Virgo ladies.. Attention plz!

So.. Do you ever find yourself a mess in relationships? Like always needing reassurance and then that will come off as nagging or attacks to the guy? I get very anxious and worried when I'm starting a new relayup ship cuz I scared something will go wrong or whatever.. Idk, I'm always worried he's gonna leave me so I act so obsessive about this that I drive Em away! I'm back with my kids father now we've been on and off now since HS ( I'm 32 now) so along time but in the breaks I guess I meet some new guy and really freak out! Maybe cuz it's not what I'm used to ( referring to kids dad whose a cancer) my last guy was an Aquarius and I totally pushed him away he wants nothing to do with me anymore... What is it??! Is this a virgo trait?!

I never have the nagging/attack on the guy problem, because I respond the exact opposite. I over analyze and freak out about...every little thing in the beginning of a relationship. But I know it's 50% me being nuts, 25% personal fear, and probably 25% truth....so I keep it to my self, until I can think it through sans nutty. Which by the way, pisses them off too, cause they feel like you don't talk to them, and then get mad out of no where....about something you never mentioned. But if I mention everything I was thinking, I would come off as nagging, and obsessing and attacking lol

So we probably can't win no matter what we do lol

Lol.. Damn guess your right! Do you know If your reaction or mine is more typically a virgo thing?

Posted by Kbear88
I never have the nagging/attack on the guy problem, because I respond the exact opposite. I over analyze and freak out about...every little thing in the beginning of a relationship. But I know it's 50% me being nuts, 25% personal fear, and probably 25% truth....so I keep it to my self, until I can think it through sans nutty. Which by the way, pisses them off too, cause they feel like you don't talk to them, and then get mad out of no where....about something you never mentioned. But if I mention everything I was thinking, I would come off as nagging, and obsessing and attacking lol

So we probably can't win no matter what we do lol

Posted by Zetarose

Lol.. Damn guess your right! Do you know If your reaction or mine is more typically a virgo thing?

Not sure, I'm new here, but I've heard of both the silent thing and the nagging thing being associated with Virgos before.

I would like to know though lol

You are right about that lol... We are very good at acting like we are listening

Posted by Virgofem
I've had boyfriends literally look at me and ask what I was thinking. I would say nothing. Or they would say they couldn't read me. I would say there is nothing to read. I believe I am an open book. If I'm happy and content I will be quiet but maybe humming. If I'm talking or asking alot then I'm stressed and working through an issue. Virgos have a nifty trick of talking blindly but analyzing a totally different issue... at the same time. Giving the appearance we are engaged.

Virgorillaa...LOL @ nerves and talking too fast and jumping from subject to subject! Every blue moon if I'm really really interested in a guy & getting to know him...I tend to do this STILL...LOL!!! Good stuff!

However, I've learned very well to internalize all my thoughts, emotions, and feelings until I feel "the time is right to express myself in such a manner" which is circumstantial and rare for my sake and others, because OP is right...gawd forbid us Virgos actually verbalize every freakin thought that crosses our quick-witted minds or every emotion we feel...mannnnnnn I believe every other sign would congregate & join in on sticking all of us Virgos on a deserted island in the middle of nowhere if we ever did...lol!!!

OP.....I'm not sure how old you are but the "worrying" is normal for us Virgos. We tend to worry (more than other signs) about things not in our control sometimes. Whenever I get in those type of moods I calm myself with some soothing music or reading material that I know will have the same calming effect. Even 10 - 15 min meditations work. Anything that will help ease the worrying as to not "appear" a "nag" to others.

Posted by Lovelyisis

Virgorillaa...LOL @ nerves and talking too fast and jumping from subject to subject! Every blue moon if I'm really really interested in a guy & getting to know him...I tend to do this STILL...LOL!!! Good stuff!

Wow, So that's a virgo trait?? I hateeee when that happens! Then I have to take a deep breath and try to repair the mentally crazy image I just projected 😢

Posted by Lovelyisis

However, I've learned very well to internalize all my thoughts, emotions, and feelings until I feel "the time is right to express myself in such a manner" which is circumstantial and rare for my sake and others, because OP is right...gawd forbid us Virgos actually verbalize every freakin thought that crosses our quick-witted minds or every emotion we feel...mannnnnnn I believe every other sign would congregate & join in on sticking all of us Virgos on a deserted island in the middle of nowhere if we ever did...lol!!!

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We might need seperate islands. I have a feeling, we won't be able to deal with each other any better than the other signs lol.

Yep, I'm guilty of that too. I either nag or totally silent.