Virgo Boyfriend Cheated

I got a text from a girl stating her and my boyfriend have been talking and treetrunking. I'm so angry! I can't stop crying. He said it's not true and somebodies setting him up. I'm so hurt!

Don't believe what you hear, you must realize there are some really catty thirsty women roaming this planet that do desperate needy things to have a good man.

The only way I can see you believing this girl is unless he has a history of cheating on you, if he's been a good boyfriend to you then why believe a girl whose acting like a thirsty chickenhead. Proof will manifest itself if there is something to her story but if there isn't then let it go for now. Keep your eyes peeled for proof but don't push your boyfriend away because of a rumor, don't give her the satisfaction of you losing your man because that's her goal, for you to lose. If he's cheating of course don't let him off the hook but until you have definitive proof LET IT GO.

Posted by tiki33
Don't believe what you hear, you must realize there are some really catty thirsty women roaming this planet that do desperate needy things to have a good man.

The only way I can see you believing this girl is unless he has a history of cheating on you, if he's been a good boyfriend to you then why believe a girl whose acting like a thirsty chickenhead. Proof will manifest itself if there is something to her story but if there isn't then let it go for now. Keep your eyes peeled for proof but don't push your boyfriend away because of a rumor, don't give her the satisfaction of you losing your man because that's her goal, for you to lose. If he's cheating of course don't let him off the hook but until you have definitive proof LET IT GO.

If this was me i wont let it go that easily. hmm cmon hun if it was your boyfirend i dont think you would just let it go that easily.

If there's smoke there's fire.

Im just wondering why though would a girl would a make up a story like that. And unless this girl is someone unknown to the poster eversince their relationship begin she should look into as to why she would even bother telling her stuff like that.


Bear in mind the poster is human she has the right to feel bad and hurt and be suspicious.

I do wish the girl who texted is telling a lie. I hate broken hearts 😢

Last week, a woman I know casually walked up to me (and my 13 year old son), looked me square in the face and said, "Hey.. I saw Libra down at (name of the local bar) a few weeks ago." I said (unimpressed), "Oh really? Cool." She went on, "Yes.. I have pictures. Pictures you'll want to see." I responded (still a little bored), "Of him being a dink when he's drinking? Cool." She said, "Oh, then you know about her?" Now I'm puzzled, and say, "Know about whom?" The woman said another woman's name, and reiterated that she has "picture proof of them together"

Now, mind you.. this woman is a total barfly, and a total drama mama.. the biggest thing she has against me and my family right now is (get this).. my 13 year old son was "dating" her 12 year old daughter (a spoiled rotten only child).. but he dumped her cuz she's as psycho as her mother, and refuses to talk to her now, cuz the crazy little girl locked him in her bedroom for hours, screaming filthy names at him, to get him to "take back" the break up.. which he did.. but later re-broke up with her over the phone... and that's got mama bear all pissed off and snarling and wanting to lash out.

So I took a deep breath, shrugged nonchalantly, and said, "Well, I don't know that woman, so.. umm.. cool, I guess? You have a nice day now." Why would I give that bitch the satisfaction of causing trouble with me and my man? I have NO reason to suspect him of anything.. that man is all about me, all day every day. Mission failed.

After she walked off, I texted Libra to tell him about it.. he said he has NO idea who the woman is at all. So I texted crazy drama mama and asked her to email me the pics... nothing.. crickets. It's been a week. No pics, no call.. and so we look up the mystery woman's name on FB, just in case.. yup.. she's there. An aging, heavyset, red-nosed fellow barfly that Libra NEVER remembers meeting in his life.. who happens to be on drama mama's friend's list as well. Hmm.. curious. Looks like a big steaming pot of drama soup was brewing.. good thing I didn't want any.

The moral of this story is.. don't let thirsty, needy bitches mess up ANYTHING for you. They ain't worth even a minute's trouble with your man, period.

Omg I feel so embarrassed!!! @tiki33 yes he cheated before. It's been hard to trust him again and I just recently felt like he could be trusted again. But on as a side note my sister text me that. It wasn't another female. I feel so ashamed. I'm glad I didn't go crazy on his ass. Now what do I do—? I know he's hurt I didn't believe him, but this situation is similar to what happened the first time. I feel so embarrassed 😢

Kim this is just a question, I'm so not attacking your sister so please don't take it that way. Is your sister the type that competes with you? They type that is jealous of you which includes jealous of the men you date? Is she the type that keep up all kinds of drama and all up in your business bringing you bad news?

I'm only asking you this because she may not have the best intentions and have ulterior motives but with that being said if he cheated once he's most likely a repeat offender and cheated again. You have to get to the truth of the matter first before pulling out a can of verbal whoop ass on your boyfriend. Be calm and in control with your boyfriend and your sister, DON'T LET YOUR SISTER SEE YOU LOSE CONTROL OVER THIS and the truth will manifest itself.

Thank your sister for the information but let her know you'll deal with it from this point on and try not to discuss it too much with her because if you discuss this with her, display anger and hurt with her present but then turn around and decide to stay with him it could create a lot of tension with your sister and him, blood is thicker than water, tread carefully with this issue.

Posted by Nefer
Last week, a woman I know casually walked up to me (and my 13 year old son), looked me square in the face and said, "Hey.. I saw Libra down at (name of the local bar) a few weeks ago." I said (unimpressed), "Oh really? Cool." She went on, "Yes.. I have pictures. Pictures you'll want to see." I responded (still a little bored), "Of him being a dink when he's drinking? Cool." She said, "Oh, then you know about her?" Now I'm puzzled, and say, "Know about whom?" The woman said another woman's name, and reiterated that she has "picture proof of them together"

Now, mind you.. this woman is a total barfly, and a total drama mama.. the biggest thing she has against me and my family right now is (get this).. my 13 year old son was "dating" her 12 year old daughter (a spoiled rotten only child).. but he dumped her cuz she's as psycho as her mother, and refuses to talk to her now, cuz the crazy little girl locked him in her bedroom for hours, screaming filthy names at him, to get him to "take back" the break up.. which he did.. but later re-broke up with her over the phone... and that's got mama bear all pissed off and snarling and wanting to lash out.

So I took a deep breath, shrugged nonchalantly, and said, "Well, I don't know that woman, so.. umm.. cool, I guess? You have a nice day now." Why would I give that bitch the satisfaction of causing trouble with me and my man? I have NO reason to suspect him of anything.. that man is all about me, all day every day. Mission failed.

After she walked off, I texted Libra to tell him about it.. he said he has NO idea who the woman is at all. So I texted crazy drama mama and asked her to email me the pics... nothing.. crickets. It's been a week. No pics, no call.. and so we look up the mystery woman's name on FB, just in case.. yup.. she's there. An aging, heavyset, red-nosed fellow barfly that Libra NEVER remembers meeting in his life.. who happens to be on drama mama's friend's list as well. Hmm.. curious. Looks like a big steaming pot of drama soup was brewing.. good thing I didn't want any.

The moral of this story is.. don't let thirsty, needy bitches mess up ANYTHING for you. They ain't worth even a minute's trouble with your man, period.

You have a different story though because you had history with a the crazy woman. But if you had encountered a girl that came out of nowhere of course you would ask right?

Posted by 25thDecan
Show him the text.
Why is your sister texting you and not telling this to your face? Don't answer that.
Send her a pic of your genitalia. Tell her he smells like "taken"....ijs...

cmon decan its her sister. can yopu do that to your own brother if you were in that situation?

Posted by 25thDecan

Send her a pic of your genitalia. Tell her he smells like "taken"....ijs...

Lol.

@sillykim.... you have one messed up situation hun 😢. Anyways all i can say put yourself first before anything else ok.
Don't be afraid to be alone if both of them fucked up. I cant give you any advice that can make it better but i do pray you would soon be okay.

Everything is easier said than done.

Posted by 25thDecan

Posted by libra08

Posted by 25thDecan
Show him the text.
Why is your sister texting you and not telling this to your face? Don't answer that.
Send her a pic of your genitalia. Tell her he smells like "taken"....ijs...

cmon decan its her sister. can yopu do that to your own brother if you were in that situation?

Did something similar with a cousin who "claimed" a gf of mine...he was lying the whole time. Likewise..first post said woman..then the story expanded to "sister". Not coming down on the OP but...seriously if it IS a sister...get it in person...then get it in person from the boyfriend. If it hurts to think about it and the past so much then leave the relationship. Ijs...plenty of men out "there" who don't do such things....

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Thats a cousin. its a different story if you share the same mother and father.

Posted by sillykim123
Omg I feel so embarrassed!!! @tiki33 yes he cheated before. It's been hard to trust him again and I just recently felt like he could be trusted again. But on as a side note my sister text me that. It wasn't another female. I feel so ashamed. I'm glad I didn't go crazy on his ass. Now what do I do—? I know he's hurt I didn't believe him, but this situation is similar to what happened the first time. I feel so embarrassed 😢

embarrased with what? stop being ashamed when its not you that didnt do anything? WTF! Dont apologize on something when you havent done nothing wrong.

You're the one thats hurt!

Your boyfriend should understand if you questioneds especially if he cheated on you before.

If i were you take a day or to to remove yourself from the situation and asses everything first. Put yourself first..thats the best decision.

I agree that they both should be in the same room with this situation before making any real conclusions on the situation and also consider the source of the person who told your sister as well, if your sister is solid and doesn't have a history of lying and starting drama then that should be taken into consideration. Other things should be considered as in did she see this with her own 2 eyes and if she saw it with her own eyes then what exactly did she see? Did she sleep with him? If she didn't sleep with him and she can't come up with a good position on what she saw and if she can't tell you who told her then DON'T BELIEVE IT and let's just say that she did receive this information from someone like a 3rd or 2nd party then you'll have to take into consideration the persons agenda before believing the story. This could be gossip being passed on to your sister if she didn't see this with her own eyes and that's what you want to get to the bottom of.

Posted by libra08


You have a different story though because you had history with a the crazy woman. But if you had encountered a girl that came out of nowhere of course you would ask right?

Of course I would ask, history OR stranger. I *did* ask. What I *didn't* do was flip out OR assume my man was lying to me cuz some woman claimed he was stepping out on me. lol

But the point of my story was only that YES, there ARE women who make shit up to cause trouble. Drama mama's story smelled like bs from the start. But absolutely.. ASK the man, see what he says, see how you feel, trust your intuition.. women don't trust it enough, they ignore it. :c

... aaaaand I see this man cheated before. Yikes. Hard to trust again, after that kind of betrayal. I can't ever forgive cheating, can't take them back, no way.. cuz I KNOW it would turn me into a distrustful, jealous, insecure bitch, always looking for him to do it again. And then I'd hate MYSELF.. and I'm not willing to do that. haha

Yea it was supposed to be a joke(says my sister). Yea my sister is jealous of me idk why. She is alot prettier and cooler than me. It's been this way sense we were young. Anyways she called him let him know she texted that to me. I couldn't do anything but laugh when she told me. I know he's really hurt. You could hear it in his voice. Idk why she thought it would be funny. So virgos I need help?? How would you react knowing my background I gave in previous post— How do I approach him?? I know I'm about to stroke his damn ego for the next couple of days blah!!

Posted by sillykim123
Yea it was supposed to be a joke(says my sister). Yea my sister is jealous of me idk why. She is alot prettier and cooler than me. It's been this way sense we were young. Anyways she called him let him know she texted that to me. I couldn't do anything but laugh when she told me. I know he's really hurt. You could hear it in his voice. Idk why she thought it would be funny. So virgos I need help?? How would you react knowing my background I gave in previous post— How do I approach him?? I know I'm about to stroke his damn ego for the next couple of days blah!!

I know that's your sister but that's a bitch ass move, she think it's funny to open up old wounds and create mistrust, let me let this go because I'm cussing her ass out in every which way I can think of inside of my head. But for the most part I'm happy you got to the bottom of it and hopefully your boyfriend will let this go and not seek revenge.

Why do u have to stroke his ego? Is he the only one allowed to make mistakes? Next time someone tells you something, you'll be more careful to look into things before acting. If he needs u to jump through hoops for him that's just dumb. As long as it's not something that happens over and over he should let it go. If you have to get over his shit he has to get over yours.

OP, you need to confront your sister. STAT!
I would even cut her off for a while to let her stew in her stupidity.
This guy should be off limits to your sister.
Why does she have his cell phone number anyway?

Posted by 25thDecan
Show him the text.
Why is your sister texting you and not telling this to your face? Don't answer that.
Send her a pic of your genitalia. Tell her he smells like "taken"....ijs...

LMAO @ Decan.. Thats nasty stuff haha

What are y'all not understanding— My sister sent me that text from a different number pretending to be a random chick. I'm still talking to her. It's my Gemini heart of gold that forgives so easily! My boyfriend kept saying someone was setting him up. I didn't believe him. Next time(praying it will never be a next time) I'll get to the bottom of it before I assume.