Virgo Male & Aqua Female Friends or More?

Hello,

I'm new here. I've know a Virgo guy (Libra Moon) for quite some time. We get along extremely well... We hang out from time to time (2 to 3 times a week). We speak everyday. Lately, he's been acting different towards me. He admitted he used to have a huge obsessive crush on me... But I never commented on it because I didn't know how to respond. I'm currently separated from my husband and I'm not fully divorced. I have kids. He has no kids and is single. I don't think we are compatible based on the situational circumstances. He got quiet when I didn't respond, but now he's been acting maybe distant and rude. It hurts my feelings because I really car for him and we have a great time together. He's a great guy to hang out with! Do you guys think he's upset with me because he wants more? How do I approach this? He's the only Virgo guy I am close to so I don't know much about how to approach it from an astrological perspective...

Posted by Caplunar
Hello,

I'm new here. I've know a Virgo guy (Libra Moon) for quite some time. We get along extremely well... We hang out from time to time (2 to 3 times a week). We speak everyday. Lately, he's been acting different towards me. He admitted he used to have a huge obsessive crush on me... But I never commented on it because I didn't know how to respond. I'm currently separated from my husband and I'm not fully divorced. I have kids. He has no kids and is single. I don't think we are compatible based on the situational circumstances. He got quiet when I didn't respond, but now he's been acting maybe distant and rude. It hurts my feelings because I really car for him and we have a great time together. He's a great guy to hang out with! Do you guys think he's upset with me because he wants more? How do I approach this? He's the only Virgo guy I am close to so I don't know much about how to approach it from an astrological perspective...

Being compatible "based on the situational circumstances" means nothing, you can start from there.

@Palerio: I'm sorry... Let me clarify... I feel that I don't want to hold him back. I have kids and am about to go through a divorce... That's baggage he doesn't need nor am I trying to put him through. He's single, attractive, nice job, and he can get with someone who's single with no kids.... I thought I was thinking about him in the long term... If that makes sense.

Posted by Caplunar
@Palerio: I'm sorry... Let me clarify... I feel that I don't want to hold him back. I have kids and am about to go through a divorce... That's baggage he doesn't need nor am I trying to put him through. He's single, attractive, nice job, and he can get with someone who's single with no kids.... I thought I was thinking about him in the long term... If that makes sense.

It's reasonable to not want to drag him into your divorce; problem is you're being ambigous about the way you see him.

You should ask yourself: why do you want him in your life? He's an attractive man with a nice job, who was previously obsessed with you, you can't seriously expect him to be ok with an 'hanging out' scenario.

Well no... I actually do really like him. If I'm being honest... I have feelings for him. I guess I just don't want to drag him along with my baggage! We kissed... I felt guilty... But at th same time it was the best kiss I've ever felt and I don't even like to kiss! I just don't want to be hurt or to hurt others or drag them through the mud. If I didn't have kids or going through a separation/ divorce I'd totally go for it. It's not an excuse, but I get what you're saying. I will be upfront and honest with him. It's just hard because even I'm around him I get nervous with butterflies in my stomach and I'm afraid it won't come out right. I want it to be sincere as he extremely smart snd can see straight through insincerity. @AnarejevtVirgo you're right... He is not very keen on telling people how he feels. I was super shocked he was telling me this in the first place. He also told me he saves my pics off of FaceBook, Instagram, and Snapchat. I didn't know what else to say, but... Why would you do that?! I guess I was shocked and scared. I have a cousin who's my best friend and I've only seen her have an obsession with one guy in her whole life and they are now married. She's not the type to express how she feels or really give a butter about anyone but the people she loves and of course herself.

Posted by magma
There's a good chance he still wants more but the immediate problem might be your going silent after he admitted he once had a crush on you. He probably took that as rejection.

At one point he may have wanted more, but I highly doubt he still feels that way. He's been distant... We haven't seen each other in two weeks and we only talk now like every other day. When we do talk he's teasing me about my ex or telling me he's thinking about getting back with his ex. The other day we were Face Timing during his lunch. He works at a university... And one of his female coworkers came up to play a prank on him. I saw it all as he was still on the FaceTime call with me. I felt a tinge of jealousy, but I can't tell him that. But I feel like he feels the need to move on now since I didn't respond and I can't fault him for that.

@AnarejectVirgo thank you for your advice and helping me to see it from his perspective. I think you're right and you take have the same perspective.

Posted by Caplunar
@AnarejectVirgo thank you for your advice and helping me to see it from his perspective. I think you're right and you take have the same perspective.

Be upfront and honest and Aqua:

I really enjoy your friendship, you being here for me when things are a mess for me, it means a lot. Still, I need to get my stuff together with the divorce and kids and moving on. I need time and space, and I don't feel right about asking you to put yourself on hold. I say, lets table more than friendship for now, I'll get through my situation, you keep dating, we'll stay good friends, deal?

@zFlavor I no can see why he could've felt the way you explained but at the time I got quiet purely out of shock and my own I guess insecurity about my situation and I thought I was protecting him and myself. We were purely platonic friends when he told me that... Well at least I thought we were. We kissed a few days after he told me that... Got close then he backed off and started acting distant. But today he told me he's been communicating more with his ex so this could be the reason for him being distant and I wish them the best.

@Gennie a lot of what you said sounds so similar to what my head was thinking but my mouth couldn't say. I REALLY care for him though so I couldn't say that. However now it doesn't matter.