Virgo man vs Scorpio female

okay -- i know virgos are analytical so dont mean to be so long winded-- anyway I started to express concern and said listen lets take it slower and spend quality not quantity - Lets try to do once a week for a real date and get to know each other slow before we make any decisions -- He left for Europe last week came back 7 days later texted me that he meant to call me the next day he returned (Wed) but instead he texted me (Friday) the day after? He said lets connect for dinner on Monday -- (Had kids that weekend) He picks me up and says lets just do a movie but we have 10 minutes for a drink -- He tells me on plane ride back from europe had time to think --- He thought he was ready for a relationship but it turns out he is too selfish withthe little time he has, but he still like me a lot, but thinks we should be friends--My statement was arent we friends now? Duh?-- I have never been a FWB - I asked do you still want to hang out for movies and drinks -- he says of course -- but he has not initiated this week contact -- but I have texted him a few times this week and he has been polite but no initiative-- did we break up? We were not in a relationship -- dating I think, but no commitments, no love-- but i do have expectations of how I am going to be treated and I don't settle, but I said that I was fine being friends?

Sounds to me as though he was interested and then something you told him or he found out, turned him off.

Did he know you had kids from day 1?

Please excuse my typos---Yes i did know he had kids but he was clear every other weekend and two nights a week, but we discussed that we wld try to spend one weekend a month-- btw he insists that I am being paranoid that no one is discussing him with me, but I will tell you this guy is so slimy he actually wanted me to meet a great friend near my new home and is turned out the guy works for my ex--and i think my ex was really jealous he asked me the next day why did you go to house (Lives around the corner -- mentioned he wanted to know if my cleaning leady cld give him an estimate for cleaning his home-- I was very curious about all the coincidence of all this -- apparently, the sleazy guy has some game he is playing? But the kids I get the lets be friends and still hang out -- when we have no commitments -- HUH! I like him but I really wish I could have gotten a chance to know him, but he mentioned that when you told me to take out my calendar and plan our next date -- (Scheduling conlflicts) he know he was not ready! 🙂 Just wanted some of your virgo takes on this -- I have turned the page to this chapter?

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one more thing- he did say that in two weeks -- he could realize that he made the mistake of his life-- duh!! does not sound like this is well thought out Mr Virgo--I hate amateurs 🙂 I I asked if i did want to see you again (Really see you) LOL how wld that play out -- he says fine as long as you know were friends--?? and then he texted me I am always here for you as your friend-- THis friend thing is an OVER KILLL -- when we 1st started dating --- "if it doesnt work we will always be friends--" I GET IT- but when I have a flat tire-- where r u? when I need an errand to home depot -- ? He does not act like a friend at all --

Not going to lie didn't read the whole thing, but seems as tho thing went smooth til the talk about spending time together. Think he might of misunderstood ur intentions as a sign of breaking it off, and when he realizes it wasn't he prob regret it.

Very perceptive critique,

I did ask him to do me a favor-- errand at Home depot-- and he snapped and said he was working and he was a CEO -- blah, blah -- so I did not like his tone so I said you know maybe we should be friends, but we talked I clarified and corrected statement and said lets just spend quality time when permits at least once a week-- so lets take out our calendars and see what works next week-- (too much of an commitment -- freaked) I explained I would like to get to know you better before making any decisions ---- Last grrlfriend was an emotional vampire-- freaked out about suggestion of time constraints-- Still does not explain this FREIND< FREIND, FRIEND mentality ---LOL!

Thanks for the feed back

Please forgive my typos -- my thoughts are running faster than my fingers -- Where is spell check when u need it?

Posted by 25thDecan
DON'T UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCE TALK ABOUT ANY GUY YOU'VE BEEN WITH, ETC. If anything in the zodiac is accurate, it's that. That's almost universal with virdudes.

Mention some dude you like or who likes you that you hang with and bye bye as fast as I can get away from you. You're disloyal and a flirt and if I don't confront you on it, you are deleted.

You don't need competition. I'm that good. Lol

Yeah, I personally see NO point in competing for a woman. If she's entertaining that, then she can forget it.
Telling us about your exes will only cause us to compare ourselves. I personally will try to "out do them" and that isn't always a good thing...

Wow -- the enfamous 25th decan -- I have read your posts..and found then most enlightening-- you do keep it 100 -- LOL!

anywho-- who and what did the scorpio do that makes you have so much disdain -- —

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He likes you, you seem to come with a lot of responsibility and he KNOWS you nitpick about very small things....they're not the trees in the forest on his globehopping agenda. You want him, talk to him. Don't mention what you don't like as if it's light....so he can make moves. When he does make them, let him make them. Don't try and guide this man into your ideal of how he should court. When you give a condition to something like this, you also take away the beauty of natural progression....and DON'T UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCE TALK ABOUT ANY GUY YOU'VE BEEN WITH, ETC. If anything in the zodiac is accurate, it's that. That's almost universal with virdudes. Mention some dude you like or who likes you that you hang with and bye bye as fast as I can get away from you. You're disloyal and a flirt and if I don't confront you on it, you are deleted. You don't need competition. I'm that good. Lol
And I can't believe he actually considered a scorpion....ugh, maybe dy can help. Lol


As far as your comment about me coming with a lot of responsibility -- ? a phone call occasionally, quality time, or just a small gesture....Im really not being nitpicky -- I have been patient -- ! We are not even at a point where we discussed relationships, commitments, future -- how do you break up with someone that is allready a friend, but I suppose he needed to let me know that he felt pressured, and BTW -- The other guy his friend was introduced to me by antoher mutual friend - who he claims had no carnal knowledge about the fact we were dating -- I kept it real and asked did he know this gentleman, and that he asked for cleaning services. There was one phone conversation after finding out they were friends and I was clear that I DO NOT INTER DATE, and if we hung out then we all could hangout together-- done deal--

I DONT PLAY GAMES..as i explained to my sweet virgo!! Please keep in mind this all happened the day after he so --called gave me the lets be friends -- Its not fair to you-- ?? Yet i still tried to take a raincheck on our movie - via texting(This week) -- no response! He did say he still likes me a lot -- and lets be friends, but when I ask for any support in any area this week (via texting) .....He was Stone cold Austin ?

I hop

Cajun spirit Thank you for your response --!

Yeah, I personally see NO point in competing for a woman. If she's entertaining that, then she can forget it.
Telling us about your exes will only cause us to compare ourselves. I personally will try to "out do them" and that isn't always a good thing...

Again as I pointed out to 25th I only mentioned this gentlemen cause we are friends and he lived near my home -- he was a pointed out to me as a reference person in my new neighborhood( We only dated for 3 weeks officially) , i did nudge him a little...when he told his friend .... was a great guy -- "I asked are you saying I should date him", he said "your a grown woman" -- and BTW he did make it clear the night before that we should be just FRIENDS -- (As a matter fact he texted me afterwards and said "I am here for you as your Friend", His words not mine-- I was a lil hurt..I must admit-- But, God has a funny sense of humor-- I was not looking to meet anyone and this inro to his boy was not contrived on my part-- It was just fate...perhaps, but it was pure and innocent-- Oh! you want to be my friend then act like it? KEEP IT REAL -- I was not playing -- are you? LOL!!!

Games people player --

25th decan

they're not the trees in the forest on his globehopping agenda. You want him, talk to him. Don't mention what you don't like as if it's light....so he can make moves. When he does make them, let him make them. Don't try and guide this man into your ideal of how he should court.

Not sure what this means -- im a just a mere scorpion LOL!

25th

1. Don't nitpick his nature- he does enough of that for three mother hens
2. If you want this man....talk to this man. Good conversation. You most certainly can rekindle the first night...even top it. Through the brain that is.
3. Let him see that you also stand on your own and aren't clingy.
5. Be reciprocal.
Anything else is too much.


!. Yes
2. I try to talk but so much nitpicking that i have done - think it s too late?
3. Yes -- I have been exuding clinging -- this past week..not working.
4. Reciprocal -- Im giving and he is taking -- ?

Do you think that a clingy, nitpicking, scorpio can still get to know this reserved virgo-- he is not reciprocating any or my attempts to connect --?

BTW -- thank you very much for your feedback-- but he is very clear about wanting to be friends, and I need to respect his space..I asked him if I could see him face to face yesterday and he said probably not today ( I wasn't asking him for and immediate response) I knew he had his daughters and the big jet game last night. he never followed with a response-- I dont want to appear needy --

Not much more I can do--?