Sagittarius/Virgo Stand Off!!!

Okay, it has been 8 days since we spoke after having a confrontation of sorts. He is the Virgo. Should I be the first to call, or do I keep waiting? I don't mind waiting as long as it doesn't send the signal that I am not interested. What should I do?

Why stand off at all?

The impression I get from this thread ... there appears to be more of an importance as to who wins, rather than a desire to be compatible and a wish to discuss whatever the issue is like adults.

I'm really not sure I'm getting this ... when my Virgo and I have words, which every couple does, our aim is to have harmony, so therefore, as soon as the mood has passed ... we talk about what is wrong.

Correct me if I'm wrong ... but, I thought that's what couple were suppose to do when they argue. 🙂

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Yup
to the heavens

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It's irrelevant who initiated the fight, and who initiates the peace-treaty .. what is relevant is that to have a harmonious relationship build around trust and respect, the desire to come to terms has to be present and it doesn't appear to be present.

What does seem to be present is the desire to see who can outlast in whatever game of power is being played .. by both parties, apparantly.

Thanks everyone,

I believe that I am the cause for the conflict but he also is responsible as well.

We are friends, not a couple.

I think I will take your advice and try to make peace. I know from reading about Virgos that if you do not back off and let them settle, they may not be ready to be peaceful and could turn and walk away for good. That is what I am trying to avoid.

Stella

stella: "I think I will take your advice and try to make peace."

Good. Odds are, he's been as upset by all this as you, and he'll appreciate a sincere apology. Afterwards, just watch as he helps smooth things over -- we don't like to stay mad.

My buddy Sal is a Sag. She and her husband (a Cappy) argue and bicker a lot... I would never stand for that... But as a friend, I can take her pointing out my weaknesses, about my riding at least... and still have deep affection for her. As friends we're great, but I doubt, if she were single, that a romance would work for us.

We spoke today. All is well. Thank you all for your support and kindness! Well, most of you anyway.

fumingli_scorp:
>Virgo's are usually not the iniators for peace if they have been insulted.

I'm often slow to realize I've been insulted. Once I think about it a bit, and realize the extent of the insult... depending on what it was about, I'll either have a talk with you about it at best, or cut you off and not speak to you or even acknowledge your presence for a LONG time.

If I'm insulted about my work, and I knew I was giving my all... that is one of the few things that will really piss me off... At best, you'll get a red faced raised voice to tell you a thing or two... at worst, I might never speak to you again.

One friend, first screwed me in a deal, but I let it pass because I valued her friendship. THen later screwed me again, AND insulted my work... and I cut her off completely. That was three years ago and I doubt I'll ever see her again... but if she called to say she was sorry.... and paid me back, LOL... I'd listen.