This guy is a virgo and im confused..

i knew this guy who lived in my neighborhood. We didnt really talk cause he was like a few years older than me and i wasnt even into guys around that time thats how yound i was. Like two years later we talked over the phone for like maybe an hour. We talked about our past and present we had a decent conversation. But, that was the last time we ever talked. Years passed & I had always wondered what had happend to him everytime i would drive by his house.

Recently i saw him standing outside of his house and thought id say hi..we started talking. He asked me for my number and the same night he called me. He was telling me that when he would pass by my house he would wonder about me!! and that he would want to stop by and talk to me. I was like omg me too! The next morining he text me asking if he could see me calling me baby and being all sweet, i told him yes. I saw him and we were just talking about the past in stuff. My friend had passed by his house where we were at and she invited me somewhere so i was like sure! he asked me if i was going to leave him already,i was like yeah but ill see you later on tonight if you want, So i did but this time he seemed like really cold and distant. It seemed like he didnt really want to be around me. So when i left i had called him to see if everything was alright he was like yeah.. We just started talking and he had hung up. I was already kind of confused cause i didnt know if he was still interested like he was in the begining. So he called me back three times but i didnt answer. He then text me saying his phone had lost signal. I didnt bother calling him back.
The next morning i called him but he didnt answer. Five minutes later he calls me but i missed the call. I then, call him back and he answerd. I dont but ever since that day he started getting really distant with me. I would call him and he either wouldnt answer or say he would call me back but never would! I felt like i had done something wrong so i started to really try to get his attention again. Now its just so hard and he doesnt seem interested at all! But when i tell him im just not even going to bother with him, he right away says he does like me and he does wanna be with me but hes just having a hard time finding a job. So whatever.. One month passes by and i decide to call him and we'll talk for like a day then out of know where he starts to avoid me. I get mad sometimes because i feel like im just wasting my time with him

Don't make this hard, he's not interested as he once was, it doesn't matter why he isn't because even if you knew why there is nothing you can do to convince him with logic to feel different. He doesn't seem interested because your TRYING to get his attention, your chasing him, STOP IT and he will come back your way soon enough. He's being immature and an effective way is to keep it short with NO explanations, let him know that you don't take men seriously that come in and out of your life and let me say this, IF HE'S IN AND OUT THAT IS THE SIGNAL YOU NEED TO BE PAYING ATTENTION TO, it means there is something he's not sure about, he like you but not enough to stick around consistently but he wants to maintain the connection he has with you, he's having doubts, he will stop doubting when you stop chasing asking and convincing...let him go on, save yourself the headache, stop telling him your every action/move, just do it, distance yourself and he will come if he's truly into you.

I'm beginning to believe P Angel is right about scorpio women...gosh

Another Scorpio this month? Geeez

She's going by her "gut" feeling tiki, that's the problem.
Less Gut, more Brain.

Posted by Cajunspirit
Another Scorpio this month? Geeez

She's going by her "gut" feeling tiki, that's the problem.
Less Gut, more Brain.

lmfao owwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww

wow u guys are harsh lol

wow I'm not trying to be harsh, guess i'm having a heavy day,

men be were they wanna be and if hes' not there then he's not there and that's all she really needs to know...it doesn't matter why he's tripping but what should matter is how he makes her feel about his behavior and if he's making her feel OFF balance then STEP BACK and stop engaging in the drama...Does she want drama or does she want him? He's just doing what he's doing no matter what, so why help enable the non-sense by showing desperation to connect, it's clear he doesn't want to so what...next

No i totally understand. I just really wanted to know someone elses thoughts on this...

Posted by tiki33
wow I'm not trying to be harsh, guess i'm having a heavy day,

men be were they wanna be and if hes' not there then he's not there and that's all she really needs to know...it doesn't matter why he's tripping but what should matter is how he makes her feel about his behavior and if he's making her feel OFF balance then STEP BACK and stop engaging in the drama...Does she want drama or does she want him? He's just doing what he's doing no matter what, so why help enable the non-sense by showing desperation to connect, it's clear he doesn't want to so what...next

i feel ya wouldnt relationships be easy logical and nice if their was more tiki woman mindsets like urs owwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww lmfao

The Scorpio Virgo connection is the strongest I know.

It can seem overpowering and giving in can be nice... just don't let him get the best of you.

If he isn't giving his end, then why bother?
It takes two hands to clap!

Be confident, don't take on his issues, just be yourself, don't let his behavior confuse you, throw you off and he will be attracted to that, be scorpio cool and sting dat ass when you have to, when he's crossing boundaries or testing your temper, don't be afraid to tell him to stop if he's working your last nerve with his behavior, he will respect you for it, he may even disappear because you placed a boundary but he will be back if he's attracted to you.

If I had to guess at it he's insecure, you pulled away when he felt a connection with you and it could have triggered his insecure feelings around women and now he's most likely testing you to see how much you want to be with him...chasing him to prove your desire for him will only make things worse for you. He's no longer interested, he may come back around again soon or you can continue to pop in and out to say hello from time to time but I won't be surprised if you will be happy doing that.

The most important thing is to not sit up analyzing it to death, we cannot tell you what's in man's heart and mind and even if we tried we would wrong, I do know distance is a sure SIGN he's no longer interested in being with you consistently, no longer interested in forming a one on one bond, nothing you can do about it really.

It could have been you pulling away to go be with your friend, I dunno but whatever it is it killed the connection.

I try giving him space but every time i start talking to him he pushes me away and everytime he does that it takes longer then the last time for him to want to talk to me again. I guess if he truly likes me then he knows where to find me. We are so different! I cant get him to open up to me and some how he gets me telling him how i feel and i never do that unless i really really know the person well. Im just gonna have to go with the flow.

Posted by scorp.queen
I try giving him space but every time i start talking to him he pushes me away and everytime he does that it takes longer then the last time for him to want to talk to me again. I guess if he truly likes me then he knows where to find me. We are so different! I cant get him to open up to me and some how he gets me telling him how i feel and i never do that unless i really really know the person well. Im just gonna have to go with the flow.

Okay so I want you to LOOK at what you wrote and ask yourself if I were him what would I think about me? What would I think about a girl forcing a connection with me when I'm showing her through a lack of communication and interest that I'm not interested?

Another thing is you can't get men PERIOD to open up unless you have some really good communication skills your beating a dead horse...You shouldn't want to GET a man to open up, you should be yourself and let him decide if he wants to open up to you and if he doesn't then he just doesn't. Be more creative, right now your being very predictable and typical like all the other girls that spill there guts too soon....

It's probably too soon to talk about your feelings, your probably scaring the hell out of him with your feelings because now he know were you stand and now he's stuck trying to decide if he wants to move forward or should he stay away thus far he's chosen to stay away due to your expectations.

So chill out, keep it light and have fun, let your interactions be fun and simple and not so heavy with all your thoughts and feelings and expectations, first find out what he NEEDS, what he wants from a woman FIRST and see if you can give it to him without compromising yourself THEN he will feel a need to bond and communicate.

I know im scaring the hell out of him lol and im pretty sure that theres something about me hes not sure about.. i know hes sensitive because that first night we were together he had walked over with me to greet my friend. He told her hi but my friend doesnt like him so she just looked at him and looked away. haha. I know it got to him cause he walked off haha.

I know im scaring the hell out of him lol and im pretty sure that theres something about me hes not sure about.. i know hes sensitive because that first night we were together he had walked over with me to greet my friend. He told her hi but my friend doesnt like him so she just looked at him and looked away. haha. I know it got to him cause he walked off haha.