Virgo Guy Help

Hi There,
This is my first post, I just stumbled upon this website as I feel I am needing answers, going a little insane. I recently broke up with my long term boyfriend of 5 years but while we were still together, I was sensing that a Virgo male from my work may have had his eye on me. I wasn't sure but you know when you just tell? I shrugged it off, sure I thought he was gorgeous but I had a boyfriend, couldn't go there. Anyway, last week we had our work Christmas party. I noticed a few times Mr Virgo staring at me quite a bit, extended looks from across the room and then halfway through the party, he approached me and we sat down and had a chat. This kept happening throughout the night and I had made up my feisty Aries mind that I indeed wanted him. As the night progressed and the party finished, a big group of us proceeded to a bar / club down the road and again, we were talking but I couldn't confirm in my mind yet if anything was going to happen. Well suffice to say as the end of the night drew closer, he was becoming somewhat touchy feeley, not in a gross, sleezy way but a few times he had put his hand on my back or rubbed my arm. The bar closed and as we all spilled out onto the street I asked him if he was still planning to head out after but he said he was going home to which I replied "I don't feel like going home just yet" and that was when he offered for me to go home with him. I obliged and we left, my arm linked in his. As soon as we reached his apartment, we couldn't take our eyes, lips, hands etc off each other, we made love twice and then again in the morning. It was incredibly soft and sensual and well..pretty amazing! Lying in bed talking he told me he'd had his eye on me for months but I'd always played 'hard to get', my response? "Hello, I had a boyfriend!!". He really showed his Virgo criticism when he said he didn't like me with a fringe (bangs) and he's very glad I've outgrown them, he also stated he didn't like a certain dress I'd been wearing at a conference we both attended. My defenses kicked in straight away though after the 3rd time we made love and I was telling him I wasn't looking for anything serious, I'm fresh out of a break up, etc. He asked if I wanted to get a coffee with him but I turned him down. Did not see him at work on Monday (we work in two different departments on separate floors) but in the afternoon I thought I'd write him a casual email thanking him for Friday night, kept it simple.

He replied saying how he'd had a really good night, made some small talk and then ended his email with a question which I thought was a good thing as that would mean I'd have to reply. I wrote back the next day answering his question and replying to his small talk to which he wrote another email back. After thinking a little about it, I thought it would be nice to get to know this guy a little better, he seemed like a true gentleman, nice, gorgeous, excellent in bed so I emailed him my number telling him to feel free to give me a call anytime. I then saw him downstairs in the lobby pretty much straight after while with a colleague, he was walking into the building, us walking out and we smiled at each other but that was it. I haven't heard from him since. Now usually, I would just shrug this off as he not being into me, maybe I was a booty call but on the other side, this man is a very typical Virgo, extremely critical, analytical, smart, awkward, etc. The fact that he also confirmed my suspicions that he's always had a little thing for me tells me as well maybe it was more than just physical. I never noticed him that much before but since I have slept with him, I can't get him out of my head. As mentioned, I am a typical Aries so I need to know and I need to know NOW, lol! Patience is definitely not one of our best qualities while I hear Virgos are masters at it. I guess I'm just needing answers on whether I scared him off by giving him my number, should I have gone to coffee with him the morning after, is there anything I can do to rectify this at all or am I just jumping the gun and being too over emotional and impatient?

Any help would be extremely appreciated, I feel like I am literally going insane!!!

Virgos are a world unto themselves.
I've found if you focus too much (and they seem to know you are even if you don't say anything) they feel pressured. Even if they like you and you have a connection. If you have a busy full life they tend to be drawn towards you. Like trying to get some skittish critter to eat out of your hand. You offer the food, but don't stare or act anxious. Next thing you nkow, they're up close & personal 😉

And they do run at a diff speed than most people. They don't forget something important to them, they just keep it on the back burner until they are ready to bring it up again. I'd stay 'work friendly' for a bit, then ask if you can take him up on the coffee offer. Don't mention your number or the night you had together etc. If he takes you up on coffee, go from there. If he doesn't, just fall back and go about your life. If he's interested, he'll pop up eventually.

"My defenses kicked in straight away though after the 3rd time we made love and I was telling him I wasn't looking for anything serious, I'm fresh out of a break up, etc. He asked if I wanted to get a coffee with him but I turned him down."

^^^I am not a Virgo guy but is it possible he is upset about this?^^^

-Maybe he thinks you were just using HIM for the booty call?

Thanks Sandy Claws, that's great advice. I haven't contacted him nor have I seen him and I really don't want to be the one initiating contact so I'm just leaving it. It's driving me a little crazy though, I have so many scenarious running through my head like "Was I awful in bed?", "Did I look like utter crap in the morning that he has wondered why he took me home in the first place?" (admittedly, I did look pretty bad...messy hair, bloodshot eyes, basically the eiptome of someone with lack of sleep and a mild hangover would look). I know that Virgos focus quite highly on appearance too and I'm not ashamed to say I looked awesome at our Christmas party but the morning after...a total mess, and the worst thing? I didn't care!! Looking back on it, I now wish I did. All I kept thinking the morning after was "It doesn't matter, I'm not dating the guy" but now I haven't heard from him, I am utterly fascinated with him!!!

TheLadySagittarius.....The thought has crossed my mind actually and the fact that I am less than a month out of a break up would be putting alarm bells in his mind I'd imagine. I told him though at the club that I was over it way before it even ended. I honestly don't have much baggage at all but I guess the turning down of coffee and me constantly saying how I was not interested in anything serious may have chased him away a little.

Also...is this weird for a Virgo? The morning after, he was VERY affectionate, spooning me, holding me, playing with my hair. I thuoght it was odd enough for a supposed one night stand but for a Virgo as well to do that? And believe me when I say, this guy is a typical Virgo in every sence. I could tell straight away before I even knew his birthday that he would be a Virgo, no questions asked.