What's the best way to show a Virgo you care?

I'm really into a Leo with a Venus in Virgo, she acts more like a Virgo then a Leo sometimes. Anyways what is the best way I can show her I care , what makes you feel cared for? I like Virgo ladies a lot but my Pisces Mercury always leads me down the wrong path when trying to woo a Virgo lady.

I mean Virgo ladies do so much without asking for anything in return, I want her to feel cared for too.

Also I am bad at deciphering Virgo ladies, what are some obvious signs that show you are into someone?

Any advice would be appreciated.

Posted by VirgoR
What caught my attention is your indicating she acts more like a Virgo at times. My reason for asking about the moon is that I was in a relationship with a Leo w/Virgo Venus for several years and I didn't see Virgo traits in her worth mentioning.

Her moon is in Aries. to me she acts very Virgo like around me.

I'd want him to ask me how I am, be a good listener, sort of draw me out and allow me to express my feelings because a lot of times that gets lost in the day to day being a Virgo maintaining a cool demeanor. I'd want him to notice things that I may need help on and offer to assist.. Or knowing I love something and getting that for me as a surprise. Stuff like that.

I have Leos in three planets so I am sometimes mistaken for a Leo.

Set up a romantic date, be warm and affectionate and tender....etc. my Venus is in Leo.

Posted by Virgospirit
Set up a romantic date, be warm and affectionate and tender....etc. my Venus is in Leo.

Alright well thank you very much I appreciate it.

Posted by FieryAries9108

Posted by Virgospirit
Set up a romantic date, be warm and affectionate and tender....etc. my Venus is in Leo.

Alright well thank you very much I appreciate it.

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I appreciate your advice***

Venus in Virgo is the most difficult to please. They can be critical to the point of exasperation. If you are an Aries, then this is specially true for you.

"Pleasing Venus in Virgo involves showing you appreciate them for all the little things they do -- and they do a lot. The problem is, they do these things so quietly that you may not always notice or credit them for all these kind gestures. They do need some space (after all, they're generally quite busy making everything work), so give it to them. Be genuine, not ostentatious. They are really not difficult to please after you have taken care of these basic needs. Avoid pushing your friends or family on them too fast -- remember they are a little shy. They aim to please, and are easily intimidated by your experiences. Let them know how much you value them, and they will reward you with devotion and a charming willingness to talk things out."

http://www.cafeastrology.com/natal/venusinsigns.html<BR>
One question. Where's her Moon?

Posted by BlueSandCacoon
Venus in Virgo is the most difficult to please. They can be critical to the point of exasperation. If you are an Aries, then this is specially true for you.

"Pleasing Venus in Virgo involves showing you appreciate them for all the little things they do -- and they do a lot. The problem is, they do these things so quietly that you may not always notice or credit them for all these kind gestures. They do need some space (after all, they're generally quite busy making everything work), so give it to them. Be genuine, not ostentatious. They are really not difficult to please after you have taken care of these basic needs. Avoid pushing your friends or family on them too fast -- remember they are a little shy. They aim to please, and are easily intimidated by your experiences. Let them know how much you value them, and they will reward you with devotion and a charming willingness to talk things out."

http://www.cafeastrology.com/natal/venusinsigns.html<BR>
One question. Where's her Moon?

her moon is in Aries, and her Virgo traits don't bother me, it's just they confuse me though I do have a Taurus in venus and I am an Aries sun (2nd decan "the leo decan") and moon

Hmmm, this one may be a little tricky then.

"Moon in Aries men and women are prone to have plenty of crushes and other short-lived yet intense desires. "Needs" and "wants" are indistinguishable to Lunar Ariens at any given time. In their minds, what they want is so powerful that it becomes an absolute need."

"Others will appreciate that people with Moon in Aries rarely sulk or play any drawn-out games of manipulation. You can pretty much know what they want at any given time."

http://www.cafeastrology.com/articles/mooninsigns.html<BR>
Maybe this is what's confusing you. You must have this in mind: her needs =/= what pleases her

Focus on pleasing wooeing her first (Venus in Virgo). If things get more serious, then you should start paying attention to her needs (Moon in Aries).

Posted by BlueSandCacoon
Hmmm, this one may be a little tricky then.

"Moon in Aries men and women are prone to have plenty of crushes and other short-lived yet intense desires. "Needs" and "wants" are indistinguishable to Lunar Ariens at any given time. In their minds, what they want is so powerful that it becomes an absolute need."

"Others will appreciate that people with Moon in Aries rarely sulk or play any drawn-out games of manipulation. You can pretty much know what they want at any given time."

http://www.cafeastrology.com/articles/mooninsigns.html<BR>
Maybe this is what's confusing you. You must have this in mind: her needs =/= what pleases her

Focus on pleasing wooeing her first (Venus in Virgo). If things get more serious, then you should start paying attention to her needs (Moon in Aries).

Alright thank you that was really good advice.

I would say that to show a Virgo that you understand and care above all you must show that you love us when we are at our most unlovable, i.e. when we are going into critical overdrive. This Virgo criticism thing is a sign of anxiety and insecurity so it is at these times that we most need understanding and reassurance (and are least likely to get it).

start by treating her like a leeeeoooooo 😉

Posted by FieryAries9108

Posted by VirgoR
What caught my attention is your indicating she acts more like a Virgo at times. My reason for asking about the moon is that I was in a relationship with a Leo w/Virgo Venus for several years and I didn't see Virgo traits in her worth mentioning.

Her moon is in Aries. to me she acts very Virgo like around me.

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Leo sun with cancer in mercury, this is what makes us act shy and quiet around those we like, as I've told you already. Don't mistake this for her needing to be treated like a virgal.

Posted by celticlioness

Posted by FieryAries9108

Posted by VirgoR
What caught my attention is your indicating she acts more like a Virgo at times. My reason for asking about the moon is that I was in a relationship with a Leo w/Virgo Venus for several years and I didn't see Virgo traits in her worth mentioning.

Her moon is in Aries. to me she acts very Virgo like around me.

Leo sun with cancer in mercury, this is what makes us act shy and quiet around those we like, as I've told you already. Don't mistake this for her needing to be treated like a virgal.

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Your right but she does act Virgo-y sometimes.

Posted by VirgoR
@Fiery

You are in excellent hands with Celtic.....

One can certainly, without question, attest to her being a pure Lioness. She is the epitome of true visual features of a Leo Lady. Slightly sunken eyes, just a small turn up at the end of the nose and the lower lip protruding more than the upper. My my....remove the Avi.....lol 😉

*exits quickly*

Wait Celtic is a Leo? I was wondering what sign she is,

I am a Virgo..and I have all the traits of virgo, I am simple do things that way.......But I Don't mind to have a rocking love life, So don't think too much and limit your Romantic Ideas....Ofcorse don't do something very unexpected just inform her you taking out on a perticular day , don let her know know where and what you gonna do......Just surprise her ,Make that most memorable day lots of flowers , kisses,and finally a Romantic dinner.....Don shy off even to sing for her if necessary......we virgos are have a routine and its great if somebody gets us out of there for a moment.........

Posted by VirgoR
@Fiery

You are in excellent hands with Celtic.....

One can certainly, without question, attest to her being a pure Lioness. She is the epitome of true visual features of a Leo Lady. Slightly sunken eyes, just a small turn up at the end of the nose and the lower lip protruding more than the upper. My my....remove the Avi.....lol 😉

*exits quickly*

Lol, get back in here and explain yourself 😉

You ask this question as if it's an act to do.


Care cannot be contrived ... to care is sincere .. to plan a way to care is an act

**What's the best way to show a Virgo you care?**

Compliment them on something that only they noticed but others didn't. Virgos have a knack for noticing some of the most minute details. They sometimes get a bad rep for that but if you compliment them for it, they appreciate it a lot. Virgos, in general, tend to cheat or betray their SO a lot less than some of the other signs. Good folks.

**I mean Virgo ladies do so much without asking for anything in return, I want her to feel cared for too**

Yup, they can have the whole martyr, unsung hero thing going (them earth folks are all alike..). So you must notice it when they do something for you & appreciate them for it. Virgos can be extremely loyal if you treat them right.

Posted by BeoWulf

**What's the best way to show a Virgo you care?**

Compliment them on something that only they noticed but others didn't. Virgos have a knack for noticing some of the most minute details. They sometimes get a bad rep for that but if you compliment them for it, they appreciate it a lot. Virgos, in general, tend to cheat or betray their SO a lot less than some of the other signs. Good folks.

**I mean Virgo ladies do so much without asking for anything in return, I want her to feel cared for too**

Yup, they can have the whole martyr, unsung hero thing going (them earth folks are all alike..). So you must notice it when they do something for you & appreciate them for it. Virgos can be extremely loyal if you treat them right.

The problem with this is, she's not a virgo. None of the above would apply to a leo woman 🙂

Posted by celticlioness

The problem with this is, she's not a virgo. None of the above would apply to a leo woman 🙂

Whaa...? Whoops, my bad. Ignore my post above please.

Hi! I am a Leo with my Venus in Virgo and my Moon in Aquarius.

I have to say HANDS DOWN I am a Leo in life and a Virgo with my lover. I honestly see the moon Aquarius as some emotional ideal, some hazy thing that I don't know how much directly impacts my relationship with my BF. In fact, I just posted on a thread last night about feeling so insecure in my relationship because of the Venus in Virgo other than being able to relate to his moon in Sagittarius.

I am with a Virgo guy now and I wish he was posting on a thread asking what he could do for me! The fact that you care is already huge points in my book. Honestly my BF has to do very little -- but he has to be consistent. AND I agree with the last post too -- I get super critical, I don't feel good enough and I get worried often. Reassurance is HUGE for me.

One thing you should know: if she is ANYTHING like me she is analyzing your relationship constantly. Always thinking about what can make it better, how it can grow, how to create more love between you two. I will go above and beyond for my boyfriend and he has been extremely appreciative... until recently I feel he is starting to take advantage of my kindness and I am not sure how to approach him about it. So I have the opposite problem.

It takes very very little, just be THOUGHTFUL. Which obviously you are for caring enough to get a bunch of people's advice on by posting on here!! Just appreciate her, do small things back for her when you can -- but if she's anything like me -- I really feel more comfortable giving than getting all the time. But every once in a while I like some small simple flowers (something earthy) or a little note or really awesome eye contact or or or ....simple things -- but genuine things!!

Posted by virgodog58
I would say that to show a Virgo that you understand and care above all you must show that you love us when we are at our most unlovable, i.e. when we are going into critical overdrive. This Virgo criticism thing is a sign of anxiety and insecurity so it is at these times that we most need understanding and reassurance (and are least likely to get it).

Oh that was the post I was referring to about being there for her when she is being overly-critical of herself. She may not even say anything -- but if you notice her mood shift or her confidence decline I would remind her how you feel about her.

Also... I do kind of agree with the other poster who said treat her like a Leo -- could never hurt to also surprise her with a big bouquet of flowers. Or a romantic candlelit dinner. But, if she's anything like me -- she doesn't NEED those things and may find them a bit excessive if used often. I truly do prefer genuine small more frequent gestures.

Posted by moondream
Hi! I am a Leo with my Venus in Virgo and my Moon in Aquarius.

I have to say HANDS DOWN I am a Leo in life and a Virgo with my lover. I honestly see the moon Aquarius as some emotional ideal, some hazy thing that I don't know how much directly impacts my relationship with my BF. In fact, I just posted on a thread last night about feeling so insecure in my relationship because of the Venus in Virgo other than being able to relate to his moon in Sagittarius.

I am with a Virgo guy now and I wish he was posting on a thread asking what he could do for me! The fact that you care is already huge points in my book. Honestly my BF has to do very little -- but he has to be consistent. AND I agree with the last post too -- I get super critical, I don't feel good enough and I get worried often. Reassurance is HUGE for me.

One thing you should know: if she is ANYTHING like me she is analyzing your relationship constantly. Always thinking about what can make it better, how it can grow, how to create more love between you two. I will go above and beyond for my boyfriend and he has been extremely appreciative... until recently I feel he is starting to take advantage of my kindness and I am not sure how to approach him about it. So I have the opposite problem.

It takes very very little, just be THOUGHTFUL. Which obviously you are for caring enough to get a bunch of people's advice on by posting on here!! Just appreciate her, do small things back for her when you can -- but if she's anything like me -- I really feel more comfortable giving than getting all the time. But every once in a while I like some small simple flowers (something earthy) or a little note or really awesome eye contact or or or ....simple things -- but genuine things!!

Thank you for taking the time to write such insightful advice and thank you for the compliment, Also may I just say if you are starting to continually feel used/taken advantage of, just tell your boyfriend straight up it is best to be honest, may I ask his sun sign?


I also wanted to thank everyone for the advice, I know I should treat her like the Leo lady she is but I also wanted advice on how to treat a Virgo, because like moondream has stated/and based on my thoughts, the Leo lady I like needs to somewhat be treated like a Virgo too, because that is her venus placement and because she does act very Virgo like in

(continued from last post) some situations, for example she loves conversation and has told me many times that if she doesn't have that mental connection with a guy than it's a turn off for her and she does so many favors for me and is just very observant of me and all I do which is nice, that's why I started this thread in the first place, I really like virgo women, I just wanted advice for future references and now, so I can be a better suitor for Virgo women/Women with Virgo placements.

Posted by FieryAries9108
I'm really into a Leo with a Venus in Virgo, she acts more like a Virgo then a Leo sometimes. Anyways what is the best way I can show her I care , what makes you feel cared for? I like Virgo ladies a lot but my Pisces Mercury always leads me down the wrong path when trying to woo a Virgo lady.

I mean Virgo ladies do so much without asking for anything in return, I want her to feel cared for too.

Also I am bad at deciphering Virgo ladies, what are some obvious signs that show you are into someone?

3 little words....
















Turn. Her. Out.

😉

Posted by FieryAries9108
I'm really into a Leo with a Venus in Virgo, she acts more like a Virgo then a Leo sometimes. Anyways what is the best way I can show her I care , what makes you feel cared for? I like Virgo ladies a lot but my Pisces Mercury always leads me down the wrong path when trying to woo a Virgo lady.

I mean Virgo ladies do so much without asking for anything in return, I want her to feel cared for too.

Also I am bad at deciphering Virgo ladies, what are some obvious signs that show you are into someone?

Personally...It's hard for me to really like a guy until I can be myself around him, and he has to make me feel like I can do that before I can. So make her feel comfortable...And you said you wanted her to feel cared for. PERFECT. However, just don't go overboard...I have a friend who's a cancer who has liked me for a really long time, and whenever he says stuff like "ARE YOU OKAY?" "I'LL BUY THIS FOR YOU" "NO I'M PAYING FOR IT" "SORRY! SORRY! ARE YOU OKAY?" it's a major turn off...Don't go overboard while trying to make her feel special or cared for, just act normal to her, and be yourself. The best kind of love is natural.

Posted by FieryAries9108


Thank you for taking the time to write such insightful advice and thank you for the compliment, Also may I just say if you are starting to continually feel used/taken advantage of, just tell your boyfriend straight up it is best to be honest, may I ask his sun sign?


I also wanted to thank everyone for the advice, I know I should treat her like the Leo lady she is but I also wanted advice on how to treat a Virgo, because like moondream has stated/and based on my thoughts, the Leo lady I like needs to somewhat be treated like a Virgo too, because that is her venus placement and because she does act very Virgo like in

"There are only three things women need in life: food, water, and compliments.?? -- Chris Rock

That's super funny; but also definitely something to keep in mind with your Leo/Venus Virgal!! I think being appreciated is a big Virgo thing and getting attention is a Leo thing. Again, not over the top -- but consistently. And not even so super often that it's annoying and needy. But you don't sound like that type. So you are Aries with your Venus/Moon where? Curious if either Venus or Moon is in Virgo since you are attracted to that type?

My Virgo boyfriend's Venus is in Libra / Moon in Sagittarius. Which worries me b/c Venus in LIbra is looking for an "ideal" partner and Moon in Sag doesn't want to be tied down! His sun sign is Virgo and they need plenty of space! Ha. I know how to pick em. But like you Fiery, I love Virgo. And I love my Virgo. I just need to feel certain that he feels the same for me. And he acts like he is -- but there are subtle little things that make me wonder. I KNOW he loves me. But, does he just love me for right now or does he see this as a real deal. I can't stand to invest in someone for 2-3 years just for it to end. I ONLY do forever. But somehow I can't have a conversation about money with him. It will make things too conscious and awkward. I decided to just pull back to a 50/50 type thing. I will pay half of everything and that's that. He'll get it eventually. He'll even know I am testing him because he's psychic like that. Maybe that's the Virgo in him. Actions speak much louder than words and I know the best way to communicate to him is through action sometimes.

Oh yeah; and I also agree with Peanut Butter's 3 little words 😉

Posted by moondream
Oh yeah; and I also agree with Peanut Butter's 3 little words 😉

I have a Moon in Aries and a Venus in Taurus

Thank you for all of your advice, and I wish you the best luck with your boyfriend, I'm sure everything will work out, if things get too frustrating though, you should maybe consider just saying how you feel bluntly sometimes people with Libra placements need to hear the truth clearly and his Sagittarius moon should understand that.

and what does put her out mean?

Posted by FieryAries9108

and what does put her out mean?

Actually it's: turn her out. And... well, let's just hope you are already doing it!!
Just make sure she leaves the bedroom weak in the knees every so often. 😉

Wow -- yeah -- so hard to talk about money though. I feel like it is too awkward. I do try and talk to him about my feelings of insecurity. I just think he thinks I am too emotional and that he will think I am too much work if I am always talking about "feelings". He is always talking about big ideas. And I would love to do that too -- but until I am certain we are on the same page and in this for the super long-haul then I will be distracted by analyzing his intentions. Sick, I know. I really wish I could make it stop.

Oh, I did decide today though that instead of pouring my need tot give into him all the time I would volunteer with a mentoring program or food bank or something. If I want to give, better to give to those that need and also keep myself occupied with other things than just sitting around analyzing the shit out of my relationship.

Posted by FieryAries9108
(continued from last post) some situations, for example she loves conversation and has told me many times that if she doesn't have that mental connection with a guy than it's a turn off for her and she does so many favors for me and is just very observant of me and all I do which is nice, that's why I started this thread in the first place, I really like virgo women, I just wanted advice for future references and now, so I can be a better suitor for Virgo women/Women with Virgo placements.

And why do you think this is a virgal trait and not associated with Leo ladies, we most definetly do need the mental connection and are very observant of our loved ones!

I do Hope you do well with her, you're an Aries, she's a Leo, there really isn't much more you have to do as it will all flow naturally with the two of you from that point onwards - just be yourself and respond to her instinctively, be your wonderful sporty Aries self and she will be impressed, don't try to supress this in an attempt to impress too much on a sun sign level (especially one she is not) - believe me, I have many Aries men in my life on every level and it just clicks and in particular on an intellectual lever - reason for this Leo understands Aries, Aries understand Leo.Ddon't think too much about it just do it. Begin the adventure with her (and mind now, it is an adventure, don't bore her with too much flowers and chocolates - but if you do, make sure its a big bouquet and rare chocolates from France. We Leo's need excitement, adventure, spontanaeity and doing things outside the normal).

What's the best way to show a Virgo you care?

IDK, maybe shoot them in the head to put 'em out of their misery??

Posted by celticlioness

Posted by FieryAries9108
(continued from last post) some situations, for example she loves conversation and has told me many times that if she doesn't have that mental connection with a guy than it's a turn off for her and she does so many favors for me and is just very observant of me and all I do which is nice, that's why I started this thread in the first place, I really like virgo women, I just wanted advice for future references and now, so I can be a better suitor for Virgo women/Women with Virgo placements.

And why do you think this is a virgal trait and not associated with Leo ladies, we most definetly do need the mental connection and are very observant of our loved ones!

I do Hope you do well with her, you're an Aries, she's a Leo, there really isn't much more you have to do as it will all flow naturally with the two of you from that point onwards - just be yourself and respond to her instinctively, be your wonderful sporty Aries self and she will be impressed, don't try to supress this in an attempt to impress too much on a sun sign level (especially one she is not) - believe me, I have many Aries men in my life on every level and it just clicks and in particular on an intellectual lever - reason for this Leo understands Aries, Aries understand Leo.Ddon't think too much about it just do it. Begin the adventure with her (and mind now, it is an adventure, don't bore her with too much flowers and chocolates - but if you do, make sure its a big bouquet and rare chocolates from France. We Leo's need excitement, adventure, spontanaeity and doing things outside the normal).

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I promise I will take care of her correctly and thank you for your advice you have been extremely helpful.

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Posted by FieryAries9108
I'm really into a Leo with a Venus in Virgo, she acts more like a Virgo then a Leo sometimes. Anyways what is the best way I can show her I care , what makes you feel cared for? I like Virgo ladies a lot but my Pisces Mercury always leads me down the wrong path when trying to woo a Virgo lady.

I mean Virgo ladies do so much without asking for anything in return, I want her to feel cared for too.

Also I am bad at deciphering Virgo ladies, what are some obvious signs that show you are into someone?

Personally...It's hard for me to really like a guy until I can be myself around him, and he has to make me feel like I can do that before I can. So make her feel comfortable...And you said you wanted her to feel cared for. PERFECT. However, just don't go overboard...I have a friend who's a cancer who has liked me for a really long time, and whenever he says stuff like "ARE YOU OKAY?" "I'LL BUY THIS FOR YOU" "NO I'M PAYING FOR IT" "SORRY! SORRY! ARE YOU OKAY?" it's a major turn off...Don't go overboard while trying to make her feel special or cared for, just act normal to her, and be yourself. The best kind of love is natural.

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I'm not the type to go overboard/smother and thank you for your advice, we already have that natural fire sign connection.

@moondream There is nothing wrong with making sure you know the person you are getting into a long term relationship with, and that's a good idea about the volunteer work, good luck with everything and thank you for your advice/help

Posted by RomancingA
Mmmm well if you are under age or celibate then don't pay attention to what I have to say....


Virgo's like sex, good sex...not weekday sex but like weekend sex and he just got back from a two month trip overseas for work and ya'll are both animals.

Clean his house...and clean it good. There shouldn't be tons to do anyhow but he will appreciate it tons. Clean everything, do laundry, tidy everything, clean all surfaces and dust. Organize his games and dvd's. Do not organize his office lol...just clean the floors and surfaces.

Make food. Don't just make anything. Make something good and be sure to use the slow cooker. They love anything that's in a slow cooker, don't know why. It is pretty good but they'll practically marry you if you use a slow cooker and they come home to a clean house.

Before they get home be sure to take a shower, ya notice how you get dirty as you clean. Well make sure you are nice and clean and you showered, applied lotion, minimal makeup, clean clothes and tidy appearance, pay attention to your hair and nails.



Lastly....act like you didn't just break your back the whole day and put on a chick tv show before he comes in. Give the appearance that you didn't just break your ass mopping the floors.



OR


Just give him some cookie when he comes home. Cook veggies and pasta, make tea and watch his favorite shows or play video games with him.

I am not underage and also I am a guy trying to win over a Leo lady with a Virgo in Venus not a girl trying to win over a Virgo male......