Posted by VirgoDragirl
It will get easier.
Posted by DamnataPosted by VirgoDragirl
It will get easier.
See, this is how I know you're lying. It never gets easier for us, in any pairing whatsoever lol.
The whole point of our existence is to overanalyze and never go with the flow.click to expand
Posted by VirgoDragirlPosted by DamnataPosted by VirgoDragirl
It will get easier.
See, this is how I know you're lying. It never gets easier for us, in any pairing whatsoever lol.
The whole point of our existence is to overanalyze and never go with the flow.
Oh...I'm sorry you feel that I'm lying but I'm not. It's up to you if you want to believe or not. I only speak from experience.
Also, I'm concern about you. If you want to be that person who over-analyze everything and go against the flow than yeah..., you yourself are the one who making it difficult for yourself. Maybe that's why you believe all pairing is difficult for you. What you believe will happen. It's the power of suggestions.click to expand
Posted by Ixion120Posted by Damnata
I can't speak because I haven't experienced it but Ixion's post sounds dreamy and awesome.
If only he also would've understood my humor..
Lol as I sometimes tell my Cancer, Nata tell better jokes >😄click to expand
Posted by Ixion120
I won't give the entire line the Cancers here are giving as fact... I am inclined to agree with: CC's line about a need for patience...this above all is paramount, VirDragirl's lines about it getting easier and watching your tone to an extent, and completely disagree with Damnata (though I respect her much 🙂 ) the virgo tendency to stay fixed isn't par the course we can and do shift often and anyone who expresses that they cannot honestly isn't stretching their perception far; I have officially been a relationship with my Cancer gf for a Year+ and have non-seriously dealt with others over the years, I have several very close Cancer best friends..to the point you could consider them a part of the family both male and female...the idea of just speaking calmly is nice...poetic even..but this makes an assumption that either of you are mature and objective enough to do so...it won't be that simple, especially with emotions clouding judgment on both sides.
Reconciling differences requires commitment to:
1.) The relationship (Cancer won't do shit for ya if they can't/won't trust you, I did this by putting in the work to be trust worthy and using that as my bargaining chip, stay faithful stay objective about what you really want out of your relationship and them, insist on openness insist on honesty, and be ready to fight whomever and whatever your cancer included to protect the relationship)
2.) Their Personal Growth ( Technically this flows from the above...you have to encourage Cancer to be better gently, that cancer "69" is apt... they have a habit that can be good or bad of reciprocating in kind the behavior they receive, do your part to ensure that the energy you receive is good.
3.) Yourself (Un-Evolved Cancer's have a tendency to excuse/sidestep their bad behavior as a result of their feelings...Don't let them, ever. Set healthy boundaries and abide by them, and don't be an insufferable person with those boundaries but be very frank and sincere about the things you need to not be hurt and ask them to do the same. If you fail to stand up for yourself prepare to be run over by their sometimes intense emotions).
Posted by CluelessCancer
Be patient or GTFO of the relationship already...your communication style will take lots of time to figure out.
i would ask him this is how i want to be loved, how do you want to be loved!
simple.
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