What Makes a Good Girlfriend Virgo?

Hey there!

I have only been in two relationships in my life both 8 months, so sometimes I feel like I don't know how to be a "girlfriend". (IN YOUR PERSONAL OPINION) What characteritics make up a good girlfriend?

Guys & Girls Opinions both welcome!

Cancerlady

My fave GF..??
Hum?..


SHE WOULD UNDERSTAND "US"?!!
That?s my woman—.!!

ATL Shawty! Jeah!

GREAT ANSWER!

I must say that although I do tend to be a bit self-conscience (I live in Atlanta not in a river in Egypt 🙂 ) and you have SEVERAL excellent points pertaining to me, I didn't really ask the question to specifically get advice on my actions as a girlfriend...It was more to see what other people like to have in a relationship or what things they may do to make their significant other feel more significant. I was just giving a little background on myself as the reasoning behind my question. I should have worded it better to make my intentions clearer.

The only phrase I don't really agree on is

"If you are overly sensitive, and you think your honest partner is the big, bad, wolves because his honesty cuts into you, then maybe you should just relinguish yourself to 2 to 3 months flings with mindless sex and no commitment."

The reason I say this is because TRUST ME 2-3 months of mindless sex does not cure you of your sensitivity! 😛 I am VERY sensitive and instead of trying to change who I am naturally, I have embraced it as a part of my personality. I believe honesty IS the best policy...but I also believe in diplomacy and tact. I tend to stay away from people who can't excercise these traits because I know I am sensitive and sometimes my reaction to things is uncontrollable. (Which is one of the reasons why I have NEVER dated a Virgo and I broke up with my Sag man 😉 )I don't choose which things to get hurt by, they just hurt me. I don't think all of the responsibility to adapt should be placed on the sensitive person...That's unfair because that's like saying that being sensitive is a bad thing, when in actuality it can be both good and bad like all things.

I really appreciate your input...I have a question for you branh0913, which do you think is more important in a relationship, acting with your head or with your heart? Just curious...

Cancerlady

P.S. I think I found the sensitive caring hunk with muscles who is a sexual stallion and has a beautiful smile and he is a **Drum Roll** PISCES!!! The only thing is that his muscles are only average. 😉 He tells me the truth even when I don't want to hear it, but he is so gentle with it that it doesn't sting and I don't have to question whether it is constructive criticism or condescension. That's what works for me though...

Thanks Again!

Ive found that comman in pisces men as well they aien't that big muscle wise.But they make up for it in,uh,other rooms in the house,yohoo.Oh,um,sorry being a perv again.Dammit,think of butterflys and birdies,okay all better now.

Hi Cancerlady.

What makes a good girlfriend lol? Let's take that a step further and say what makes a good friend. After all, friends before "girl or boy" friend yields the best chance of longevity.

It's trust. Granted, you can give a long string of adjectives denoting particular qualities, but in the end there has to be a core of trust. I mean, obviously, attraction and commonality are necessary, but the sternest footing has to be trust. In any relationship, both sides must take vulnerable to a certain extent. Unless those two people want to be strangers, sharing has to take place. Each imparting deeply held aspects of themselves to the other.

First, there has to be a trust those aspects won't be judged absent an attempt at understanding. At the very least not judged because of an inability to understand. Second, there has to be a trust those revealed parts aren't used against them to cause injury. Third, there has to be a trust those aspects, those shared thoughts and experiences aren't revealed. Dimensions of trust can go on forever, but . . .you get the point lol.

There was a close friend I trusted. Probably my closest at the time actually. Knowing trust was a big deal with me. She actually wrote a letter one day, explicitly writing out in a numbered list, "Why you can trust me." It was cute 🙂 Too bad it was bull. When hope took its leave of us, she attached herself to another, and there were indications she pretty much spilled her guts; our experiences, my sharing, and her delusional perceptions of said experiences and sharing. Well, I'm sure the spilling was selective of course lmao. In situations like that you can't share everything 😉 Even before we parted, she got pissed at me and revealed things we talked about to another friend of mine so. . .I guess some of this falls to me. I won't let it happen again with anyone else though. How I was, closed, is better than being open in some respects. Fortunately, being a Mighty Virgo, my ideals prevent me from doing the same LOL!!!

Essentially Sweetheart, trust is what makes a good girlfriend. Hell, a good friend in general. That's constant regardless of sign. I mean, things aren't going to be perfect in any relationship. People are complex, but providing there's this sturdy foundation of trust. Two can communicate. Things can be worked out. Even if working out means parting on good terms. It happens.

Your number of relationships is somewhat moot. I mean, nature happens. That person is going to dig you for you. Providing you be yourself, you're fine. In the end, it's whether or not you do things that get back to the other that speaks of betrayal. Often that's what snuffs those things out. What's wild, sometimes it's one's inherent insecurity that creates a baseless distrust. That's difficult to manage though. It's like, you can only do so much to band aid a person's suspicion. I'm actually guilty of that one myself in friendships. Not the suspicion part, but the need for assurance the other cares. Or that I'm worth something to them. But . . .I'm rambling.

Sorry, pain meds lmao.

Anyway. Good question CancerLady.

Stay sweet.


VirgoSquared

Hey VirgoSquared, Where ya been? I missed you! Thanks for answering....

Also thanks Brahn0913, You remind me of my father...a bit on the logical side 🙂

Cancerlady

Hi CancerLady.

Awwww, you missed me? lol Thank you. That's sweet.

Well, I've been out of comission for a few weeks, but things are fine now. Providing hell doesn't assert itslef again, I should be around.

So. How you been?


VirgoSquared

VSqaured, Yeah of course I missed you! 🙂

I read your article...well two-thirds of it, because I had to get back to work. 😉

It was really good, I could see why they wanted to publish it. I'm going to have to go back & finish reading it.

Me? I am great for right now...My rollercoaster is on a high point. My rent is paid, I have food on my table, and I get regular nookie now. What more could a girl want?

I have a tendency to be nosey...but what put you out of commission? I am glad to hear everything is better!

Cancerlady

Hi Cancerlady 🙂

Don't worry lol. Nosey's fine. I tend to pry myself.

Well, I've told everyone else so. I can't expect it to stay private at this point.

The surgeon had to fix a hole in my small intestines, resect a small piece, and remove appendicts. I only was in for two weeks, so it wasn't that bad. I'm more annoyed it interrupted class.

Anyway. Glad to hear about your turn of good fortune. I wish you all the luck with your new friend.

VirgoSquared

OH NO!

I am glad to hear you are okay! We still have to have the hot steamy affair...You can't get sick on me! What are you in school for?

Cancerlady