Virgo Sun/Scorpio Moon

Hi everyone...I started dating a Virgo Sun/Scorpio Moon man over the summer and let's say these have been the most intense past months of my life...with amazing highs and terrible lows. He loves me and constantly tells me he wants to marry me and build a life with me...but when I don't spend enough time with him or when I go out with my friends...he gets so upset...we break up every time. This last time was my final straw and when I wouldn't go back he threatened me...and it all got very ugly. But days later he was back to sending me sweet messages...it's so unfortunate how low the lows can be because our connection is magical...but I cannot allow a man to manipulate me due to his insecurities...it's just not healthy. So I guess my question is will he ever realize that what he considers love is destructive and actually what has ruined us??

meh...let me make this real simple.

He's a Virgo sun/Scorp moon....Your days are numbered. 😉

Posted by Angel1177

So I guess my question is will he ever realize that what he considers love is destructive and actually what has ruined us??

No, probably not.

People use themselves as a basis for measuring normal. So, in his mind, he will be unable to recognize that he is in error. This is a human thing, not Virgo.

If a person does eventually realize the error of their ways ... it's because of numerous life experiences in stepping in same pile of shit, over and again.


and NOT because of someone else, like you.


Like you, I would remove myself from someone with this kind of psychosis ... but, unlike you, I wouldn't give it another thought. If you are thinking about it/him then it means you want to continue experiencing his insanity, which makes you just as insane.

Step away and look to the horizon. food for thought in the future - any man who's actions don't match is words is a pass. You're not going to change a man just because you have feelings. Women really need to get that in their thick skulls.

VirgoFlirt - this is exactly what he says. When I approach him about his behavior he says that if I lived with him and spent every day with him then he wouldn't mind me going out with friends. But I am hesitant to believe that would change him. That's too big of a risk to take. I hardly go out with friends...hardly...I go to law school at night and work full time during the day...which is the main reason I don't get to see him often. His love and attention feels amazing, but it comes with a price.

LetItB - how so?

Unfortunately this is the price for loving a scorpio moon...... he should step back from his emotions and look at things from your point of view.... but obviously his love for you is intense... he wants you to himself.... all of us Scorpio moons do...... what he sounds like is that he hasn't evolved that part of him much. Both my man and I have scorpio moons but we know the reality of our situations and can think objectively about it. I still get sad and down when I dont' get to see my guy at least once a week... but I set a goal of at least seeing him once a week... I'd like it to be more often but his aqua sun needs space even if he does want to see me too.

evolved scorpio moons can be quite lovely people..... and understanding. He needs to calm down... try to be calm and give him reassurances or compromise on how often you two see each other. We feed off your emotions so if you get upset with us even if we are upset already.... it just makes it worse. A relationship is give and take..... it can't be where each of you is just thinking of themselves and only your needs.

VanillaShake - I compromise constantly and reassure him often. I'm torn...

Either way...he ended things with me and said that I played with his emotions...that I must be used to doing this to men...that I must be seeing someone else. He always thought there was someone else and accused me constantly of doing things that are far from who I am...so I've left it alone...I've gone back every time he breaks up with me...it's been almost 3 weeks since our last communication and I know he just wants me to chase him...and prove to him that I love him...I miss him terribly but this just isn't healthy...not sure if he'll come back but I will always miss and love him...

LeoVeen - I'm full of it?

I'm a Pisces Sun/Cancer Rising/Aquarius Moon

CluelessCancer...we've constantly gone back and forth...for close to 7 months now...

How so?? I see him every free moment I have...I'm not as emotional as he is...but I tell him and show him how special he is...I've paid for him to go back to school and help him with legal matters all the time...I don't know how you can gather that from what I've written...he throws outbursts and I console him...but when he takes it too far by calling me names I distance myself...I'm not perfect...I can be aloof and with every incident I pull back more and more...but when we are physically in each other's presence...I lay it all out there...I've never been more vulnerable to a man...

LeoVeen - lol...don't worry...my Aqua moon keeps my emotions in check...I'll be okay...

Ugh...I know you're right...the chemistry was just out of this world...but it's just not healthy...

I just merely paid for a class...I cared and care for him deeply and wanted to see him advance in life...I feel like no one in his past has truly cared for him...he's always been the giver...but sadly, I think his past crept it's way into our relationship...I paid the price for all those who did him wrong...I won't contact him again...I just wish things didn't have to end this way...but I guess that's life...