virgo disappeared but has responded to my texts!

I was dating a virgo for a couple months. things were going great and then all of the sudden he disappeared. I know it was my fault because I asked him to come to a barbeque after he told me he was busy and then when I didnt hear from him after a week I asked him when I would see him again, so I know I pushed him away. I thought he would come around so it's been about a month since we talked. I sent him a text the other day telling him that I wanted to see him to tell him that I thought things were going too fast but since we never saw eachother again I was writing it in the text. (Things had gotten pretty fast and so I thought I would say that in case he was scared and ran away) Then he responded to my text telling me how nice it was for me to write to him and that maybe one day we will see eachother again and get to know eachother better and that he hoped everything was going really well for me and that the other night he saw a movie (that I had told him was funny and he needed to see) and that he thought it was really funny too. So I don't know if that is closure...or him being glad I spoke up and there's still hope for us?? HELP!

like I thought it was closure until he threw the "OH!!! I saw grandma's boy last night!! Sooooo funny!!!""like why would he try to bring up something we talked about in the past, you know?

ooooh lord stop chasing this guy....you are not being challenging at all, now he senses you are CAUGHT and just sitting around no life and just waiting on him to say something and that has to make him feel pressure which will only serve to make him want to remain missing in action....stop initiating conversations, I know you have to have other men around to keep your mind off of this one guy that isn't doing anything, you initiating text etc won't make him nudge but it will make him want to stay gone....he know you exist and if he's not initiating then he's not interested in connection which is completely fine, while he's figuring it or being disinterested and lazy towards you FIND SOMETHING ELSE TO DO AND SOMEONE ELSE TO DO IT WITH.

When you least expect it he'll show back up again but by that point you surely should have met someone else that isn't running from you.

Thank you for your comment. I appreciate it. I was just trying to get some closure if it was truly over, you know but the last part just threw me off. im dating again but I just don't like something to end without closure. ?t has never happened to me before this and I am almost 30 but you are right I will not try again. Thanks 🙂

Don't look for closure (being too needy) and that will only push him away even more...You don't need to close anything, just move on with your great life and by the time he comes back and he will come back you'll be the one to decide if he deserves to be back in, the power will shift over to you when he realizes you aren't going to allow him to come back in when it's convenient for him, he'll have to work to get back in or stay out, for now he's out and there isn't much you can do to make him come clean about why he's chosen to move on nor can you ignite his interest by initiating conversations via text...It was only dating and most likely he's found a new love interest or just decided he wasn't feeling it, it happens. forget him and delete him and keep it moving, you can always try again if the opportunity comes but in all honesty I wouldn't want a guy that wants the benefits that come with dating but doesn't want me and can easily discard me like I'm nothing, I don't know about you but that's not good enough for me.

LOL the topic does seem pretty desperate now that I look at it. I am going to find a mature man who can handle a 30 year old woman!

Basically after dating a few months the infatuation phase has taken it's course....the next phase is attachment and a good majority of men do back off around this phase, and that's typically when some men begin to get fearful and back off and his backing off has absolutely nothing to do with you and more to do with his fear, while he's figuring all that out you'll most likely feel afraid too and then feel the intense need to fix it, don't try and fix it and don't try to get closure b/c it will only serve to solidify his idea that you're some kind of naggy i'm entitled to have a relationship maneaster that so many women turn into during the attachment phase that he did the right thing by letting you go, once he realize he's being an scaredy ass he'll come back. It's not wise to chase him down and try to force closure or an explanation out of him. Give him the space to feel his fears about commitment are unfounded with you and he'll soon shift out of back off mode and attempt to bond with you again....While he's doing that keep dating and creating a great life independent of him.

thanks for the advice! I sure hope he comes around but Im not gonna count on it!

Such pearls of wisdom from Tikki33, take heed this women knows her stuff!

I agree Tiki33 date..and he will re appear..I am a virgo with a virgo brother..I dont get it..but if you WANT him..to chase you act like you have your own life..dont let me know NOTHING your doing. If he ask throw him a bone and let him know how much fun your having..that will mess him up with wondering.