virgo girlfriend

Hi

I am Leo male and my Virgo girlfriend has just got back with me. We split for 5 weeks.

One reason I could not carry on with her was because I felt she had real trouble showing her feelings. At times she came across very cold and uncaring. Also, very moody. Blowing hot and cold. Now we have been back together for 2 weeks, I am wondering if I have made a mistake. Even though I love her, I feel I cannot tolerate her cold exterior and such changeable moods.

She is also very poor at communicating, telephone calls and texts are very sparse .
I spend most of my time feeling subdued by her, and then I love her, is so frustrating. I seem to never know where I stand with her.

Are these common virgo traits?

cold snapple

thanks . I think you may be right, I feel like I am wasting my time with this virgo, is such hard work. She never sparks up conversation either. (unless she is with her friends).

Is so draining at times. (dated a cancer, like you say, very caring,)

Is also like she messes with ya head, mind games,

The Virgo tries to be perfect, balanced and logical.
For us to show emotion is difficult.
When she comes off cold and uncaring, she is simply being logical and detached, balanced and impartial.
We do not have intent on hurting others with words, oft they are meant as refinement.

Our "Mutable" nature means we are changing, so the hot and cold thing is normal.

Haha, the calling and texting thing I find funny. I don't call or text anyone, don't see the point in doing so, lest I want something.

Once you have sincerely won her love, it will be like a consistent flame.
Though she may not always show it, it is true.

Beautifularies

so well put, playing them at their own little game, . I find that if I hold back , and come across as cold, she finally comes out of her shell. I dont like being that way though. To me, is like being a robot, lifeless

she might also be bored with u hate to say it. i find that when i start neglecting my girlfriend it's because im bored. In the start of the relationship u always wanna talk and hang out, but as thing progress i usually get bored and withdrawl from the situation. i dont know what to tell u to do cause complaning to her wont get u anywhere but ignoring might. Dont be so avaliable to her make her come get u and see what happens.

virgo28

thanks for reply, like you say, dont be too available.

beautifularies

thanks again. so well put. I dont think i tolerate her putting my fire out.

We breathe life into our relationships, and Virgos seem to suck the life out of us while we tirelessly attempt to get a proper response or sign of life from them.

so well put. To me , that sums up the whole virgo thing. It is so alien to me.

first off have you tried talking to her about the issues you are having? the phone thing must be a virgo trait cause my virgal is the worst when it comes to the phone. we broke up for a bit then got back together and she did a lot of the things you described your girlfriend doing before the break up. so when we got back together i told her the things i would not find acceptable and she has tried really hard to correct some things. she has her moments but overall things are good. being a cancer i used to take what she did personally but now i am very nonchalant and don't make big deals out of small things. not sure how old you are but we are in our mid thirties so that might make a difference. like cajunspirit said once you have won her love there is a consistent flame. i can honestly say that i recognize and feel it even when she isn't showing it..good luck..

cansir

thanks for the glimmer of hope. I think they just hide their feelings, but underneath there is a torrent of care and love. Is like having faith i guess, you have to believe it rather than see it.

You are right, I too am trying not to take too much notice of her cold moments, being nonchalant about it is good way to go. I use to make a big deal of it, it back fired on me, again, like you, is better to play it cool and not take notice,

Jagdpanther

You show up to say you want to dump her..??


So do it?you don't deserve her..! I am sure that she dumped you long before you realising it.