feeling bad too, that he should have realised that he was not going to be a good company today. Told him I will be more aware next time, speak less and listen more as he suggested. And that if it is to improve, that I will welcome his critics.

Anyway, Im just venting here really. This relationship feels like an addiction! I dont even try to finish it anymore.

Are those mood swimgs something you guys can relate to or is this simply a personal trait?

The question really is.. Do you feel it's good for you to be in this type of relationship? Are you growing as a person with him or is he making you walk on eggshells, which would inevitably stunt your personal growth?

I've been through some tough relationships recently and have decided that until I am secure within my self as a whole that I am not ready to be with anyone else. It just leaves room for being taken advantage of and abuse. You are the only one in control of where you go in life and how successful you are. Be with someone who supports you in EVERY way not just when it's convenient for them. Everyone has bad days but to be continually be anxious as to the mood or the mindset of your SO and have to adapt your reactions and actions to them is not a nice feeling inside.

Try and be aware that you don't become numb to what's happening within yourself and how it's affecting you.

Posted by Mojo11
The question really is.. Do you feel it's good for you to be in this type of relationship?

Nope. I dont feel it is good. I dont feel it is healthy.
Tried to end it. The more I run the faster he comes after me.
Im just accepting im in a big mess and hope I'll manage to get out of it at some point.

Posted by CluelessCancer
For an Aries you sound weak

Yeah, weak.
Addicted.

I found that the longer I remained "in" it the tougher it was to get out of it. The more you "give in" the easier it is for them to get back with you the following time and the cycle repeats. If you want to end it, then do it, and stand by your decision. It'll be the best thing you could do for yourself. It's tough to not take him back even though you know it's not good for you but you CAN do it.

They say relationships serve as mirrors so what if it is you who is emotionally up and down?

I just like to throw out ideas... 🙂

Humm interesting.
I feel emotionally up and down.
But not before I entered this rollercoaster of a relationship.
Wish he got sick of me and this would be over, because right now im too caught up to say it is over and stick to my guns.
Need an energy boost to do that. I think I allowed it to go too far for the dynamic of the relationship ever change for better.

Well said Beautifuldiaster!!

Posted by beautifuldiaster
Well.. if that is how you feel, why not come out guns blazing!!! You have fire in you so let is burn babe!

STAND UP FOR YOURSELF!

And I would say you have nothing to lose so why not just tell him it's over and don't answer his calls for a week... maybe it will change things or maybe it will sever that artery bleed ya got going on. It's better to have a mate who respects, and honors you. Don't be bossed around especially by a guy you are not head over heels for. You are wasting your time if you do not see marriage material out of him.

I get a feeling that you are lacking in self esteem and for the life of me I want you to know that you are deserving of love not matter what never neglect yourself and by all means, BE YOUR OWN ADVOCATE 🙂

I can understand and relate to being emotional... I am like a roller coaster of emotions but I do not let anyone donkey stomp on my vales and feelings.

Ahhhh, those are kind words, beautifuldisaster!

if you don't stand up for yourself he will walk all over you.

be yourself don't compromise yourself!

Yeah, you're right. You all are.
I've been patient with him. I saw him open up more and more. But he doesnt seem to have it clear in his mind what he wants from this relationship. Sunday he was very unpleasant without any reason. Completly unecessary. He crossed a line.

That post from beautifuldiaster did touch me, I was re reading it today.

I'm putting an end to it.

Oh, I remember you !!!!

You are the dumbass who threw the possibility of another man in Virgos face, which them causes him to back off from you. You then came in here to bitch about the notorious Virgo trait of disappearing, and tried to use that trait as the reason why he was pissed at you.

he was pissed at you because you tried to make him jealous of you by suggesting to him that you had men who wanted you.

So, now what are you trying to push off on him, so you don't have to own your own fucked up actions? I'll find out momentarily when I read your current drivel.

Ohh she is back! 🙂
P-Angel, I find your comments hilarious. Some of them even very inteligent and spot on. Others just sheer provocation as you need to keep your profile polemic. You like that, you like to provoke and it is ok. I find you amusing! As for myself, I dont mind a fight either. So here you go: you're wrong.

As you well know, the other man you are talking about is my ex bf which I have all the intentions of keeping that way.
In any circumstance i tried to make the Virgo guy jealous. He is insecure and controlling. His problem, not mine. i even stopped seeing certain friends because of him.
I was with Virgo guy Friday night and Sunday afternoon. He made sure I told him with which friends I was with saturday night and to which ppl I spoke to. In a subtle way, but he asked that.

And you know what? I like him, I really do. But it is time now for him to sort his butter out.

Posted by P-Angel

you tried to make him jealous of you by suggesting to him that you had men who wanted you.

I dont do that. He doest that to himself. The other day we were at a bar and he went to the bathroom. I was playing with my phone the whole time he was gone. When he returned he told me something like: you've made a fan while I was away. That guy over there doesnt take his eyes of you.
I was like...ehh?!

Im seriously tired. I let him go to far by trying to be patient.