Why virgos hide their feelings

I'll tell you why.Ever heard of the phrase: "once bitten, twice shy"? That saying rings true for us virgos.'Cause once we're bitten by love, it's hard to open your heart to another because you're afraid to be heartbroken again.We tend to be surperficial at times , i'll admit that.But at least we're trying to avoid burdening people with our frustrations.

Virgos want to behave properly.It takes a lot of self-control or repression.
We prorably spend too much time to observe what happen around us and think how we "should" act.Therefore, we are slow to show our feelings. We are not intended to hide our feelings. We just need sometime ...people consider it long time though, to be close to people.

I am a Virgo and so is my father. Since young, I suffered from his emotionlessness....two Virgos together might not be a good new. It gave me a chance to see myself from my father's behaviours. Virgos are not confident about love. Being emotional is scary to us since we are programmed to be rational and logical. However, I realized that it would hurt people I love if I keep my feelings to myself no matter happiness or sadness. I had a hard time learning to be emotionally expressive. And I am still try.

My ex boyfriends was a cancer. He showed me how deep love could be. My sisters, twin pisces, show me how gentle and subtle love could be. In turn, I show them how to be strong in times of trouble.

We all learn something from others if we are willing to open our hearts and respect the differences between individuals. Hope it helps.

Esther

Oh...one more thing ...Virgos deep down are sensitive and fraigle. Once get hurt, we remember for a long time. Well, we just keep it to ourselves because we don't want to burden anyone.

I'm a virgo and i totally agree that we find it hard to show our true feelings..the burden part is true we are so used to acting independantly that we can't let others do our worrying, and so we close the door and keep it all bottled up inside..sometimes we look so happy to everyone outside be we are feeling so much pain inside..we are not people who want to put our problems on others..also i want to add that we like straight communication and when people beat around the bush we hate it..thus causing the not so nice critical side to come out..but mostly we are peaceful and patient with others.

205,251- you hit the nail staight on the head of Virgo. Kudo's!

totally agree with all of you.after all , i'm a virgo since '81

Virgos are a lot like Scorpios - they have difficulty trusting people because of past experiences.

205.251 I DEFINITELY AGREE WITH YOU. It's almost like you know me.I hate for people to beat around the bush,what happen to honesty.You only left out one part,and that's how helpful we are. I think we hold things in because we feel like we are helping others when we keep our problems to ourselves and what others take as criticizing, we take as giving good advice. I believe even while being critical we tend to sugarcoat, still not truly revealing our feelings.

yes 216..we are helpful what i really hate is when you are trying to do something right to help someone and they can't see it...it frustrates me alot..first we have to look at problems and try and cope with them ourselves before involving others that would be a last resort..thats our right to do that..why burden others..isn't it just like someone to say they are always burdening me or something and when you try to deal with problems they get contrary..oh well thats it for now

205.251 I see that you feel like it's our right to keep our problems to ourselves, I feel like it's our duty. The worst thing you can have happen is to confide in someone who doesn't understand or just don't care. Good advice from yourself is better than bad advice from someone else.Most of the time we know what we need to do without anyone else's help anyway.Last resort, been there too,confided,disappointed. The cup may appear full but there's always room for one more drop. Other people's disappointment teaches you to be strong,weakness leads to disappointment. Now I think this can be broken if you find not only a person who listens but understands you.
holla back youngin,
sign R.C

I have been reading all you all comments about Virgo. I am in Love with this virgo
and I see all the things you all are talking about. Am a taurus, I think he care about me I don't know if
he love me. I don't think he knows I am In Love with him, and I don't think am going
to tell him because if he feel the same he won't tell me he will just keep it to his self.
I have made up my mind by just keeping it to myself, I have'not talked to him but one
time this year. The more I use to talk tooo him the more I wanted to tell him,
but I had to stop. I feel if I tell him I would get this silient emotion and I can not deal
with that. Now am feeling if I just stop calling and senting cards his feeling would be hurt.
I don't want to hurt him and I don't want to feel hurt myself.

From one Virgo, Tauruses tend to be a bit blunt so you may wanna watch yourself .'Cause if you don't then he is most likely to push your away.Despite all that, try to catch him at a silent moment 'cause that when virgos tend to be at their best when they are alone.Don't act sarcastic, don't say any harsh words because he will act defensive if you do and you don't want that.But most of all try to make him look on the brightside of things.Don't give him the repercussions of your relationship with him .Because if you do then your relationship with him would go down the drain.

64.192 I think that you need to sit back and truly review the situation. First of all,is he currently involved with someone. If this man is single, just go for it. One other thing,and I may be wrong ,but, I sense you are young. What is the age difference between you and this guy. What makes him so special.Why do you send him cards and things such as that, does he live far away? Does he reply to your calls or cards or are you just watering a dead tree. This guy really just doesn't seem to respond to you. Did you do something to upset him? I know I ask a lot of questions but you know us virgos we nit pick.last thing,are you 5'5 130 with a body out of this world or are you 5'5 219 with a stomach that should replace your butt. No offense biggens.

Of course there is a difference between a male Virgo and a female Virgo. I'm not surprised that your father was emotionless and not very affectionate. I'm glad you met a great Cancer man who showed you that it was okay to have strong emotional feelings. That coupled with the sensitivity of the twin Pisces was (maybe) a way for God to show you that loving deeply is not a sin or a reason that you should hold on to being stand offish with others. Just thinkin'. I'm a Virgo female and my Older brother is also a Virgo. We see life so differently yet similar in conversation. I love openly and he loves from within but isnt as outwardly expressive because he holds everything inside. I see inside of him but pulling it out in the open is like "pulling teeth".

I'll tell you why.Ever heard of the phrase: "once bitten, twice shy"? That saying rings true for us virgos.'Cause once we're bitten by love, it's hard to open your heart to another because you're afraid to be heartbroken again.We tend to be superficial at times , i'll admit that.But at least we're trying to avoid burdening people with our frustrations.That's when we tend to shy away from people and have time to ourselves.

I can understand "some" of this, but I don't know why they push really good people out of their lives sometimes. I am cancer), and miss my virgo friend, but he sabotaged our relationship.

I totally agree with you Andrew. You gave him your heart and all of your trust, and there is no excuse for him to ruin the trust you once had for him. He knew he could trust you, but he chose to hurt you.

The way I look at it is if I feel like the person I would be with was always honest with me and I I felt like I could trust him, I would open up completely to him. There is no reason for somebody to NEVER share their emotions with somebody they are loved by and vise-versa. I just cannot accept that.

For good reason...

We all love the people that we love. The pain comes when the people that we love...They don't love us in return. My family, is the family that loves with no return. We love unconditionally, without being loved in return. Sounds funny? It isnt. However, it is all about Karma anyway. To love and not retain love is not our fault.... yet, simply an injustice. Ooops...

Wow you guys sound like a bunch of scorpios. What I found particularly cool was ur use of the word unconditional. All or nothing....... Thats what its all about

This is to the Virgo at the top of these posts. The one who feels that its best not to burden people with their frustrations. I got news for you thats called sharing. If someone loves you they love all of you , not just the pretty parts. Its called unconditionally. Dont be afraid to share, if the love is true, they will listen to anything you have to say
no matter how much it frustrates you. They might even have a different take on the problem which could allow you to resolve it..................

i disagree 64.12 because you say they will listen ..don't think so some signs are so stubborn and no matter what you try to tell them about what you fell they refuse to listen and then they think you are wrong and they are right..so wheres the unconditional love there? tell me..

I am a cancer who dated a virgo for 1 year. very difficult. Although I have virgo friends that are wonderful. I am a cancer male. I do love unconditionally - however - when I am being played, or if someone betrays my trust - and then "honest" with me AFTER the damage has been done, I will still will love them, but will remove myself from them to find a more honest, and trustworthy partner, leaving the other behind.

but don't you see my point..virgos are honest but playing people not likely .but i agree when honesty is betrayed then its hard to trust that person again..but what about if a partner misread you and you were wrongfully accused of doing something you didn't do and they were jealous and possessive and don't reason or listen to you..then what!.

My virgo boyfriend came right out and told me (over the phone), that he had met someone else - told me everything but "I slept with him". He was very callous in breaking up with me because of this other guy. I don't want this or need this in my life - caught my honest "virgo" in a few lies. I don't know - I just don't need or want this.
There are other's out there who will appreciate and respect my love.