What is the most memorable V-day present you got?

This one guy I was completely engrossed with when I was about twenty years old, racked my brain trying to find the best vday gift and I ended up going to the petstore and getting him a damn hamster, Cute red cage to go with it and food and hamster bedding stuff and to see the look in his eyes when I gave it to him I will never forget. He choked on his sandwich when he saw it. It was a cute teddybear hamster I named him chunky for him. (He lived in an apartment at the time and couldnt have a dog or a cat). He was about ten years older than me. Stupidest idea I have ever thought up. Never give a guy a rodent on v day! I still shudder when I think about it.

Don't celebrate this holiday (most for that matter) .. so, I don't have anything for you Marchgirl ...

I liked your damn hamster story though .. I can see why this brilliant idea *sarcasm* for a gift has been plastered in your mind. How could anyone forget that?

🙂

This year I have surprise Martial Arts MMA tickets for my cap.. Hes totally into it. He has never been to an actually fight so I know he is going to drool with sheer excitement. I also made him a card and when he comes over tommorow I have plan to make up a spectacular treasure hunt with clues around my house until he finally comes to the spot where I hid the tickets. Genius!

P I have read a couple of your threads in the past and I see that you are married. You know darnwell that your man can pretty much anticipate your next move. Because you have been with him for so long there is a certain predicitability. I say light his but on fire tommorow and do something you like have never done before. Go buy some hot lil stilettos and fishnets and a tantalizing teddy and knock his little socks off, (when he least expects it).. Tell him you are taking him out blindfold him and take him to an amazing dinner and then pop over to a strip club for a couple coctails and take him home and have his way with him! Manhandle him 😉

He will be your slave forever more and you will be touted as the most amazing goddess in his eyes! What could be better than that? Get creative

lol, never got much for Vday, the X did buy the usual, candy or cards.

lol, my husband would LOVE you for Valentines Day, Marchgirl .. though, your idea sounds tantilizing ... unfortunately, I'm celibate, and I'm afraid something as sexy as that would push him over the edge of no return.

We'd then HAVE to do 'it' ... and that's not apart of our life anylonger.

Sounds like your CapMan is going to have the time of his life with his hott little Ram.

Celibate—??!!! You are only 48? Sorry but that shocks me to hear such tragedy. Do you mind if I ask why? Do you and him (at least) take care of yourself in private? I am TRULY concerned with your immune system hearing this. No sex is not healthy!!

No release is like a walking time bomb just waiting to explode!! Terrible for your physical, emotional and physiological well being. I could never do that. Im hot blooded to the T

Im sorry I dont mean to come off insensitive .. if its some sort of medical condition you could just be extremely gentle with him, have a nice bubble bath with rose petals, wash him and pamper him like King Tut and then go down south (if you know what I mean)

I give everyone the benefit of the doubt. Im always up for spicing up tha sex life. My favorite topic 😉 Fo show!

As do I, marchgirl .... to regard someone is at ones own personal discretion and if there is a problem .. a mature person talks TO the person, not about the person with intentions of swaying perspective.

No, this isn't a medical condition .. it's a choice. You'd be amazed at how wonderful life is without sex. Imagine to bond with a person without this physical contact and you get the person for who they are inside and not any ego-based influences to cloud your judgement.

For instance .. how many times in our life do we think we are madly in love with someone? Would walk to the ends of the earth .... only to find out it was only lust, and you really didn't know the person at all, and maybe didn't even like him once the thrill was gone. That's all on the outside, superficial .. the ego fooled you through physical deception that you were in love, when you really weren't.

It's actually quite a beautiful experience to enjoy a person for who they are inside ... in fact, this year past, I've learned to regard my husband in a very different light. At one time, my moods were bitchy about him, resentful ... but, now, they are morphing/evolving and I'm seeing him from a different perspective because of refraining from sex .. it's really enlightening.

People can think I'm nuts all they want .... the majority of people walk away once the thrill is gone, and have no interest in finding a union based around something that will heal two people back together. Certainly, this time last year, my regard took a different avenue. Life is about evolving, finding new ways to enjoy old things .. and if people are so stuck within a fixed reality that they cannot comprehend growth and actually believe that who people were 5 years ago, are the exact same people today ... then it is them who is need of some kind of balancing .. not me.

I'll admit, as I always do .... it was near the point of just swimming away, or kicking him to the curb ... that was then. To some people they would say see, "Back and forth, happy or sad .. not stable".

When in reality .. life is suppose to be salt & pepper .. we're suppose to experience each emotion as it arises so we know how to feel it. For a person to suggest that to only acknowledge one level of feelings, in my opinion .. is living in a delusional world to where there is nothing to experience except one tone of feeling this life.

"one day salt the next pepper. Nasty & miserable, sweet, caring"

VGM .. in an attempt to make me look bad with this comment .. in reality, the only thing you accomplished is to make yourself look like a robot, for it suggests to express as a person feels the hieghts and lows in life is a fault, which is actually really living with a desire to embrace all depths of a common human condition called: Feelings