Very emotional Virgo.

Hello fellow Virgos 🙂
Quick question:
What is the perfect way to deal with you when you're very emotional?

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He's sending mix messages all the time, telling me he's in love with me but that being together is a mistake. If I talk to him, he's upset and if I ignore him after a big fight when he's begging me to leave him alone, he's also upset. He told me it was best for us to go part ways. I fought him and told him that I wanna be with him, and he got upset and left. He then came back weeks later, only to yell at me that it's all my fault and that it's a mistake to be together. He always wanna move on but always come back? He's been very emotional lately too. Being very dramatic in his answers, telling me he's moving far far away from me.

This Cappy girl is confused right now.

Any help would be much appreciated.

Hmmm...I'm a virgo female, but I would never behave the way your man is behaving. If I'm upset I find it best to go and do something with my hands, rather than anything intellectual. Polishing the car is generally what I turn to if I am really upset to the point where none of my usual techniques are working.

I think you should ask yourself a question though...Do you want to be with someone who treats you like this? This BOY sounds like an immature loser, not to mention very emotionally manipulative. Before I got to the end of your post, I honestly thought your guy was a scorpio (and not a nice one). I was surprised to get to the end and discover he was the virgo!

If it was me, I would ditch him and find someone who wouldn't stuff me around like that (something I had to learn the hard way *sigh*)... But you have to make your own decisions, and do what you think is right by YOU at this moment. Sometimes us humans prolong our own pain by staying in situations that we really should get out of. Regardless of what you decide to do, my best advice is: Stand up for yourself. If you allow or enable this behaviour from him in any way, it will only continue.

All the best 🙂

Posted by Alyzabeth

... telling me he's in love with me but that being together is a mistake.

Virgos are driven by negative energy. I don't know how many times I have to say this ** sighs **


In the above quote there are two opposing energies .. and the dark one is the one in which he will use to buid from .. that is a typical Virgo and if you ever do get to the point where the two of you are in a commited relationship, then you are going to have to be aware of this. His first inclination will always be to act like he can NOT do something, or handle something, or whatever the issue is ..... then erect it into what he can do.

For he will always USE the negative side of every situation to build UP into the positive.

So, in now knowing this ... the answer seems simple, doesn't it? It does to me.


It's practically screaming out from your testimony. He keeps saying it's a mistake .. you mentioned more than once ... he keeps telling you this because this is his foundation.

what you need to do is work with why it won't work with him very patiently, and go with him over the reasons why it won't, until he finds the crack in the sidewalk .. a crack filled with reasons why it will >> from that point, he will lift himself up to embracing why he loves you.

Does this Virgo know or suspect that you are in a relationship with the Aqua? Maybe he feels like back up boy when you come back to his side.He probably wonders if you are really done with this Aqua or the one before.He probably can't take just being friends or in the running of being one of the top two.We can put the clues together,especially if you hesitated to say that he could crash with you,when he declared that he was homeless.That made it clear to him that you had enough visitors that he wouldn't be welcome.He knew not to put all his faith in you.That would make anyone emotional.
Or if you can't go on with the Cap/Virgo push pull thing,for the love of God set him free because he seem to can't cut the cord himself.

Is this a love triangle? Are you involved with someone else or is he? This is a strong reason why a virgo would consider a love relationship a mistake.

My strong belief is that "We cannot control our feelings (he tells you that loves you) BUT we can control our actions (he tells you that a relationship would be a mistake)".

So... is it true what VulcanLass says?

Yes, it's true, AngelicVirgo. She plays games with her Virgo man and then wonders why he's "emotional".

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by Alyzabeth

... telling me he's in love with me but that being together is a mistake.

Virgos are driven by negative energy. I don't know how many times I have to say this ** sighs **

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You don't HAVE to keep saying it....you just WANT to.

If he keeps coming back then I think that he still wants to be with you. Him threatening to move far away, and all of that fussing that he is doing is just a charade. He wouldn't be making such a fuss if he truly wanted to move on. Personally, I couldn't deal with that kind of s#@t. When a virgo is done, they are D.O.N.E.!

Posted by VirgoVixxxen
Yes, it's true, AngelicVirgo. She plays games with her Virgo man and then wonders why he's "emotional".

Well, dear Alyzabeth, cappy girl... What do you want from him? What are you willing to give back to him? You want all his love and attention. If you want to be with him and feel the same way what is the use of other persons between you and him?

I don't know your story. Maybe you could share more.

Posted by PlanetMercuryGirl

You don't HAVE to keep saying it....you just WANT to.

Yea but its important and true.

...he will always USE the negative side of every situation to build UP into the positive.

@AngelicVirgo and Amandus,I researched this.I read her other posts.One day she is here making it sound like her Virgo has emotional issues without saying what she does to trigger him,AND the next day in another forum she is wondering what is wrong with her Aqua man,without even skipping a beat.

@LIB ,she might have screwed with him first and now they are both in circling attack mode.Uhmm not really a great foundation to build a relationship on.

Virgos may ACT naive but we can guess when something is shifting behind the scenes,we may or may not be able to guess exactly what it is,but we can put clues together.Even a ten year old knows when someone is lying to them.He totally must be at the end of his rope,if he is choosing to interact with her like this.He can probably feel that she isn't totally committed to or interested in growing the relationship.He probably doesn't have the whole story.

Maybe his having an "emotional"scene is the only way to get any information out of her.She can make it all stop if she wanted to.

All she has to do is choose and stick to her choice,is it the Virgo or the Aqua?

All the capricorn i have known in my entire life and part of my life they are not satisfied with 1 person...Then, they still have a guts to act like innocent or being confused of what is going on around them....WTF!!..They are attention sucker and a Sex Addict......

Posted by VulcanLass
@AngelicVirgo and Amandus,I researched this.I read her other posts.One day she is here making it sound like her Virgo has emotional issues without saying what she does to trigger him,AND the next day in another forum she is wondering what is wrong with her Aqua man,without even skipping a beat.

@LIB ,she might have screwed with him first and now they are both in circling attack mode.Uhmm not really a great foundation to build a relationship on.

Virgos may ACT naive but we can guess when something is shifting behind the scenes,we may or may not be able to guess exactly what it is,but we can put clues together.Even a ten year old knows when someone is lying to them.He totally must be at the end of his rope,if he is choosing to interact with her like this.He can probably feel that she isn't totally committed to or interested in growing the relationship.He probably doesn't have the whole story.

Maybe his having an "emotional"scene is the only way to get any information out of her.She can make it all stop if she wanted to.

All she has to do is choose and stick to her choice,is it the Virgo or the Aqua?

This.

hello alyzabeth the cappy girl,

how about be direct and get everything on the table? we virgos love transparency

you are quite the typical cappy girl, worrying a lot. this probably appeals to us virgo because we love to fix problems, gives us a chance to organise the problem, analyse it, offer solution

in fact if you show a little worrying over this person, he will probably like it as long as you dont ruin your mental or physical health - it just shows you're putting effort - virgo likes that

i hope you let us know how you go - virgo will be curious to know