Virgos and Second Tries

I am just wonderin how virgos are when it comes to giving things a second shot.

I have this virgo ex and well, he did know I am in a relationship with an aqua now. They hate each other as a matter of fact. Anyway, after me and aqua got together, virgo, I think liked a cappy girl. We started arguing over little things almost everyday until I gave up and decided that the friendship we had is long gone. One time, I told him I just cannot take it anymore and that we can be casual to each other but no longer friends since we've been arguing a lot and I am so tired of it. Then he said to me that we are just having communication breakdown and that he still wants to keep me as a friend. Of all our friends, I was the only one he never added on facebook and I mentioned it to him. He just said to me that he will tell me why in the right time and that maybe I will laugh when I hear what he has to say.

Then slowly, it's like he's going back to the same old nice guy I met before. And now that he learned that me and aqua are going through something he told me "I hate to say it but I told you so. I wonder why you are too stubborn and stupid. I have long given up on you" and I told him I appreciate what he said before but it's just me. I create my own judgement on people. I don't rely on opinions of others. Then I was quiet all day at work until in the afternoon, he messaged me with "Hello?" I said "yes?" And he said "nah. Just checking if you're still alive" which is weird. I just sent him a smiley.

Now this virgo is very much single unlike the aqua that I'm with now who is separated from his wife and has a son. I wonder... Did I totally lose him the time I chose to be with the aqua? Does this virgo like me still? Or is this his way of being friendly? Let me know what you think! Your opinions are very much appreciated as I want to be able to treat him the right away. If he's just being friendly, then I will be cautious not to fall for him and if he likes me still, is it a good option to re-consider it?

Posted by Aria
Did I totally lose him the time I chose to be with the aqua? Does this virgo like me still? Or is this his way of being friendly? Let me know what you think! Your opinions are very much appreciated as I want to be able to treat him the right away. If he's just being friendly, then I will be cautious not to fall for him and if he likes me still, is it a good option to re-consider it?

Are you really young? You seem to know that you don't have to develop feelings for someone just because they are nice or flirt with you or attracted to you. Yet you do it anyway. Please stop following the wind and ground yourself as it will move on. Virgo saw that and probably felt that you might leave after any disagreement/miscommunication. (🙂)

Posted by Aria
We started arguing over little things almost everyday until I gave up and decided that the friendship we had is long gone. One time, I told him I just cannot take it anymore and that we can be casual to each other but no longer friends since we've been arguing a lot and I am so tired of it. Then he said to me that we are just having communication breakdown and that he still wants to keep me as a friend.

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Posted by Aria
I am just wonderin how virgos are when it comes to giving things a second shot.

I wonder why you are too stubborn and stupid. I have long given up on you" and I told him I appreciate what he said before but it's just me. I create my own judgement on people. I don't rely on opinions of others. Then I was quiet all day at work until in the afternoon, he messaged me with "Hello?" I said "yes?" And he said "nah. Just checking if you're still alive" which is weird. I just sent him a smiley.

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You always need to work on yourself, however you need to be alone for a while since you allow them to consume you all the time. YOU have to treat yourself the right way first before you can even do it for another. Get well soon.( 🙂 )

Thanks gem! I guess this is my fickle side. I'm the typical gem people read online: a butterfly who flies from one flower to another and cannot be tied down. I do not like to be this way but I do not like being stuck too specially if the situation is not "happy". I'm always weighing things with the thought that the grass is greener on the other side. 😢 I love the aqua, I guess but I am starting to lose the feelings because of what happened and it makes me think that maybe, I'd be better off back with the virgo... 😢 I dislike arguments, I dislike difficulties... 😢 yeah, maybe you are right. Maybe I should heal first. But then, can both of them wait? In case I decide to "hibernate" for a month? Hmmmmm...

Thanks gem! I guess this is my fickle side. I'm the typical gem people read online: a butterfly who flies from one flower to another and cannot be tied down. I do not like to be this way but I do not like being stuck too specially if the situation is not "happy". I'm always weighing things with the thought that the grass is greener on the other side. 😢 I love the aqua, I guess but I am starting to lose the feelings because of what happened and it makes me think that maybe, I'd be better off back with the virgo... 😢 I dislike arguments, I dislike difficulties... 😢 yeah, maybe you are right. Maybe I should heal first. But then, can both of them wait? In case I decide to "hibernate" for a month? Hmmmmm...

Posted by Aria
Thanks gem! I guess this is my fickle side. I'm the typical gem people read online: a butterfly who flies from one flower to another and cannot be tied down. I do not like to be this way but I do not like being stuck too specially if the situation is not "happy". I'm always weighing things with the thought that the grass is greener on the other side. 😢 I love the aqua, I guess but I am starting to lose the feelings because of what happened and it makes me think that maybe, I'd be better off back with the virgo... 😢 I dislike arguments, I dislike difficulties... 😢 yeah, maybe you are right. Maybe I should heal first. But then, can both of them wait? In case I decide to "hibernate" for a month? Hmmmmm...

You know, yet you do it anyway...It's about YOU and being healthy, NOT about them. Your wellbeing should be paramount. Neither of them should be your present concern as they will choose what is right for them. Clearly you are NOT stupid...your actions are foolish... and you have made it a habit which is... stupid. ( 🙂 )

Since you seem to put a lot of significance into astrology, why don't you take a look at the positive attributes of a gem and the other placements in your chart. Try focusing on your strengths while understanding you weaknesses rather than subscribing to them. Just a thought...( 🙂 )

Hmmm. Possibly. I do have a weird weird chart that I do not understand though. It said:

Gem sun
Sagittarius rising
Virgo moon
Pisces Mars
And then the rest are capricorn and scorpio

One friend told me I have all signs, air, fire, earth and water..... And yeah, I think I kind of split myself in four everytime. Like I want stable relationships but I always think there's something better out there. I crave and fear emotions at the same time. I love deeply and always willing to help but then I also run away when it gets too difficult/ too pressuring. :/

Give things a second chance? Nah, I'll pass. As long I know I gave an honest effort with the first chance. This includes everything from a friendship to a restaurant I visit for the first time. No use wasting time and effort.

I'm not really one for second chances, no. I gave a second chance once to someone who I cared very deeply about. But within a few days I realized that I couldn't do it. The relationship was broken. There was another case where a different person asked for another chance. I refused. I think it really depends on whether a person feels that it's worth it in the end. He or she might wonder "does the relationship really stand a chance?"

I don't think this Virguy is interested in trying out a relationship again. In his mind you've already chosen your path. And on top of it you're so hard to pin down in the first place. As you said yourself, you have a fickle side. As a Virgo I don't have patience for that.

Thank you so much for the honest responses. I see what y'all mean. 🙂 it's good to know and validate that being nice doesn't always mean giving it a second try. And yes, I have admitted it that I am not the type who likes getting hurt in arguments which is mainly the reason I run away. I cannot fight back so I would rather not engage. Not really because I can't but I feel that it would waste my time. And each and everytime that happens, I let go. No questions asked. Specially if the argument involves another woman. For the virgo, that was the case. Another woman was involved however, their relationship did not materialize while mine and the aqua did. So part of me does think maybe I made the wrong judgement because I never asked for any explaination in the first place. I immediately assumed he would lie. It s a good thing that he is still there when things are going wrong between me and the aqua. I mean, who does that right? Maybe he really is nice after all. Even if he did say he has long given up on me. Up to now, I haven't fully understood Virgos but at least for this part, I really do. 🙂 Thanks y'all! 🙂

A Virgo will never give a second chance to anyone unless there was a MAJOR connection. This goes for friends, or lovers, and even family. If you piss off a Virgo to the point of a fallout, regardless of who is right or wrong, you are likely done. And, if the Virgo was the one who screwed up, he/she will likely be too embarrassed to try to rekindle the friendship.

Here is a recent example of mine where I was in the wrong, and lost a friend:

It was the night of the AFC and NFC Championship games, and my wife and I were invited to a friend's house. I wound up mixing beer with liquor that night. Long story short, I got obliterated because I don't handle liquor very well. Beer, I am ok, but not liquor.

That night is a haze, but I made a total ass of myself. I apologized, and the couple has invited us over since then, but I am too embarrassed to face them. I REALLY screwed up that night.

Even though I apologized, and they forgave enough to invite us over again, I still don't want to see them again. I screwed up, and I put myself in their position. If the other guy had done what I did to me, would I want to see him again?

No.

So, that's why I can't go back there.