The Fatherhood JOB

What does it mean to be a Virgo Father?

It's the ultimate job for the archetypal worker.

Now, before y'all go nuts, and cry "Shame on you! Fatherhood isn't a job!" let me remind you of how central The Job is to the typical Virgo Male. Our Jobs define us, and are the core features of our lives. An out-of-work VirGuy is a man completely unmoored, unhinged, and out of his mind. I've advised ladies trying to catch a VirGuy to get him to see her as Job #1. The woman who accomplishes that will have an ideal husband -- if she can survive all the crazy VirGuy bullshit along the way...

Many astrologers say that VirGuy does not aspire to fatherhood, and I agree. My own Virgo Dad married much later than his peers, and in my case with both my original Scorpio Daughter and my new Scorpio Twins, I had to be persuaded to commit paternity. LibraEX worked on me for almost 5 years before I finally gave in. My ScorpWife didn't have to expend that much time & energy, but we all know that what a Scorp wants is what a Scorp gets...

But once VirGuy is a Father, he rolls up his sleeves, and does the best job he can to be a good dad. Not perfect. Not a warm, cuddly, let you cry on his shoulder every time you stub your toe parent -- that was my Leo Mom! But, he's the one you can depend on to be patient, understanding, and reliable. Me and my four siblings all knew that our Dad loved us, but it took getting into our teens to be able to see it. Mom was the touchy-feely overtly physical expression of love in our house, while Dad was the brief shoulder squeezer when you did something exceptional...

He set a fine example for us, but in my own role as a Virgo Father, I've tried to be more open in my expressions of love and concern for my children -- much much much more physical -- because I understand that young ones don't get the cerebral. I can count the number of hugs I got from Dad on one hand, but my children take them as the norm - something that dads just do...

I hope you young VirGuys will take this to heart, and when your turn at fatherhood comes, you'll drop some of the logic, overcome the reserve, and teach your children that there's more to life than just doing a good job...

As for the Virgo Grandfather: Wouldn't you know it? My Dad seems to have forgotten he's a Virgo!

Must be a generational thing...

Evan,

Sounds like you were a better Big Brother than I was. I resented my Scorpio Bro tagging along behind me all the damn time. Now, we're the closest of The Five, and I try to make up for being so tough on him back then.

What part of fatherhood scares you? Making some mistakes?

Committment and social obligatory ties such as marriage are not a measure of LOVE that a man has for a woman.

I agree that marriage is not the measure of love. It is a social contract. I respect it, but I don't believe it's a requirement for a couple to be happy & successful over the long haul...

Jesus taught that a man who looks at a woman and lusts for her has already committed sin with her in his heart. Conversely, I believe that a man who truly loves a woman and is faithful to her is already married to her in his heart - whether he's put a ring on her finger or not.

For those DXP'ers who had Virgo Fathers: What were they like?

D_R: He allways encouraged me to do what I like.

I did the same with my original Scorp Daughter, and I will do the same with my Scorp Twins. I don't expect my children to follow a course I design for them. I try to identify their strengths, and help them build on what they have - not on what I want...