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Working with and for a bunch of women is exactly like being back in high school if not worse!
My sister worked at a bank for 20 years and it's her rule to almost never gossip about anyone at work. Even when everyone else is gossiping about someone she tells them she doesn't have any ideas, doesn't agree or disagree lol
But she vents daily/weekly to her friend /husband so vent to your family/friends/internet outside of work instead 😛 just get it out of your system and you will be fine. My sister vented , even cried for an hour sometimes and then went on her day like nothing happened 😂
But she vents daily/weekly to her friend /husband so vent to your family/friends/internet outside of work instead 😛 just get it out of your system and you will be fine. My sister vented , even cried for an hour sometimes and then went on her day like nothing happened 😂
If nobody else will tell you this, I will. Keep to yourself. Ain't nothing in this world say you gotta have friends. For this exact reason why I don't care to have friends, don't care to socialize, don't feel no kinship with people and don't care about people. Just do what your job calls for and mind your business. I'm the type I wouldn't mind bosses or whatever show me the ropes of the job, tell me what they need done and go about their business and leave me alone let me work alone to myself if there's something I don't understand I'll let them know. I thought you had done learn this lesson with your previous employment calling some of those folks over there your friends only to get betrayed and backstabbed. Yall got to learn people ain't no good especially if you an introvert. If you really and I mean truly introverted that's the mindset you WILL carry. No ifs ands and buts about it.
You didn’t lose friends. You learned that workplace venting is currency, and texts are receipts.
I’m sorry this happened but I’m surprised you haven’t experienced this sooner.
People try to get me to gossip at work and it goes like this:
Them: does it bother you when so and so tries to tells you how to do your job?
Me: I wouldn’t say it bothers me. I do appreciate their input but I do question it from an efficiency standpoint.
Embrace your inner politician and always give non answers that you can clarify later if asked, or walk yourself out of it
People try to get me to gossip at work and it goes like this:
Them: does it bother you when so and so tries to tells you how to do your job?
Me: I wouldn’t say it bothers me. I do appreciate their input but I do question it from an efficiency standpoint.
Embrace your inner politician and always give non answers that you can clarify later if asked, or walk yourself out of it
Posted by xyzabc
Women are vicious and working at a place with nothing but women is pure torture and insanity.
I would never know all of this is going on.
It looks like the Scorpio assistant director wants someone else to take the heat for her reporting.
But I'm this way in the workplace anyway. I never trust anyone, unless I know I can. Some people, you just know.
It looks like the Scorpio assistant director wants someone else to take the heat for her reporting.
But I'm this way in the workplace anyway. I never trust anyone, unless I know I can. Some people, you just know.
Quietly look for a new job. It’s time to blow this pop stand! I hate to say it but a woman’s worst enemy can be other women. Also, I’ve learned this about workplaces: just be cordial to all, but not friends with anyone. Just do your job and go home. Maybe look for social groups that you can join where you do activities of your hobbies/interests outside of your job to make friends.
Do you know any other details about the Sag’s chart like moon sign, mercury, etc.?
Do you know any other details about the Sag’s chart like moon sign, mercury, etc.?
Posted by Bluemoon86
Quietly look for a new job. It’s time to blow this pop stand! I hate to say it but a woman’s worst enemy can be other women. Also, I’ve learned this about workplaces: just be cordial to all, but not friends with anyone. Just do your job and go home. Maybe look for social groups that you can join where you do activities of your hobbies/interests outside of your job to make friends.
Do you know any other details about the Sag’s chart like moon sign, mercury, etc.?
Sun Sagittarius 21°16'
Moon Leo 15°09'
Mercury Capricorn 11°18'
Venus Capricorn 20°40'
Mars Pisces 28°22'
Jupiter Virgo 18°12'
Saturn Cancer 11°13'
Uranus Aquarius 29°25'
Neptune Aquarius 11°09'
Pluto Sagittarius 19°49'
Lilith Gemini 4°01'
N Node Taurus 20°04
Posted by xyzabcPosted by Bluemoon86
Quietly look for a new job. It’s time to blow this pop stand! I hate to say it but a woman’s worst enemy can be other women. Also, I’ve learned this about workplaces: just be cordial to all, but not friends with anyone. Just do your job and go home. Maybe look for social groups that you can join where you do activities of your hobbies/interests outside of your job to make friends.
Do you know any other details about the Sag’s chart like moon sign, mercury, etc.?
Sun Sagittarius 21°16'
Moon Leo 15°09'
Mercury Capricorn 11°18'
Venus Capricorn 20°40'
Mars Pisces 28°22'
Jupiter Virgo 18°12'
Saturn Cancer 11°13'
Uranus Aquarius 29°25'
Neptune Aquarius 11°09'
Pluto Sagittarius 19°49'
Lilith Gemini 4°01'
N Node Taurus 20°04click to expand
🤔 Interesting! Your moon and her moon is the same! You probably trusted her because of that, but she probably wanted a part of the drama at work, so she gossiped. My only explanation of it!
That's pretty normal from what I've experienced. Men do it too but way more discreet which ironically is even more feminine lol.
At one of my last jobs, I tried the opposite approach of delving deep into the gossip, so much so that people stopped telling me things, and I was so much more comfortable that way.
At one of my last jobs, I tried the opposite approach of delving deep into the gossip, so much so that people stopped telling me things, and I was so much more comfortable that way.
I went through this while working at papajohns at 16. No one is your friend at work. Don't tell anyone anything you wouldnt tell a group of a thousand strangers.
I have worked in an all female and an all male environment.
I will tell you this... men are FAR FAR worse they are way more gossipy way more nosey and way way more machiavellian.
You have no idea.
I work for a gaming company right now.. its all men the clients are all men... its way worse.
I will tell you this... men are FAR FAR worse they are way more gossipy way more nosey and way way more machiavellian.
You have no idea.
I work for a gaming company right now.. its all men the clients are all men... its way worse.
Posted by FuelAirPropellant
That's pretty normal from what I've experienced. Men do it too but way more discreet which ironically is even more feminine lol.
At one of my last jobs, I tried the opposite approach of delving deep into the gossip, so much so that people stopped telling me things, and I was so much more comfortable that way.
LMAO 💀
Posted by FuelAirPropellant
That's pretty normal from what I've experienced. Men do it too but way more discreet which ironically is even more feminine lol.
At one of my last jobs, I tried the opposite approach of delving deep into the gossip, so much so that people stopped telling me things, and I was so much more comfortable that way.
i know everyone thinks men with fire sign energies (not always sun) are super masculine and I don't disagree
but they also give off Real Housewives table-flipping energies ngl
personally, i've always been drawn to fanfics of the Black sisters (Harry Potter) as a kid coz i've always wanted to have sisters then later on got really into the Frozen fandom because that wish never really died for me. had 3 brothers (tho one of them died as a baby).
oh and i'm kinda sexist in reverse like if a dude told me some sob story vs. a lady, i'm more inclined to believe her. and i find attention-hoeing somewhat acceptable in a woman but disgusting on a man. also i had this phase in my late teens to early 20s where i kept encountering creeps so in revenge, i'd ragebait incels and i kid you not, i cannot sleep without leaving something subtly inflammatory against them- usually about hair loss 😆😆
the only women that clashes with me tend to be puppets of men (pickmes).
oh and i'm kinda sexist in reverse like if a dude told me some sob story vs. a lady, i'm more inclined to believe her. and i find attention-hoeing somewhat acceptable in a woman but disgusting on a man. also i had this phase in my late teens to early 20s where i kept encountering creeps so in revenge, i'd ragebait incels and i kid you not, i cannot sleep without leaving something subtly inflammatory against them- usually about hair loss 😆😆
the only women that clashes with me tend to be puppets of men (pickmes).
Posted by virgoOPPPPosted by FuelAirPropellant
That's pretty normal from what I've experienced. Men do it too but way more discreet which ironically is even more feminine lol.
At one of my last jobs, I tried the opposite approach of delving deep into the gossip, so much so that people stopped telling me things, and I was so much more comfortable that way.
i know everyone thinks men with fire sign energies (not always sun) are super masculine and I don't disagree
but they also give off Real Housewives table-flipping energies nglclick to expand
Yeah, they command attention. As an Air sign I see that as a weakness tho cause I can easily turn my attention on or off. But they prob see our passivity as lame as well. Each elements strength is super limited.
Posted by FuelAirPropellantPosted by virgoOPPPPosted by FuelAirPropellant
That's pretty normal from what I've experienced. Men do it too but way more discreet which ironically is even more feminine lol.
At one of my last jobs, I tried the opposite approach of delving deep into the gossip, so much so that people stopped telling me things, and I was so much more comfortable that way.
i know everyone thinks men with fire sign energies (not always sun) are super masculine and I don't disagree
but they also give off Real Housewives table-flipping energies ngl
Yeah, they command attention. As an Air sign I see that as a weakness tho cause I can easily turn my attention on or off. But they prob see our passivity as lame as well. Each elements strength is super limited.
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I don't know about that. It seem we air signs command that. Everywhere I go people take command especially in a small room full of people. I turn heads and dare I say I stop everyone in their tracks. Air signs has it bro. The introverted ones at best and we don't even have to say nothing to command attention.
Posted by FuelAirPropellant
That's pretty normal from what I've experienced. Men do it too but way more discreet which ironically is even more feminine lol.
At one of my last jobs, I tried the opposite approach of delving deep into the gossip, so much so that people stopped telling me things, and I was so much more comfortable that way.
The absolute worst demographic to work with is men or women in their late 50s who’ve been in unhappy marriages since their 20s.
With lots of females working together, there is bound to be lots of drama and gossip. It will always be that one or 2 immature ones.
I typed this up yesterday & saved it bc I wanted to vent in-depth with numerous anecdotes, but ive since lost steam. But im glad i now have some freedom to just up and leave problematic workplaces. Man that's one thing I hate about Dahlia who Pezz the Virgo is pressuring me to be friends with just bc shes open to it and its "only proper" that i have a friend. She quit her WFH job bc she has adhd and cant focus without the structure of an office. Cunt I would SLIT MY WRISTS for a WFH job where im not ravaged by respiratory viruses 4x a year and forced to work through it bc we're not given or discouraged from using sick time. I mean coughing and snotting all over the place is less embarrassing when no ones watching, plus the freedom of your own bathroom you can enter at leisure? Are you serious?
Anyway
"Management cultivates and nurtures these toxic cultures up the chain. Its funny when some piece of shit is allowed to reign terror in one dept or branch, then they transfer and are instantly fired. (That said its also happened to me at both of the organizations im speaking of, where the less toxic of the areas was the one to fire me-- but I dont speak enough to be some bully queen bee)
When a workplace makes you cry almost shiftly, its profoundly sick. And it can sound so dumb when you describe it from the outside, but the mk ultra tactics people can master at work are seriously impressive. I figure they have to be neglected at home to feel the need to pull this shit at work- thats usually the case when you see women wasting a lot of time creating unpleasant social interdynamics. Like how do you even have the energy is what I always want to know. Since my mid20s ive been exhausted every workday and wondered how tf my peers are motivated to be so mad at my parallel, silent existence."
Actually in some cases they were mad that I made fat shaming statements and sex abuse jokes at one point, but me doing that once and keeping to myself thereafter (plus trying to explain profusely and apologizing) doesnt mean its right for you to use your words as knives thereafter and treat me like im the ugliest swamp goblin.
Anyway
"Management cultivates and nurtures these toxic cultures up the chain. Its funny when some piece of shit is allowed to reign terror in one dept or branch, then they transfer and are instantly fired. (That said its also happened to me at both of the organizations im speaking of, where the less toxic of the areas was the one to fire me-- but I dont speak enough to be some bully queen bee)
When a workplace makes you cry almost shiftly, its profoundly sick. And it can sound so dumb when you describe it from the outside, but the mk ultra tactics people can master at work are seriously impressive. I figure they have to be neglected at home to feel the need to pull this shit at work- thats usually the case when you see women wasting a lot of time creating unpleasant social interdynamics. Like how do you even have the energy is what I always want to know. Since my mid20s ive been exhausted every workday and wondered how tf my peers are motivated to be so mad at my parallel, silent existence."
Actually in some cases they were mad that I made fat shaming statements and sex abuse jokes at one point, but me doing that once and keeping to myself thereafter (plus trying to explain profusely and apologizing) doesnt mean its right for you to use your words as knives thereafter and treat me like im the ugliest swamp goblin.
Posted by Jumpin_JupiterPosted by FuelAirPropellantPosted by virgoOPPPPosted by FuelAirPropellant
That's pretty normal from what I've experienced. Men do it too but way more discreet which ironically is even more feminine lol.
At one of my last jobs, I tried the opposite approach of delving deep into the gossip, so much so that people stopped telling me things, and I was so much more comfortable that way.
i know everyone thinks men with fire sign energies (not always sun) are super masculine and I don't disagree
but they also give off Real Housewives table-flipping energies ngl
Yeah, they command attention. As an Air sign I see that as a weakness tho cause I can easily turn my attention on or off. But they prob see our passivity as lame as well. Each elements strength is super limited.
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I don't know about that. It seem we air signs command that. Everywhere I go people take command especially in a small room full of people. I turn heads and dare I say I stop everyone in their tracks. Air signs has it bro. The introverted ones at best and we don't even have to say nothing to command attention.click to expand
Yup. I meant command as in forcefully. We don't force it. We don't need it either.
Posted by PilatesBodPosted by FuelAirPropellant
That's pretty normal from what I've experienced. Men do it too but way more discreet which ironically is even more feminine lol.
At one of my last jobs, I tried the opposite approach of delving deep into the gossip, so much so that people stopped telling me things, and I was so much more comfortable that way.
The absolute worst demographic to work with is men or women in their late 50s who’ve been in unhappy marriages since their 20s.
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Haha didn't think about that. I was working with one that fits in that range. So true.
Posted by FuelAirPropellant
That's pretty normal from what I've experienced. Men do it too but way more discreet which ironically is even more feminine lol.
At one of my last jobs, I tried the opposite approach of delving deep into the gossip, so much so that people stopped telling me things, and I was so much more comfortable that way.
You're such a bundle of laughs. Ironically that seems like a good strategy to keep HR off your back. If you say "No Sarah, making hateful comments about Jessica bc you think Travis is cheating on Leslie with her just makes you toxic and mean" is a one way ticket to HR
Source: general mills
Posted by MidAtBestPosted by FuelAirPropellant
That's pretty normal from what I've experienced. Men do it too but way more discreet which ironically is even more feminine lol.
At one of my last jobs, I tried the opposite approach of delving deep into the gossip, so much so that people stopped telling me things, and I was so much more comfortable that way.
You're such a bundle of laughs. Ironically that seems like a good strategy to keep HR off your back. If you say "No Sarah, making hateful comments about Jessica bc you think Travis is cheating on Leslie with her just makes you toxic and mean" is a one way ticket to HR
Source: general millsclick to expand
That's exactly what I would do. I would pin people against each other, mainly supervisors. I wasn't getting paid enough to take on that much responsibility. "Robert said to send it off this way, who's really in charge?"
Yeah I worked at the same type of factory you mentioned one time. I was the one in charge of the packaging line plus I was a floater for 2 other positions. I basically knew how to do everything except mixing and opening valves at the control room.
So I knew everyone and talked to absolutely everyone. It felt worse than highschool mixed with Dawson's Creek. I would get my work done too so no one could complain on that aspect
Posted by Textosmoon
I have worked in an all female and an all male environment.
I will tell you this... men are FAR FAR worse they are way more gossipy way more nosey and way way more machiavellian.
You have no idea.
I work for a gaming company right now.. its all men the clients are all men... its way worse.
You’re right, men are worse than women with gossiping, nosiness, and they are more Machiavellian. I think we see examples of that on Dxpnet crop up here and there.
Posted by Bluemoon86Posted by Textosmoon
I have worked in an all female and an all male environment.
I will tell you this... men are FAR FAR worse they are way more gossipy way more nosey and way way more machiavellian.
You have no idea.
I work for a gaming company right now.. its all men the clients are all men... its way worse.
You’re right, men are worse than women with gossiping, nosiness, and they are more Machiavellian. I think we see examples of that on Dxpnet crop up here and there.click to expand
I agree. 100%
The end justifies the means. Men can ruthless. But sometimes that gets things done and puts food on the table.
It been a political and power based world for thousands of years. That is how you put food on the table.
Men evolved to be that. The direct caveman thing is not correct. You need machiavellian cunning and guile to take game down.
Its not a bad thing. But its the truth. You just have to know how to harness that energy.
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