Virgal acting crazy giving mixed signals

Hello folks,

Have this Virgal(Aug born) at work whom I have a huge crush on. I am a Leo. I have been smitten by this virgal for more than 3 months now who have been giving me mixed signals and making me confused.

Somewhere in Feb I noticed this virgal flashing smiles at me whenever I passed by her. I noticed this 4-5 times and started enquiring on her. I found out she is a Virgo and started reading more about her Zodiac. The more I read, I started getting attracted to her as I found her to be an ideal partner who can balance me out.

The problem is she has been sending mixed signals all through. She would stare at me while at work. While passing by me she will always glance at me, but whenever I approached to talk to her she would panic and get shocked & I had to backoff. Haven't ever spoken to her. I read that Virgo's would do a thorough analysis before they get into anything. Taking a clue, I started uploading romantic suggestive messages on my FB. As likely, I found that she tracks me on FB (I am still not friends with her though). I uploaded many suggestive pic quotes on how I am so interested in her and needs to speak to her, accordingly she would change her FB pics or give me smiles at work.

Getting a positive response to my FB strategy, I decided to chat her via our work messenger system. On my 1st chat I asked her if she minds having a coffee with me at work, she gave an excuse of not knowing me and so will make it some other time. I tried again after 2 days, No response from her this time. (Note: She was significantly smiling and blushing while on chat though).I thought probably she needs a bit of time of time to warm up. In the midst, I uploaded other FB pics, which generated significant smiles/blushes from her the next day while I was at work.

since she was playing so hard to get, I decided to check with her again after a gap of 2 weeks. This time I asked her to clear the confusion & if she is not ready to break the ice with me or she doesn't want to talk to me. She came back with a reply that "She has no hard feelings. But she is not willing to meet me as she doesn't know me"

This has left me very confused. On one hand I can see that she smiles and blushes a lot when I stare at her. She tracks me on FB but playing hard to get. I am so in love with her, but all these mixed signals are hurting me.

Rgds,
Leo

P.S: There are no common work friends between us, whom I can leverage to forge bonds with her.

Ahhh Leo... You have fallen in love with someone you don't know? hahaha!!!!! You're careless... No offense meant here...
IMO, she is not playing hard to get, it's her nature and as what she told you, she does not know you so you should give her enough time to get to know you but since you don't have common work friends that will be harder to start to form solid ground between you two. Have you tried going for lunch/snack at the office canteen maybe that will work for her. Just be patient with her and be real...

Posted by virgosagscorpio
Ahhh Leo... You have fallen in love with someone you don't know? hahaha!!!!! You're careless... No offense meant here...
IMO, she is not playing hard to get, it's her nature and as what she told you, she does not know you so you should give her enough time to get to know you but since you don't have common work friends that will be harder to start to form solid ground between you two. Have you tried going for lunch/snack at the office canteen maybe that will work for her. Just be patient with her and be real...

Damn so true!!! - I am so embarrassed. I have been reading some other articles which suggests the same, and you r right on the money. I have been too emotional here picking my mate . I was just idolizing her as my fantasy woman based just on Virgo characteristics, whereas in fact she could be a very different woman altogether in reality.

You are right, I need to give her time, but I will be moving off to a new work site within a month and would probably never meet her again in life. That's the reason I had to make my moves taking a clue from her body language and eye glances.

To be honest, I am not disappointed by her NO. I am confused as to why is she playing with me. If you don't like me - give me a stern stare and I will backoff. No questions asked. I still remember the day I ignored her completely. She was very nervous and would stare at me every time I got off my desk just to check If I would be looking her way or not.

I had been in relationships before and had a fair share of success wooing Girls. So I definitely know how girls behave when in love. My instinct says she has a soft spot for me and I definitely see Love in her eyes. And as already mentioned, she checks on what messages I write on FB

So should I pursue the chase and give her time or I should cut it off immediately? I do not want to come across as a jerk who cant take a NO from a girl.

Rgds,
Leo
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Oh dear Leo brother. You are truly showing your Leonine qualities. You are being impulsive, no patience, and needing the ego stroked (affirmation she likes you). I get it.

First. Virgo's can be great. My friend and I are very similar but we approach it at different angles. He has a cool practical approach that makes me stop and think and it is truly amazing to see how his brain works and how we feel the same way on issues or do things similar, but the approach is so different. Great friends, if they determine you to be a good person.

Second. SLOW DOWN. If you let her, she will teach your Leonine self: The I want what I want now attitude great patience. I know you are itching to get her. She has told you she does not know you. She is showing the signs of possible interest, but she is also telling you what to do. Listen to her. She does not know you and does not go out with people she does not know. Slow it down. And I am not talking 2 days or 2 weeks. It could take a good long time. Talk to her at work. Get her comfortable with you there. Then ask for her number and start talking with her over the phone.

If you are really interested in her and want to get to know the person this is what you have to do. If she isn't worth the time and effort, then move on. You are forcing her into a situation she is not comfortable with. That right there, will push a Virgo away. As you get to know her, listen to what she says. Her words will speak the actions. I find, I get a very straightforward answer almost 99.9% of the time. She has already told you too. Pay attention to what she likes or needs. You will actually find the slow pace to be a little refreshing and challenging and forces you to really learn how to be slow down and appreciate things in life.

And let's be real. You do not Love her. You do not know her. You are feeling strong immense attraction to her (since he are Leo and we are passionate in any feeling) but you don't love her.

Good Luck Leo!

Hello friends,

A year has passed by since I posted my dilemma on the forum. Fast forward 12 months, I had kept pursuing this virgal, but we havent spoken to each other yet.

The status is still the same - I now get very good signals from her and we flirt big time on Facebook by uploading cover pics for each other. I clearly feel that she does like me but whenever I tried approaching her she will get all nervous & panicky around me & then I had to backoff.

I feel we are in a situation where both of us want to break the ice & confess our love but are feeling very awkward & shy.

I wanna propose her in a very special way.

Any tips to make a memorable first impression with this beautiful virgal will be greatly appreciated.

Cheers
Leo man

This is still going after a year and you still havent talked to each other—? So how do you know she is flirting with you on fb? just by uploading cover photos—



I really dont know what to say lol


Shit or get off the pot dude!!

Posted by lionknight
and we flirt big time on Facebook by uploading cover pics for each other.

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Posted by lionknight
I wanna propose her in a very special way.

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this is brilliant

Posted by lionknight

While passing by me she will always glance at me, but whenever I approached to talk to her she would panic and get shocked & I had to backoff.

.... I can see that she smiles and blushes a lot when I stare at her.

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Fast forward 12 months .....

I had kept pursuing this virgal, but we havent spoken to each other yet.

.... but whenever I tried approaching her she will get all nervous & panicky around me & then I had to backoff.

I wanna propose her in a very special way.

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Friends - I & my friend are from India & not Europe or US, so there is a cultural difference. Girls arent that direct here & to top it she is a virgo.

I have spent considerate amt of time on her, & I just dont wanna give up without trying for d last time.

I want to talk to her & get this sorted out. If she says NO - my Bad luck & I will deal with it. But I want to hear that NO from her mouth. So given all the foolishness & crap we have been upto, whats the best way to approach her

Look it seems that from the initial interaction...he isn't shy, he isn't into you. And she probably was right to back off since you come across as a creep with this one year later.

Wake up and let this girl alone.

*she isn't shy, she isn't into you.

I don't care if she's from a galaxy far far away. The way you describe her behavior implies she has her guard up for a reason and that reason isn't shyness.

Back off.

Leo men are so sweet!
Very impulsive type of men and so attracted to mystery of a Virgo woman.
My tip:know her phone number and call her.Talk about random things(work,literature,whatever).Let her warm up to you(Virgo women are very attracted to intellect).
If she finds you knowleadgeble about a lot of things and funny,she will pay you more attention.
Proposing--hmmm,thats way to early!

Thoughts...Virgals are always shy and we don't wear our emotions on our sleeve. We are old fashioned & believe the man should make the first move. What we show on the outside can be the vary opposite of what we feel on the inside. For example I may be standing with arms crossed as if guarded when actually I just wanted to be held. A man has to get our attention. That can be with their looks, personality, or mentally challenge us.

The FBing back and forth would be cute to me but not anything more. You want to get to know me than make it happen. Be bold, give me compliments, be my best friend. How to move from FB to one on one...dude, make it happen. By now you are not a stranger even if she says that. And when she does say that then respond with how can you get to know me if you decline my requests to meet and talk. Tell her you are interested in her, that you would like to get to know her, and that you'd like to go on a date. Make it a very public date so she's comfortable.

Leo's for me have always moved to quickly. Wanting everything now. I don't move at that pace and majority of Virgals are that way. I want to be friends first. If I can't talk with you and be stimulated by conversation then we can't move forward. Humor is always a ticket in to building a friendship. If you chase me but never really do anything I grow board and tired of the game. I want a man who can take the lead and once they have then I let my emotions roll.

You say you FB with her. Friend her on FB then. Do the messaging thing. If I worked with you then I would not want to use company resources to engage in dating you. It's too risky and could get me fired.

When finally on a 1:1 date don't be afraid to touch me...meaning hold my hand, give me a hug, put your arm around me. I would appear guarded but remember internally my mind is working with every touch made. You'll know when I've become comfortable enough for you to move in for the kiss. The kiss can make or brake it too. So make sure you make it a slow approach but in a bold manly way.

Not sure if all this helps or not. I really think you need to step it up before she tires of the whole thing.

^Lots of great advice there

Thanks BeautifulVirgo,

Your reply has hit the bulls eye, "For example I may be standing with arms crossed as if guarded when actually I just wanted to be held"

My problem is exactly this. I know for sure that she is interested in me and she is dying to talk to me as well, but she behaves like crazy whenever I come closer to her.

For example, if she may be standing 50 metres away from me, she will be all smiles, exchange eye glances, play with her hair etc display all the signs that says, oh she is happy seeing me and now if I walk up to her and reduce the distance between us to say 1 metre - she completely turns into a statue - absolutely emotionless, she wont make any eye contact with me, stand with her back facing me. She would behave as if I dont even exist. She will then pick her phone get busy typing a message or she will make a call to a friend. This behavior puts me off and I end up abandoning speaking to her.

Now if u say, that she isn't interested in me that's why she made those moves, then the next moment I see her sitting at her desk - upset and infuriated that I didn't speak to her. I don't know why she plays hot and cold with me.

Last Friday, I decided to test waters again and this is what happened. She passed very close to my desk, almost brushing hands with me on her way to the break out room (as mentioned before, there are 10 routes to go to the break out room and the route along my desk is not the shortest -she can easily take any other route). While she was walking towards me, I constantly looked at her eyes, so that I can smile at her - she didnt make any eye contact. I still went behind her into the Break Out room, and decided I will speak to her today. She came back from the washroom, adjacent to the break out room to fill water in her bottle. While she approached the Break out room, she saw me and immediately msged someone through her phone that I am standing in the room (Her usual tactic). Now she clearly knows that I have come in just to speak to her, but she stood with her back facing me, filled up her bottle with water and went away in a hurry, not even giving a moment of pause for me to interact.

How do you gals feel about this? Her body language is never inviting whenever I am closer to her which just pisses me off, and then again she will give me an unhappy look & show attitude while she leaves for home.

I am fed up of this

Rgds
Leo