Virgo's, is this the start of something—

I work a Virgo. He and his girlfriend split up in October (she ended things with him). We flirt a little but even though he is stupidly hot (all the girls fancy him in the office) and could get ANY girl, I think he's quite shy. He's a bit younger than me too.

We used to go to breakfast/lunch together with co-workers and email each other silly things a lot. Before Christmas, we had joke awards at work and I got nominated for outrageous flirting with him. I was so mortified, in front of everybody, that I couldn't look him in the eye let alone hang out with him. So with this, and my best male friends telling me cause I hang out with him so much that I had moved to the 'friends' territory, I backed off a bit and stopped going for breakfasts and going over to his desk so much.

Last week, he showed me texts and emails from girls asking him to meet for drinks. He said 'it's a bit forward, where's the chase in that?'. I showed him texts from a guy that was flirting with me.

The same day, he emailed me and asked if I wanted to go for lunch, his treat, because he owed me ?4. It was just me and him that went for lunch for the first time! And we went out instead of going to the canteen. I had a great time and we chatted about all sorts of things and there was some physical touching. He mentioned about his ex and said that he found it tough, and if it wasn't for work, he would have gone back to Austrailia. I told him about when my relationship ended.

I emailed him to thank him for lunch (which was ?17!, he insisted on paying) and said that I sensed he was still hurting after his relationship. I said it would get easier etc. He emailed me back saying he appreciated the chat we had lunch and it gave him comfort to know that someone else had been through the same thing recently. He put a kiss at the end of the email (the first time ever!). I replied back with a kiss at the end of mine. He replied saying that I was the 'bestest most positive person he's ever met'.

We clearly like each other and get on well, but is it just a friendship thing? Sometimes I think he does fancy me, but then he pulls away a bit in an arrogant way.

If he does like me, more than a friend, how do I move this situation on?

It all sounds very positive...slowly does it - these guys are slow from what I can gather....and isnt friendship the best way to lead to more? If you cant be friends why be romantically involved?

You may love somebody but you may not like them....this way you at least know you both like eachother before you can love one another...make sense?

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Virgo's and Sags are great together. I dated one and they are so sweet and LOVE us saggy girls. If they like you they will pursue you. Like he is. Just go with the flow of it. They don't cramp our style like libra's🙂 And they don't see to cramp leo's either🙂 I'm so happy for you chatz🙂!!

Thanks guys.

So do I play it cool and let him come to me?

Even though I'm confident, an extrovert, funny and flirty, when it comes to him (or any other guy I really like) I turn into a shy teenager at the age of 30!

I often tease him, calling him names etc (playground tactics), being mean to him but in a silly way.

He invited me to his house party today on facebook. Just me, even though he's friends with 3 other people on facebook 🙂 I confirmed that I'd go but I'm a bit scared.

this is how inbreds do it. you should be scared to fuck your old uncle and your father

etc..its against the law! take it over to pakistan or some other inbred lovers haven.`

sick family.

Virgo men give mixed signals & are very slow..if it wasnt for these posts I think I would have given up..its hard because we live in different states, but he was so into me in the beginning, telling me he has never felt this way,blah,blah. me being a cautious Cap, wasnt sure & didnt express much, but he kinda proposed one night, then never mentioned it again..and that is when the pulling started..i dont know if the distance scared him, or if it was financial, I read they overanalyze and get scared. after a while he stopped contacting me and now after 4 mos he send me an email,expressing some feelings, that he thinks about me all the time and cares for me. i dont know if this is to see where I stand or what. does he want to come back? I cant deal with this BS,Virgo men need to stop the games, its not fair. I really had an amazing connection but dont know how much I can take. so my advice. PACE yourself with virgos, or you will get frustrated!! would appreciate any advice

Yeah, the best thing about virgo's is they don't play games. They are very clear and to the point and honest. Like us. So like 25th decan said make sure you do that as well🙂

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What the hell are you talking about BITCH... who gives permission to write on this forum..??

yeh we're Slowww

Lol Qbone, when I saw her post I thought to myself "I thought you'd been banned already?".

HHL's posts are a complete waste of space...Stupidest shit i've ever read in my life. It's not even funny...

25thDecan, I know us Cappie can be odd. I dont express much at first, maybe its b/c of insecurities or just not sure if they are real. he mentioned the marriage all too soon, i wonder if he was testing me, we had hardly known each other at that point. so, i agree with you, but cap, like virgo, have insecurities, and sometimes show our love by actions, not so much words. this is why, after he sent me that email, expressing some feelings, i told him i felt the same. i just dont know what he wants. if he tries to come back I cant deal with the pull/push virgos are known for. i dont know if he wants to commit, he needs to make up his mind next time, and i think i will ask him, i cant take yrs of this. someone told me he go scared, started overanalizing, not sure if it would work b/c of distance and since i never told me anything,(which is my fault) maybe he wasnt sure of me either.

he split up in october so u may be his rebound . _ think u must stay fiends for a quite long while and then become closer . _t will be healthier for both of u.