Virguy No Show

My Virguy made early plans with me last night and was a no show until about 10:30pm. He sent me a text saying he fell asleep and called me twice last night when he woke up. I believe he feel asleep since we were up late the night before.

Me being a gem my normal behavior is to ignore him til I'm no longer mad.

Well this morning I'm still mad and still planning on the silent treatment with him maybe for the entire weekend. I'm really not in the mood to talk to him. Yeah maybe he messed up unintentional and I should not be so bitchy but I don't want say "oh no worries" to him. You know is gems put up with lots of bs. I don't want him to get used to me being flexible with no shows. This being the first no show of 4 months of dating.

How long should I wait to respond back? Do you think his freaking out? I am being a little bitchy but don't want to give him the impression that this is ok behavior. I'm 40 and not putting up with crap from any guys these days.

You're a manipulative cunt.

Instead of handling yourself maturely, you are resorting to games.


My hope is that soon he realizes you're trash and drops you ass like a bad habit.

Oh lord, don't do that. Why would you be angry? Disappointed yes, understanding yes. But anger? Your baggage.
I can relate to not wanting to communicate until any anger or disappointment has passed so that I don't say something really bad and hurtful in the moment. 🙂

Honestly you seem more concerned with appearing like a fool than being understanding. I've even fallen asleep while on the phone. So it happens. Have you never messed up and felt bad about it and hoped that the other person would be forgiving? If he was that tired and tried to still come and see you, how would you feel if something had happened to him? At least he called to let you know rather than going mia.

If the roles were reversed how would you feel? Choose your battles wisely. This is just creating problems where there is none, really. But you have a right to your feelings. 😢

I'd say cut him some slack especially as its the first time he's done this in four months. As someone else said already, you're more disappointed and don't want to be taken for a fool which is feuling your predicament and dictating your behaviour.

It can be hard to judge something clearly or know how much tolerance level to apply. Sometimes I've tried to look at that person as if they were a friend as opposed to a partner and I ask myself if I would feel the same if my friend xxx did that? The answer is that I'd probably not be as bothered as I think I am.

It depends on circumstances but on this one is say just don't make it a big deal. If a pattern starts to form then address it then.

My virgo used to fall out on me mid-text message. It got to the point when I knew he fell asleep and would just text good night. He was always frustrated with himself the next morning, but I found it endearing and it only inspired feelings of "I wanna snuggle you." He always had a lot on his mind and on his plate, so all was forgiven.

My advice is to try not to take it personally because it's nothing against you. I've been tired to the point my body shut down all on its own. If anything, this gives you ammo the next time you want to tear the Mickey out of him. My virgo falling asleep became one of our inside jokes.

Lastly: communicate. It's okay your feelings are hurt. Talk to him.

P.S. Gaming sucks. Don't do it. Don't be that person, please.

Posted by Gemini74
My Virguy made early plans with me last night and was a no show until about 10:30pm. He sent me a text saying he fell asleep and called me twice last night when he woke up. I believe he feel asleep since we were up late the night before.

So what's the problem— He fell asleep. It happens. You're dragging it & being dramatic over something really stupid.