Working with and for a bunch of women is exactly like being back in high school if not worse!

Things have turned very dramafull at my workplace. People I thought were my friends and more than just coworkers had me fooled. (Shame on me). I’m old enough to know better.

There have been recent management changes at my job and that’s when things started going downhill. The Gemini assistant director has now become director after the old director was fired and a Scorpio coworker has moved up into the assistant director roll.

There are two women I work with who I thought were cool. A Capricorn who is fun to be around and awesome outside of the workplace, but sucks as a coworker because she is lazy and anyone who knows her will say the same thing. I should also mention that she is really close to the Gemini director and they recently found out they are family….like second or third cousins.

The other female I thought was cool is a Sagittarius who is also loads of fun and whom I’ve confided in and vented to on numerous occasions because she also confides and vents to me. Her, myself and the Capricorn female are all friends…..or so I thought. The Sag often vents to me about how she loves the Cap to death as a friend outside of work, but as a coworker she sucks because she is so damn lazy and she refuses to be her direct partner because she watched myself and the Cap work directly together for so long and how I did all the work and picked up the slack.

This Sag also vents to me often about the job, management, the drama going on and how she threatens to put in her two week notice daily because she can’t stand working there any longer. Everything she vents to me stays between her and I and I thought what I vented to her stayed between her and I as well. I even said to her on multiple occasions “please keep this between you and I” and she always swears it will. I should also mention that most of our venting to each other is through text.

I should also mention in the midst of all of this, the Gemini director and Scorpio assistant director have major power trips and it feels like they are trying to divide the staff and force us to pick sides….like either we are team director or team assistant director. I like them both as people and don’t want to be on one side or another, but it’s as if being neutral is forbidden! The Scorpio assistant director also is trying to get the Gemini director fired so she can take her job. She goes above her head reporting her to the regional manager all the time. Yet the regional manager and the director is close so everything that is being reported whether it’s truth or lies is getting back to the director by the regional.

Well the other day the Cap comes to me and says “you need to talk to the director!” I’m like ummm why? She tells me that a little birdie told her some things that you said about her, the job etc. and how you said you don’t get paid enough for this and is to the point of walking out.. She said the director was shown word for word what you said with time stamps and everything. I’m thinking the only person whom I said this to was the Sag! So for whatever reason she is showing these texts to the director or either she is showing them to the Cap and the Cap is relaying it to then director.

The Cap was like now you know the type of person the Sag is and you need to watch what you say around her. I’m thinking to myself not only did I vent to this Sag confidentially about the job, the boss, the drama etc. but I also vented to her about how lazy the Cap is so I’m 100% certain the Cap knows this too. I’m pissed because I sometimes have bad days and need an outlet to vent my frustrations and thought I could do that confidentially to the Sag, but now I see that I can’t. I’ve also noticed now that the Sag and Cap are super close. They will talk shit about each other behind each others backs, but yet are thick as thieves.

Also, the Cap told me that it was also told to the director that I threatened to go over her head and report her to the regional manager. I’m thinking wait a minute here…..those words I know for a fact NEVER left my mouth and I have never put that in a text to anyone so who is lying on me and why— The Cap told me I really needed to talk to the Gemini director because her feelings are really hurt and she thought you and her were cool with each other.

The only person I can think of who would tell the director I was going to report her to the regional manager would be the Scorpio assistant director because she will often come in my classroom talking shit about the director to me which I do not engage in and then she will say “you should talk to the regional manager about this and report these things.” It has been confirmed by other coworkers that she will twist information and people’s words.

Anyway, I did have a talk with the director to clear the air because I noticed she has been acting differently towards me. Not responding to my texts like she used to and just kind of avoiding me. Even after I talked to her things still are just not the same and I suppose they never will be.

It’s just sad how people you think are friends will go behind your back in an instant. Women are vicious and working at a place with nothing but women is pure torture and insanity. I no longer trust anyone there. They are all coworkers and bosses now and nothing more. I have no friends in the workplace. They don’t and can’t exist. I go there merely to get a job done and go home. I talk to no one unless spoken to. The Cap and Sag still try to be friendly to me and joke around, but it all feels so fake now and I don’t trust them so I’ll be cordial back, but I don’t engage further and I am colder. I sure as hell don’t confide or vent to either of them anymore as well as nobody else who works there. It’s just sad because I have bought both of these women lunches on numerous occasions, driven them home so they don’t have to pay for an uber (they both don’t have cars), bought them both nice birthday and Christmas gifts etc. But I’m done.

My sister worked at a bank for 20 years and it's her rule to almost never gossip about anyone at work. Even when everyone else is gossiping about someone she tells them she doesn't have any ideas, doesn't agree or disagree lol

But she vents daily/weekly to her friend /husband so vent to your family/friends/internet outside of work instead 😛 just get it out of your system and you will be fine. My sister vented , even cried for an hour sometimes and then went on her day like nothing happened 😂

If nobody else will tell you this, I will. Keep to yourself. Ain't nothing in this world say you gotta have friends. For this exact reason why I don't care to have friends, don't care to socialize, don't feel no kinship with people and don't care about people. Just do what your job calls for and mind your business. I'm the type I wouldn't mind bosses or whatever show me the ropes of the job, tell me what they need done and go about their business and leave me alone let me work alone to myself if there's something I don't understand I'll let them know. I thought you had done learn this lesson with your previous employment calling some of those folks over there your friends only to get betrayed and backstabbed. Yall got to learn people ain't no good especially if you an introvert. If you really and I mean truly introverted that's the mindset you WILL carry. No ifs ands and buts about it.

You didn’t lose friends. You learned that workplace venting is currency, and texts are receipts.

I’m sorry this happened but I’m surprised you haven’t experienced this sooner.

People try to get me to gossip at work and it goes like this:

Them: does it bother you when so and so tries to tells you how to do your job?

Me: I wouldn’t say it bothers me. I do appreciate their input but I do question it from an efficiency standpoint.

Embrace your inner politician and always give non answers that you can clarify later if asked, or walk yourself out of it

I would never know all of this is going on.

It looks like the Scorpio assistant director wants someone else to take the heat for her reporting.

But I'm this way in the workplace anyway. I never trust anyone, unless I know I can. Some people, you just know.

Quietly look for a new job. It’s time to blow this pop stand! I hate to say it but a woman’s worst enemy can be other women. Also, I’ve learned this about workplaces: just be cordial to all, but not friends with anyone. Just do your job and go home. Maybe look for social groups that you can join where you do activities of your hobbies/interests outside of your job to make friends.

Do you know any other details about the Sag’s chart like moon sign, mercury, etc.?

Posted by Bluemoon86
Quietly look for a new job. It’s time to blow this pop stand! I hate to say it but a woman’s worst enemy can be other women. Also, I’ve learned this about workplaces: just be cordial to all, but not friends with anyone. Just do your job and go home. Maybe look for social groups that you can join where you do activities of your hobbies/interests outside of your job to make friends.

Do you know any other details about the Sag’s chart like moon sign, mercury, etc.?

Sun Sagittarius 21°16'

Moon Leo 15°09'

Mercury Capricorn 11°18'

Venus Capricorn 20°40'

Mars Pisces 28°22'

Jupiter Virgo 18°12'

Saturn Cancer 11°13'

Uranus Aquarius 29°25'

Neptune Aquarius 11°09'

Pluto Sagittarius 19°49'

Lilith Gemini 4°01'

N Node Taurus 20°04