Virgo Girl - At a point of no return in relationship

Hi All,

So the past 7 months I have been with a Taurus man, who at the beginning, was sweet, loving and everything a Taurus man is characterized to be. We've had our moments of pure happiness and joy, but also moments of anger and grief. Unfortunately the anger/fights/grief outweighs the joy and I'm ready to move on from this relationship. He recently brought me down to an all time low where I literally had a mental breakdown... During my mental breakdown, he called me things such as pathetic and disgusting. Although he had apologized for his actions, I haven't been able to be myself around him since. I dont even want to be in the same room as him and been talking to another guy.

For me to be unfaithful was a a true sign to me that I've been basically checked out. As true to my sign characteristics (Virgo Sun/Taurus Moon), I have always been faithful, committed, loyal and never strayed from my partner... Being unfaithful is all new to me and its not something that I want, but had began to develop feelings for someone else... My fiance knows about the other guy to in which I told him that we're friends - Of course he doesn't like me talking to him, but i had to remind him of the countless times I caught him sexting other girls... So he had no room to be upset. Well, the next day I sent the new guy a message ending things with him and that I'm committed to my Fiance...But I soon found myself missing him afterwards and messaging him again... Ugh!

The thing that worries me is, if I leave and move out - would if I regret it because I didn't give our relationship a chance to heal? Also, I have step children now that I care for. A part of me wants to just stay with him for them... But I just don't see him changing his ways...



Your advice is always welcomed, but I think I needed to write all of this out to get it off my chest in some fashion.

Thank you,

Milani

First thing first never give kids a job. By that, I mean do not give them the job of remaining in a relationship, or being the reason you stay in one.

Second, toxicity in a relationship is not good for anyone in it. This includes the children. You need to think very carefully about going into marriage with anyone that brings out the worst in you, and vice versa. You should be pushing each other to be better, not worse.

Last, you can't start anything new, when you haven't even ended the relationship you are in now. Emotional cheating, regardless of it not being physical yet, should be a huge indicator that you have work to do with yourself.

In terms of your specific worry about regret... I don't think you would regret leaving.

I think it's possible to confuse feeling regret with grief - as in grieving the loss of the relationship and then second guessing that decision, but if you stuck to it you'd be in a much better place eventually.

You probably owe it to both of you (including the little uns)

to actually have this conversation face to face first tho - communicate this situation as best you can....

But have ya bags packed @_@

Thank you all for your responses and advice. I have not physically cheated on him, only emotionally. I sat down and had a talk with him last night and discussed my feelings about how he had been treating me. He seemed understanding and was a little more affectionate and attentive to me afterwards. Next week he will be gone for business in which I will get time to fully reflect on the situation at hand and make a decision with a clear mind.

Posted by MilaniKisses
Thank you all for your responses and advice. I have not physically cheated on him, only emotionally. I sat down and had a talk with him last night and discussed my feelings about how he had been treating me. He seemed understanding and was a little more affectionate and attentive to me afterwards. Next week he will be gone for business in which I will get time to fully reflect on the situation at hand and make a decision with a clear mind.

On a totally random sidenote, I was on Youtube a month or so ago, and ran into a video that featured a before and after of you. I was like "HEY ITS MILANI!"

Contradictions in your story ... You're faithful but I see another man (3d party ) in the mix... With you both... Who are folks fooling out here ... He is only reflecting what you harbor .... Both seem confused .... And honestly this is not a good partnership that is why it's keeps breaking down... You both seem to have two different vibrations ... And obviously need to shift .... You go your path and he goes his... But Virgos don't let go... Instead they stay in mess... And blame ... When both parties need to go their separate way... You may be holding on to something a little deeper here... With that Taurus moon... Man you want budge on your logic ... And a Virgo sun ... Change is hard for you.. We are all here to change .. That will be your challenge ....its time to take a step back and reflect on your actions as a individual ... Not him... Reflect ... If you don't like how someone is treating you... You have absolutely no control over how a person treats you none.. What you accept is what you get... Don't like it change the reflection you see... Bounce ...

Posted by nikkistar
First thing first never give kids a job. By that, I mean do not give them the job of remaining in a relationship, or being the reason you stay in one.

Second, toxicity in a relationship is not good for anyone in it. This includes the children. You need to think very carefully about going into marriage with anyone that brings out the worst in you, and vice versa. You should be pushing each other to be better, not worse.

Last, you can't start anything new, when you haven't even ended the relationship you are in now. Emotional cheating, regardless of it not being physical yet, should be a huge indicator that you have work to do with yourself.

I absolutely love that you said “ don’t give kids a job” because to the kids that’s what it feels like! @Milanikisses You may not say it to them, but they can feel what’s going on between you guys and you don’t want them burdened by it. If you’ve grown close to them... hopefully you can stay close to them after the break up.

Posted by MilaniKisses
Hi All,

So the past 7 months I have been with a Taurus man, who at the beginning, was sweet, loving and everything a Taurus man is characterized to be. We've had our moments of pure happiness and joy, but also moments of anger and grief. Unfortunately the anger/fights/grief outweighs the joy and I'm ready to move on from this relationship. He recently brought me down to an all time low where I literally had a mental breakdown... During my mental breakdown, he called me things such as pathetic and disgusting. Although he had apologized for his actions, I haven't been able to be myself around him since. I dont even want to be in the same room as him and been talking to another guy.

For me to be unfaithful was a a true sign to me that I've been basically checked out. As true to my sign characteristics (Virgo Sun/Taurus Moon), I have always been faithful, committed, loyal and never strayed from my partner... Being unfaithful is all new to me and its not something that I want, but had began to develop feelings for someone else... My fiance knows about the other guy to in which I told him that we're friends - Of course he doesn't like me talking to him, but i had to remind him of the countless times I caught him sexting other girls... So he had no room to be upset. Well, the next day I sent the new guy a message ending things with him and that I'm committed to my Fiance...But I soon found myself missing him afterwards and messaging him again... Ugh!

The thing that worries me is, if I leave and move out - would if I regret it because I didn't give our relationship a chance to heal? Also, I have step children now that I care for. A part of me wants to just stay with him for them... But I just don't see him changing his ways...



Your advice is always welcomed, but I think I needed to write all of this out to get it off my chest in some fashion.

Thank you,

Milani

taurus are too stubborn ain't gonna work just let it be a sign your relationship is over taurus can't resist temptation even though people say they are loyal they are not that loyal

What's his sexual orientation?

You stated that he was texting other girls....

I'm inclined to wonder what the relationship was like prior to you finding out he was texting other women. Were there signs? You had to be very suspicious if you went through his messages. Did you ever show jealousy over other women, or did he show jealousy over other men? It sounds like there's a lot that preceded this.