Yet Another Sex Question re: Virgo Men

Hey ya'll. Quick question. Are Virgo men ever not in the mood? The last few times virguy and i have seen each other, he has not initiated sex. Before he was alll over me. Recently, it has been me intiating it. Is this typical? I was thinknig about asking him about it but I do not want to make it a big deal. Also, the last time we had sex we really did not kiss. Hmm. Please share you thoughts, suggestions and past experiences.

Thanks!

Posted by Shaks
Whats his Mars sign?

And venus?

I have no idea. Lol. Don't I need to know what time he was born to get that info?

Shaks - i will look into finding his mars and venus signs.

Okay I got it. I found mine and his.

Him:
Sun Sign: Virgo
Venus Sign: Virgo
Mars Sign: Cancer

Me:
Sun Sign: Scorpio
Venus: Sagittarius (would have never gussed this...what does this mean??)
Mars Sign: Virgo

"Just my 2cents.......I think this falls in line with the "push/pull" thing where he wants to make sure it's not just about him wanting you. I think he wants to see you be the aggressor occasionally....although some teasing on your part my flip him back ."

Maybe you are right. When I see him this weekend, I will try some teasing tricks on him. Lol.

Strings, what do mean "challenge"? In what way?

Posted by StringsAttached
Y'all are so funny. LOL. Virgo in Venus is a real challenge when the Sun is there too! Double Trouble! 😉

So u saying im trouble huh lol i have venus and sun pluss mars and mercury in virgo lol..

Posted by natural25
Strings, what do mean "challenge"? In what way?

It means that you need to be super clean before you get down and dirty with him. 😄


Thank god, I got my Venus in LEO. 😄

Lol. Clean as far as hygeiene? I am very clean as far as that goes. My house is also always clean...at least whenever he comes over. Lol.

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Posted by StringsAttached
Y'all are so funny. LOL. Virgo in Venus is a real challenge when the Sun is there too! Double Trouble! 😉

So u saying im trouble huh lol i have venus and sun pluss mars and mercury in virgo lol..

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Damn. You got a lot of Virgo's in chart.

I only got 3 Virgo's in my chart.

SUN
MERCURY
MARS

I guess i'm pretty balanced. lol

I got LEO's on my Moon and Venus.

No1, thanks for the advice! I asked him. He said that he has been purposely refraining bc he does not want our relationship to be all about sex. We had sex fairly early in the relationship. He said the it has been hard but he has been trying to hold back bc he wants for us to have a strong foundation that goes beyond sex.

Oh reading here is scary to me, Virgo and I text back and forth recently, I had to protect me......meeting another for lunch tomorrow, which is why i was here, my oh my, i might need to really think this one through.......scary what I went through and still feel for Virg. I still think of him everyday, it was so hard to say no.

Perfect, I am not sure I understand you?

Hikoro, I was not really borthered by not having sex or having to initiate sex b/c I'm a horn dog. Lol. I just wondered why he stopped intiating it....is it that he is stressed, losing interest in me sexually, etc. Yesterday when we talked about it, I told him that I agreed with him and (of course) want more than a sexual relationship with him and that it is a agood idea to take a step back and build a foundation that does not include sex. So it's all good now. 🙂

But it was so funny b/c he told me how much he holds back and how he tells himself "just be cool". Lol. Aww...he's so cute!

Posted by natural25
Perfect, I am not sure I understand you?

Hikoro, I was not really borthered by not having sex or having to initiate sex b/c I'm a horn dog. Lol. I just wondered why he stopped intiating it....is it that he is stressed, losing interest in me sexually, etc. Yesterday when we talked about it, I told him that I agreed with him and (of course) want more than a sexual relationship with him and that it is a agood idea to take a step back and build a foundation that does not include sex. So it's all good now. 🙂

But it was so funny b/c he told me how much he holds back and how he tells himself "just be cool". Lol. Aww...he's so cute!

Do not take my own fears to heart, I was expressing here, sorry.
I have a lunch date today w/new Virgo, the last, well, he still has my heart. He never had a prob. initiating sex, he just did not do it often enough. I like others, got the push/pull and then I got it ALL. He (the first VIRGUY) actually told me that there is more than sex that sustains us, he called me his confidant, friends and on occasion lover. Now if you ask me, his actions were those of a Don Juan type. He was confusing to me in many ways, yet, "I got him" as he also expressed to me. I am glad to hear things are good w/you and yours Natural and Hikoro, that man honestly still holds the very meaning of LOVE for me, TRUE LOVE that has not died, yet I continue to try an kill it, forget him, etc........

Posted by hikoro
Ok..... I once dated a venus in Virgo and I can relate to what you say, Natural. Judging from my experience, when it comes to sex and from a Scorpio point of view, venus in virgo is not as sexual as a Scorpio or at least, they do not rely on sex as a Scorpio does. Whereas he would not feel in the mood if something else was bothering him, I was ready for sex regardless of my mental state. And I told him that for me, sex was an art form, a release, creating??_. He found me as being too sex-oriented, as if that was the only thing I cared for. The pro was that he adored being of service. He spoiled me rotten and treated me like a queen??_.but then, this came to a point where he would charge me for all of the things he had done for me. As a matter of fact, he acted as being accepting at the beginning and then, he started exposing the worst qualities of the typical Virgo. He became extremely critical, nagging, neat/clean-freak, ocdish??_.a control-freak. Oh, and he was a Libra. Funny that the Virgo I am dating who happens to have Virgo sun, moon and mercury is not like that at all. Well, he can be critical and a perfectionist but for the most part, he is very laidback and accepting. Well, no issues when it comes to sex with this one. He has venus in leo . 🙂 He is as horny as I am.

Well its not his venus bc i have it to in fact i can't find any one to keep up.. u have to look at his mars sign.. fire mars like leo are real sexual.. the most is aries but i have mars in virgo but its conj my sun so its like having a fire mars for me.

Posted by natural25
No1, thanks for the advice! I asked him. He said that he has been purposely refraining bc he does not want our relationship to be all about sex. We had sex fairly early in the relationship. He said the it has been hard but he has been trying to hold back bc he wants for us to have a strong foundation that goes beyond sex.

I can relate. Me and virguy kept a sort of friendship for a lonnnnng
time before we actually had sex. It was a friendship on my end but
he always made it clear that he wanted more.
We had only held hands on two occasions and only because I needed
help hiking up a steep hill and another occassion to climb atop
a rock at the beach.

Fast Forward. I push virgo aside to not keep hurting him.
He waits a while. He gets a gf. Rainingpeanuts gets jealous.
RP emails virgos gf. Virgo sees hope. Virgo starts pursuing RP again.
RP says ok only as friends. RP and virgo sleep together.
Virgo dumps gf next day. Virgo wants to make it official with RP.
RP wants to think about it. Virgo demands answer.
RP accepts b/c otherwise would feel slutty about having sex w/o
being in relationship.

Slow Motion. No sex for the next thrreeee monnnths.
Didn't turn out too bad. He won the black hole in my chest over.

Play. So after we started being intimate with each other, I finally
asked him what he thought all those months, had he been horny??

He responded with an "Of course I was horny!!"
Explained that he didn't want to pressure me into it and he didn't
want me to think that it was about sex. Which of course I already
knew that, otherwise I would have never had sex with him in the
first place.

This and other convos we've had leads me to believe that sex is
not the most important part of a relationship to a Virgo man.
It's more of a cherry on top... hmmm lol

Posted by hikoro
Perfect Gem Angel

What happened between you and your Virgo? If you don't mind saying.

You mention, "I got it ALL" but then you say he was a Don Juan type.

What do you mean?

I don't know if I should worry....but my Virgo has never ever done a push-pull type. So, I don't know if this is a good or a bad sign.
Since it seems it can reflect both depending on the circumstances.

Ahhh, I dont mind you asking at all. I call him Don Juan, because he would come at me "in relationship mode" and hang ten, things would be great and he would just disappear/ignore me.....started out shorter periods of time and grew longer, months. I was "waiting" for him to "do what he had to do" as far as be "ready" for the "relationship" that was forming "for me". He honestly came to me once and was honest enough to say "he was not ready" but he wanted to see me. WE as he expressed and I feel have a "connection, a connection he trusted and still did" ? Idk about now.
Honestly, I believe I hurt him w/out knowing while I honestly was trying to not be a REBOUND to his X-wife or become a "interference" to their marriage until it was officially over. I think he found this to be a "disloyal unexpected reaction/relationship violation" as I was trying to give him room to make sure, that indeed, a relationship is what he wanted from me. I never felt worthy of this man, I have my own insecurities and it was honestly the hardest thing I have ever done, I wanted so bad to just jump right into that "slot" and his arms and all that I still to this day truly adore, respect,cherish an love w/this one man.
His actions were those of a man who wanted his freedom, to sew his wild oats, as he said "he wanted to have sex like b 4 he was married" and he would tell me "no restraints, he had enough of that when he was married" well, i dont share.

We spoke just week or so ago, I could have ran into those arms again, now, I am scared, the hurt has been deep and long. I fell in love w/him a long time ago. As he said "more than sex sustains us" he said I was his confidant, friend, and on occasion lover.
I feel like I was a great piece of ass and when he wanted to feel something real he would call me and when he was full, off again he would go. I have never seen him but once face to face that we did not share intimacy. We have never had dinner, a date, a movie. We have talks, family, friends

I feel like I was a great piece of ass and when he wanted to feel something real he would call me and when he was full, off again he would go. I have never seen him but once face to face that we did not share intimacy. We have never had dinner, a date, a movie. We have talks, family, friends, kids, work, life.......love, where the future is going for he, sometimes me.

HIKORO
let me say this, from reading here, and living through it all. It would honestly seem to me, that a Virgo Male who is "evolved" as so many of them have stated to me, when he knows what and who he wants, pray HELL gets between them, he will NOT allow it. Once he KNOWS who he wants to be with, who his lady is, lady in waiting, she is his lady. No push pull seems to occur. So with that, I would say, you are in a much better relationship than I was experienced with/Virgo.
Its also not always a happy ending.......I learned so much, but most of all, I honestly learned what total, unconditional, unselfish, uninhibited, love, real love is for myself for another. I still love him to this day. COMPLETELY.

Below I will post Something So Beautiful

Something So Beautiful
I must say, this has taken some doing to realize and bring here to this blog.
I have experienced what I believe to be the most beautiful kind of love one can experience. There is a wonderful thing I shared w/another, totally comfortable, total love, open, honesty, sharing, caring, no limits, no boundaries, i would do anything for this person, literally anything. I found him to be honorable, noble, strong, confidant, capable, open, honest, and so much more, so much there are no words to describe what I felt about him, towards him, much less thought about him, found him to be. It was like no other love I have ever known. I was patient beyond what I thought capable, I had compassion for any possible reason needed or could be thought of, I was thoughtless and selfless in my emotional state towards him, found it un-interfering and inviting. I found it to be something I would totally surrender too w/out cause or actual reason, just knew what it was and it was good. I found a "higher love" than I had ever known before, and this was because of him. I was willing to wait forever for him, and he had no idea. None, no idea i felt as deeply as I did, nor that I felt the way I did, for this I did not put upon him, I accepted it for where I was and realized, he was not and that was okay. I stayed a course to be what IDK and was okay with that as well, listening to what he told me, understanding completely until it was beyond pain, enduring all of it and taking it all in, inside me, inside my head, my heart, my soul, taking it to GOD and leaving it at his feet, time after time after time. This was so much bigger than me and yet so much smaller than I knew I could handle it and what was in store for me and he. I somehow had this solid feeling, and expressed it to others, but never to the man who caused it inside me and within me. For he was not ready for it, or to be aware of it, or to hear it and somehow, i knew that, yet, it was he who actually expressed it to me. I said I would grow old w/this man, that I wanted too, I would marry him, something I never even did w/my girls father I spent 18 years with, and thought I would never do again, yet I never say never, I dont believe in it, LOL, and yet, I had expressed a forever deal to others, not the man who planted the seed that grew within me to be this bright beautiful thing to me, within me and comforted me in his absence in a way I can not describe. The comfort I felt with him, beside him,

(Something So Beautiful Cont.)
The comfort I felt with him, beside him, even while alone, something else I have never know before and yet find hard to describe, for the yearning to feel him physically was there, to hold me, yet I did not need that from him either, I somehow thought I had what I need as well. I lived this, I learned this and the experience of this, is something I would not have missed for the world. Like the song says, I could have done w/out the pain, but the dance, no, that is one dance I would have not wanted to miss, it was the most indelible impression life has left on me w/out the birth of a child or loss of a child or father.
To share this with you must be confusing, but what have I to do but share it?
Now it is tainted, it is not so beautiful and not untouched by human nature of destruction. Now it is but a memory in my mind and somewhere with lots of time. As my heart has been on the mend for sometime from what I thought was a friend, is now almost healed over and ready for another. I wonder if my future will ever be so bright or my nights so long or if I will ever feel a feeling, emotion, or bond so strong? IDK but I sure hope I do, for what I had with him, was totally brand new. I can only imagine what it will be like to feel that feeling with another guy and to be open to receiving it so rare in such a manner that someone will actually care, enough to show me and tell me and bring it all to view for not only me to see, but others to experience too. I cant foresee the future, but somehow I know, that GOD will again, make love like that only grow. With all of this I have found peace, and again my life is such at ease, I welcome to the world a brand new me, and all in all, I have been set free.
LDS 04-09
This i wrote over three months ago now, and this is my Virgo Love.

Mars in Cancer says enough (for me). Now mine has also Cparicorn Rising which makes him even slower.

thanks Shak.

(I like how your first reaction was to ask for his Mars)

Shaks, thanks so much for all of the great insight!