Virgo men CANNOT be shaken...

Ok so here's a bit of a twist. I've been posting a bit here and there in the Libra forum, about my ex that I broke it off with about 2 months ago.

During this time another ex of mine (ironically the last break up I had, which was last year) came around. He and I get along as friends, so I let him around. Of course I was vulnerable at the time, and trying to fill that 'void'. (i am seriously a 27 year old mess sometimes) Well since then, we've gotten close. I have told him time after time that I am not looking for a committed relationship now. I know that my heart is still hurting for my ex, and as a result, I will not be able to give the attention and dedication to a relationship given my state right now.

It seems as though he believes that he can fix that by being around me 24/7! He calls me all day, he tries to come by all the time. We spend a significant amount of time together; mostly because he is good company. The problem is, is that I feel terrible for letting him around, because now I know that he likes me a lot.

He is such a generous guy. He is a Virgo, so he is pretty reserved, and doesn't SAY much - but he DOES a lot. He shows me that he cares about me by doing cute little thoughtful things like remembering a comment I made earlier in the day about mint ice cream, and then bringing it to me that night for desert after dinner 😉

Now him and I - we have a history. It didn't end great last time, and I basically cut all ties. He found me on myspace a few months ago, and has been as persistent as he was last time.


My question is - with hurt feelings and thoughts of my ex from just 6 weeks ago; shouldn't I give this guy the boot? I don't want to lose his friendship, and I feel terrible because he wants a second chance, and even though I haven't agreed, he has genuinely shown a great improvement these last 4 weeks. He just seems a bit overbearing...


ugh....

He just seems a bit overbearing...

You're a Cancer Woman, right? Some VirGuys really dig y'all - you're sweet, kind, gentle - brings out the Father / Protector side of VG. Yeah, he'll do things for you, and that seems great at first, but soon he'll be running every little detail of your life... Not because he's a domineering tyrant, but because he wants to protect you. Like: He'll nag you to wear your seat belt, just in case of an accident; then, he'll start driving you everywhere, because he thinks he's a safer driver...

I will not be able to give the attention and dedication to a relationship given my state right now.

You can't give this VG mixed signals. You have to tell straight up that you're just out of a relationship, and you aren't ready to get into another one. So, don't let him do things for you. That's the camel's nose under the tent...

Now him and I - we have a history.

Sorry, but odds are, he won't be able to be Just A Friend to you. We don't get into relationships casually, and we can be stubborn as hell to hold one together.

You want us gone. Say it and mean it. It'll be hard but hey, that's how it goes.

thank you very much for this advice. I will use it today. you are great.

It sounds like hes very into you. You broke up with him and only a short time later he finds you on myspace and starts talking to you again. He wants to be in every moment of your life right now too? Make a decision soon cuz he ll keep comin if you let him.

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Make a decision soon cuz he ll keep comin if you let him.

Not only that, but soon he will want to be CUMMING too..oopss sorry.

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LOL i should have seen that cumming oops coming when i wrote it.

lol

My question is - with hurt feelings and thoughts of my ex from just 6 weeks ago; shouldn't I give this guy the boot? I don't want to lose his friendship, and I feel terrible because he wants a second chance, and even though I haven't agreed, he has genuinely shown a great improvement these last 4 weeks. He just seems a bit overbearing...

OMG OMG OMG! No way :O

susha, we have some things in common lol. Although I am your opposite sign, I understand where you are coming from. I don't want to lose any friendship with my boyfriend but I think it will better if we went BACK to being friends. Things were so nice when we were friends and all this tension did not exist.

Mine can be way over-bearing, when I tell him I have to go, it doesn't matter, he will take my keys and I have to 'do' so much in order to get them back and even then I have to take them lol.

I seriously think he and I jumped into things to soon but he pushed it and I suggested otherwise but I guess he used did the whole, 'beat it until it gives in' kind of thing. Like keep with the pressure until I can't take it anymore and I say yes.

sigh, yeah I completely understand.

lol @ shaks

You can't give this VG mixed signals. You have to tell straight up that you're just out of a relationship, and you aren't ready to get into another one. So, don't let him do things for you. That's the camel's nose under the tent...

Oh no, sometimes you can be as straight as a stick with a Virguy and they still don't care.



Sorry, but odds are, he won't be able to be Just A Friend to you. We don't get into relationships casually, and we can be stubborn as hell to hold one together.

Damn it all to hell

Cappy...they only don't care, when they are confident that they can change your mind if they persist enough.

I recently cut out of my life a virguy that had been my friend for 7 years...And I hardly heard bo-peep outta him after I gave him a piece of my mind...he sent me 2 text messages after i said to leave me alone, and i did not reply...trust me, he was friggin grovelling on his knees. But it was the final straw for me...I didn't reply, and I haven't heard from him since. when you say it and mean it, he will know and when he sees that he's not swaying you, he'll eventually give up.

He takes your keys— Hunny....Be careful, be very very careful that's all im going to say (i read this post after replying to your post in the other thread). Even if it's a game now, the evidence is screaming out to me that this guy is extremely controlling...

UGH! You guys are ALL right up to this point. He IS like a father to me. (he even tells me to buckle up) I am a Cancer, and we don't just love to fuss over OUR loved ones - we love the attention of being fussed over.

This guy does it like a true Virgo too. He is very critical, but 'for my own benefit'. He has the dominant side, where he will just 'take care of everything' for me. Right now I am in that 'post-break up' state.

He's a nice guy; he definitely has it in for me. I kind of feel like he is in the driver's seat. And the looming guilt of having the relationship end last year, kind of has me feeling like this is my chance to repair it. Damn - no rest for the wicked hmm? LOL

Ugh..

How funny is it...Sometimes you live your own life - and sometimes; your life seems to be living you.

dont play with him. if u do he will give u what u need. tell him what u are living through.

Ah yes well... I've told this guy that I don't want to talk to him anymore; and so far he has shown up at my house wit flowers, called me like crazy, texted me, etc.

I agree with you all. He'll get over it. Being a Cancer and feeling emotionally responsible... I just couldn't bring myself to DUMP someone who hasn't really done anything wrong. But I did come to my senses (Libra came back too - which would bring me to "cheating"... and that's a SUPER no-no for me) and let him go.