Virgos and Finality

Would any of you guys say that Virgos have a tendency to view things with a sense of finality, more so than other signs? I notice that often times when I part ways with someone, or am angry at someone, I tell them I'll never speak to them again. And I can keep that up; I find it easy never to talk to someone again, even if I have a connection to them. Is this just me, or do Virgos in general have this type of outlook? I was thinking of this lately because I had a female friend (a Pisces) who I feel in love with, but she had a boyfriend, so I couldn't go out with her. However, she had led me on, and continued to flirt with me while she maintained that I was only a friend. This angered me greatly, and I told her I'd never speak to her again for the way she led me on and hurt me. She doesn't understand how I can just never speak to someone again, and she wants me to talk to her again. I won't, though, and I doubt I ever will again.

coming from a very stubborn and prideful sign, I can guarantee you that silence is never the answer. I have suffered too much due to my own finality with others, and often regret when I have pushed someone away. Especially if they are someone that I am close with.

I understand your anger and your disappointment. You are entitled to it. But sometimes we don't look at our own faults and our own actions that have caused our own disappointments. If you care about someone, then they deserve a second chance. If they let you down again, then you know that that person shouldn't be in your life.

But why skip out on a potentially wonderful person because you perceived things to be a certain way? If she didn't have a boyfriend, she would still be in your life, right? Sometimes you gotta take that chance, and sometimes that chance means giving it to a person to see what they can offer in your life to grow as a person.

I'm learning this from a Virgo....

Posted by Shaka_laka_boomboom
Its a good quality to have for certain cases, however in other cases this stubborn quality causes us to miss out on opportunities, because things simply wouldnt have other outcome than the one we have mapped out in our heads.

Very well said!!!!! what is more disappointing: A missed opportunity? Or an outcome that didn't go the way you thought it would?

I didn't know she had a boyfriend. She was very shy and didn't really open up to me. I was only notified AFTER all this had happened. So he flirted with me without bothering to tell me she had a boyfriend.

Posted by Mars.In.Aries
coming from a very stubborn and prideful sign, I can guarantee you that silence is never the answer. I have suffered too much due to my own finality with others, and often regret when I have pushed someone away. Especially if they are someone that I am close with.

I find it easy to write people off 🙂

And no, I don't have the problem of regretting it, haha.

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Posted by American Virgo
I didn't know she had a boyfriend. She was very shy and didn't really open up to me. I was only notified AFTER all this had happened. So he flirted with me without bothering to tell me she had a boyfriend.

Well mate then I hope you learned your lesson, dont assume a girl really wants you THAT way just because she flirts and doesnt openly mention she has a boyfriend, girls enjoy (male) attention in general regardless of whether they are in a relationship or not.

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No, let me explain a little further. She told me that she was physically attracted to me, and through others I did learn she "wanted me that way". The problem with her was that she wanted to have me as a friend, presumably until she was single and could have me (she actually told me so). However, I didn't like that idea, so I decided to kinda blow her off. She REALLY wants me to be a friend, and will not just let me go. So, basically, she said, "No, you can't be my boyfriend, but now that you have talked to me, you MUST be my friend." You see the problem here?

Posted by Shaka_laka_boomboom
By cutting her off abruptly he's trying to deny her or himself that he has/had strong feelings for her, I mean...what can you actually blame the girl for? for acting a like a girl?

No, it's just that she insists that I be her friend, and that was never my original intention. So I cut her off. That's all.

M.I.A. this is surprising taht your virgo is teaching you this valuable lesson.

Sorti: yes, it is surprising, but to be honest it has also been very hard. I was very angry with him because I was perceiving his actions as trying to get in my pants and treat me like those other stupid girls that he was messing around with. And I kept questioning why at the expense of an awesome friendship. He's my best friend, which I hold true to my friends, but lovers holds another candle because I haven't been in successful relationships. So now pops up my insecurities, which has been causing me to act up here and there, which in return has played on his insecurities, which has caused him to act up here and there.

Usually I'm the one that gives someone else the silent treatment (it's part of my Aries ice) and wait until they approach me (I do this when I'm VERY upset about something). Little did I know that it was he that was giving me the silent treatment..... If it weren't for me to break the silence, then we still wouldn't be talking today. You have no idea how hard it was for me to swallow my pride. Nor would you believe how pissed I was. Shit, I'm still bitter..... but the bottom line is that I want him in my life.

I have taken that chance to not push him away..... time will only tell, though.

Hell, this is a very difficult decision for me because when i get "let down" or become enraged my anger blinds my reason from time to time which leads to some very terrible results or unhappy endings. (Aries moon)

Much like you, I have took a good year or so to hold back my anger when it comes to cutting people out of my life and hell it becomes painful to give people second, third or even four chances.

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Dude, you are preaching to the choir here..... painful is the exact word to describe taking a step back and giving people another chance. But in all honesty, it's too easy for us to just walk away and to never return. We are desensitized to that pain.... addressing my anger has been one of the most powerful things for me to experience. I don't want anybody to take me as weak. I don't even know where this stems from. I just know that my anger (my fire) and my silence (my ice) have been my biggest forms of defense through out my life. It's very hard to change when something comes too naturally.....

What are some things that you have experienced through holding back your anger and allowing others another cha

I find it easy to write people off 🙂

And no, I don't have the problem of regretting it, haha.

See, this is what I believe I'm to teach my Virgo..... because I have known him for a while, I have seen him walk away from situations too easily. I feel that he has the tendency to give up too quickly. And trying to break through to him when he's in that mindset!!!! Jesus have mercy!!!! Fuck me, people say that Aries are stubborn, but I think Virgo's are right up there too!!!

Let me re-phrase myself..... instead of "See, this is what I believe I'm to teach my Virgo....." really what I want to say is that this is a fault I see in him, and due to my same fault, I think I can help him fix it..... and it's also because I have known him for a while that I know that this is something that he struggles with.

I disagree. Telling someone you think they're hot is flirting. If your man was telling another woman he thought she was very attractive, I'm sure you wouldn't consider that 'friendly' conversation.


He's probably better off cutting her loose. She knows what shes doing, and while she may act dumb about why he suddenly stopped talking to her, she knows deep down that he could no longer take her toying with his emotions.


Some girls get off on that kind of stuff.

I think Aries takes the cake.

Posted by Shaka_laka_boomboom
Flirting usually takes a certain finese which doesnt suit quite well with Aries' bold and direct style . Therefore my vote goes to Libra 🙂

indeed ur rite lmao

my Venus in libra and mercury in libra gets high a five owwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww lmao.

Posted by Shaka_laka_boomboom
Flirting usually takes a certain finese which doesnt suit quite well with Aries' bold and direct style . Therefore my vote goes to Libra 🙂

I think I'm fun to flirt with...... I can relate to men, and be flirty without being sleazy. I think flirting is fun, and sex is usually the last thing on my mind when I flirt with someone. Flirting to me is mental stimulation......

Aries cant just stand other people even suggesting you guys have competition..in anything at all 😛 geez!

LMFAO!!!! Love it!!!!

Posted by ianthefish
mars in libra..

ohh no..

at least its better than mars in virgo even tho they are both in Detriment places lmfao.

Posted by sortilege85
I got mars in virgo.

😉

its a very pitiful placement i wish i had a mars in a fire sign thats a natural placement for a mars sign owwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww lmao.

Posted by sortilege85
Nah, trust me.

what you mean man isnt fire mars naturally best in a fire sign.

Posted by Mars.In.Aries

See, this is what I believe I'm to teach my Virgo..... because I have known him for a while, I have seen him walk away from situations too easily.

Is there something wrong with that, in the context of people who are not worth your time?

I feel that he has the tendency to give up too quickly. And trying to break through to him when he's in that mindset!!!!

Logic usually prevails with a Virgo honey 🙂

If we interpret it ain't working, we stop wasting time and effort.

people say that Aries are stubborn, but I think Virgo's are right up there too!!!

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Without a doubt 😉

Funny that I have had this in the past with an old virgo friend -- douched me once, and then twice, and then vanished for 2 years, and then resurrected (talk about fair weather). Being a cancer, you know he was better off shooting off his foot, then to think about getting an open response from me. 1-2-3 delete and IGNORE - and NO regrets at all - good bye and good riddance douche!

Posted by aquilascorpiusfemina
Well, the Virgos I knew always talked to their ex girlfriends, like some still fucked around with them too, and they told me many times that they were not going to speak to them again. Ahaha, no finality there! I still gotta meet one like that is true to his/her finality word. I am black and white, one extreme to the other, thus, when I make finalities; they are quite concrete. Even my cold Capricorn parents and unemotional Virgo cousin think I am way too cruel and insensitive. It's quite easy, when I am done with someone, they're dead too me; period!

those virgos musta had strong water placements like cancers of pisces cuz fixed like leos aquas taurus Scorpios dont bulge people with those strong placements never look back to stubborn and prideful especially leo lol.


moon in leo when i'm right im right when im wrong i can admit when im ready lmao.