Virgo girl constantly reply

Hi All,

First, this is my first post. Never thought I will get that far, but I read a lot of interesting and useful things around here and decided to share my story, some of the Virgo ladies around here, might even give me a straight answer to my questions. So where I should begin...probably introduce myself.

I'm an Aquarius guy, 29, friends say I'm smart, persistent, dreamer (that's true) and I'm heavily chasing my dreams. Many of them accomplished, many of them still on the line. In addition should say that I'm kind of old fashioned when speaking about relationships - I have had some though moments in life and realize nothing is worth it without a family and a loved one. In a relationship I'm kind, gentle, opening doors, making surprises, bringing flowers, buying stuff, I have heard sex is great - can't give a fair rating on that. When I said I'm old fashioned also meant I'm monogamous and I will do everything for my girl - I cook breakfasts, launches and dinners, not to impress people but because I love it and I do a lot other bunch of things.

On the love front I have fallen in love deeply, madly historically about two times if my memory doesn't play games with me. Between I have been dating some amount of girls, had good/bad times, sex and so on, pretty much can't complain and that's strange because I'm an Aqua and I feel this freedom-different-partners-constantly-dating thing is not for me. I want deep, steady relationship, building a family, probably go for kids and so on. Despite still 29, I feel it's time for me. I'm kind of exhausted already, started my first business at 21 and since than I was on the entrepreneurial roller coaster with all the up and downs.

So, that's for me. You already see I talk a lot 🙂) Now on the point.

I met a Virgo girl, 25, getting 26 next month. In my eyes she is gorgeous, not with a perfect body but for me it's beautiful. We met online, talk for a few days (we are in different cities, 200 km away) and decided to meet on one of my trips, which was passing through her city. She is a friend of my ex, which now I honestly can say break my heart 5 years ago. We talked a lot on our first date ending with kissing, spending time in the car, going around for hours. Than we kept talking on the phone, chatting and the next weekend I was traveling again and I stopped by in her city again. Stayed overnight, had awesome sex. Next day I had to leave, we both said we enjoy it and would like to repeat it.

To be

The subject changed. Should say "Virgo girl always reply "Don't Know"

Unfortunately I couldn't finish my post, so here is the rest.

As you can see everything started as a one night stand, but I fall in love with her. It's now almost 2 months we are seeing each other, when together enjoying our time.

She explained this is something really new to her, she never had a serious relationship or any relationship. I'm ok with that, but she is so straight forward that I can't really understand how she feels.

I mean every-time we talk about how she feels, what we should do, what is happening, what she wants she reply: "Don't Know". This is frustrating, if she wanted me out of her life I'm sure I was going to get the kick immediately.

She said that we have jump through the playing and wondering part where you think things like "will he call me", "does he want me" etc. I have expressed how I feel about her and she didn't get too scary about it.

I offered giving her space, but this will be artificial. I don't think arranging to give space, will make her want me or miss me. Basically in the bottom line she says she don't know whether she feel something or not. When we are together she act hmmm OK. Can't say something else. Last time she slept in my house, made her breakfast and she didn't say anything kind, but she already said I shouldn't expect her saying "ohh gosh, you are great, thank you so much" and so on, so I'm ok with that.

Last night we talked about visiting her, as her parents are away and she said "Don't know" - if I want you to come, to see you etc.

I'm on the cross road, from one side I think I should let her go on the other hand something tickles me inside saying "Maaaan, don't quit".

Any advice?

They say us virgos send "Mixed Signals". As a virgo it takes us time to open up. We don't trust easily we need people who will court us and make us feel comfortable. We also need stability. Yall live in different places so who knows what is going on. But on a real not if she was interested she would show you we are action people. She would be very helpful and attentive to your needs. Theres a saying that "we meet the right person at the wrong time". I say don't give up just continue to give space and let her come around. When we have feelings we eventually let it out most of the time in writing

So she's 25 going on 26, never been in a serious relationship, and yet, she slept with you on the second date? Sounds a little suspect.

In any case, it seems like she's completely fine with just having you as a friend with benefits. She avoids questions relating to your future together, and accepts to keep you around, but isn't ready to start anything serious. I'd be careful not to get too invested in this girl, as it appears your feelings are not being reciprocated.

Posted by Aquanewbie but she is so straight forward

Posted by Aquanewbie I mean every-time we talk about how she feels, what we should do, what is happening, what she wants she repl: "Don't Know".

I hope you meant to write "she is not straight forward at all" because..umm, yeah.

Posted by Aquanewbie she didn't say anything kind, but she already said I shouldn't expect her saying "ohh gosh, you are great, thank you so much"

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As a matter of fact, she should actually open her mouth and say "Thank you".

Does she even have an opinion of her own? At this point I see no difference between her and an inanimate object. Like one of those teddy bears that go "I love you", except she goes "I don't know".

She's looking at you to direct her life and her emotions for her, which is awesome if you're some controlling fuck. Then you get to make all the shots for her. Not so awesome if you actually are a normal human being. Make no mistake, even if you call the shots, this type of Virgo will get off on blaming you for whatever choice you make. You can't win no matter what you do. She'll keep silent, go all "I don't know" and then blame you for your choices. Run.

Posted by 915queen
But on a real not if she was interested she would show you we are action people. She would be very helpful and attentive to your needs

Did you skip the part about him making breakfast for her and the ungrateful cunt couldn't even summon up a "thank you"?

Posted by 915queen
I say don't give up

Seriously? Are you with us on this planet?

When was the last time a man you fancied did a random act of kindness with you and you were all "I shouldn't have to say thank you, man"?

Absolute bullshit.

If she cared for you, not only would she have been giddy over the breakfast, she would say thank you and she would offer to do the dishes, at the very least.

Then she'd think up of something to cook for you or repay you in kind.

^That is Virgo giving a shit 100%

What you got...0% .

Let's just do a very simple visualising exercise in this topic.

*in front of the altar*

"Do you take this man as your husband?"
"I DON'T KNOW"

Hi Guys/Ladies,

Need to use caps: YOU MADE MY DAY! I laugh so much on the things you are saying, which actually are similar to what I'm thinking.

Thanks a lot, really make me feel a lot better.

My only issue is (if we all believe this is something completely new for her as she say it is) that I will let go, move on probably pretty fast because this didn't last long and didn't go really deep and so on and on.... And if she decide in a month that she want me I will have serious issue deciding what to do... As I never play second in a row! Never! Still I'm ok giving people the time to figure out their feelings - usually don't allow more than a week, with this girl she is having about month an a half already lol.

I told her I don't play second and she shouldn't think I will be always here for a back up.

Its strange, we meet, have good time, go in a club, on the beach, than she go home and the distance makes things really hard.

I agree for the breakfast and no Thank you, but could it because it was too great breakfast - fresh juices, pancakes, milk, Nutella, bunch of fruits etc.

Anyway not trying to protect her, just mentioning it. Trying to figure out the "being scary from relationship, shy" prespective.

Will write more in response to your comments a bit later from my PC.

Definetely will stick to this messageboard - you all rock!

She's looking at you to direct her life and her emotions for her, which is awesome if you're some controlling fuck. Then you get to make all the shots for her. Not so awesome if you actually are a normal human being. Make no mistake, even if you call the shots, this type of Virgo will get off on blaming you for whatever choice you make. You can't win no matter what you do. She'll keep silent, go all "I don't know" and then blame you for your choices. Run.

Well Damnata... that was the type of perspective I needed - broken down in details. This reminds me a lot about my mother (Virgo) - blaming my farther for everything which happened in their life - which looked from the side, not bad at all, not perfect with their bad moments, difficult times but I can't personally blame my farther for anything wrong he did.

Anyway, I will let her go. I just didn't want to kill the butterflies, because I know myself - she will come back to me in a month, three, 6, year and even in 5 days I might be totally stone cold. Not from ego or something like that, its just who I am - really really honest and trust for me is everything.


Damnata on a side note there one other thing I didn't include in my initial posts as I didn't have space and I guess not that important.

She knows my ex from back to school, they go out together, this particular Virgo and most of the lady friends around her knows me and actually they are voting YES for me wow, actually they all said that my ex put me on some kind of a pedestal and I was kind of a saint in their eyes.

Usually she is direct, speak her mind, but I guess she might be worried in this case that she might hurt me - despite I told her thousands times that "what I do to myself, nobody else can" so if its bad, bring it on, I'm the one who fall in love and she never said anything bad.

Probably keeping me as a back up, something which will not work in a long run.

I'm pretty sure this will not end today wow 😄 and due to your swift responses and taking the time to express your opinions which means a lot, I will keep you posted with the development.

I treated my ex bad af but loved him to death. I was an ungrateful bitch. He bought me stuff and I was not appreciative at all. I eventually came around and opened up about how I felt and apologized for my actions. Just because she didn't say thank you doesn't mean fuck her and move on. When I said don't give up don't mean kiss her ass ya'll can just be friends. Maybe I'll go into DETAIL for you virgos

And you was suppose to cook for her she gave you sex. That's energy lmao